[Allheart]

My sister had an affair about 9 or 10 years ago. I did not find out about it until after the first go around with my husband. I was shocked because it is so out of character for her and I had always looked up to what she and her husband appeared to have. Her husband is a good man, great husband and great father. He did not deserve this. Just like I did not deserve it and anyone that has been effected by an affair doesn't deserve it. anyway...
she gave me a little insight of what she goes through on a daily basis being the one that stepped out.
She said that she tries to make things up to her husband everyday. By letting him know how much she loves him, how happy she is that he gave her a second chance. Doing things that let him know that she is trustworthy. SHE broke something and she feels it is up to her to fix it. She can never take for granted what she has - because of her actions - she almost lost everything. By the grace of God, she didn't.
I don't know if this makes sense to the original question - but I thought I would put it out there.

Now - it makes a lot of sense - a great deal of sense.

[Allheart]

You are so right everybody in the whole situation gets affected not only immediate family , but extended family and all friends.

When you are the " baddy" you just start to act reactive fighting everybody's reaction every day and just waiting to get to other end - I feel for them both i am a year on and in the throws of divorce and still feel that i am only half way there!

Interestingly enough my "ex husband" is all settled and living with his new lady while surprise surprise i am home alone.

They do say " what goes around comes around"

Louie - I hope the pieces come together for you. I truly do and they will.