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talaniman · Oct 15, 2015, 02:40 PM

LOL, wait until you have to tell someone "Let's just be friends."!

armyof1 · Oct 15, 2015, 03:02 PM

LOL. I had to do it to my last 2 long term relationships. BUT, I did do it over the phone. Not through text. Haha

armyof1 · Oct 26, 2015, 08:58 PM

So I took everyone's advice and gave her some space.
I text her tonight and said "Hey, just wanted to know if you wanted to get drinks sometime next week" she replied "Hey! Wait..drinks? I thought you don't drink? LOL"
I said "Well maybe I'll lemon water or just one drink. Haha" She said "Well you'll have to splurge on one as an late birthday celebration. I hope you had a great birthday by the way". I said "I did. Thanks. So drinks next week?'. She said "Yeah! Sure" That's good right?

Homegirl 50 · Oct 26, 2015, 11:44 PM

It's drinks not dating. Take it slow and for what it is.

J_9 · Oct 27, 2015, 12:44 AM

Originally Posted by armyof1

So I took everyone's advice and gave her some space.
I text her tonight and said "Hey, just wanted to know if you wanted to get drinks sometime next week" she replied "Hey! Wait..drinks? I thought you don't drink? LOL"
I said "Well maybe I'll lemon water or just one drink. Haha" She said "Well you'll have to splurge on one as an late birthday celebration. I hope you had a great birthday by the way". I said "I did. Thanks. So drinks next week?'. She said "Yeah! Sure" That's good right?

It's neither good, nor is it bad. It's just drinks. Don't read so much into it. Go with no expectations and just have a good time.

joypulv · Oct 27, 2015, 06:25 AM

Ditto to 'don't read so much into it.' Many times an ex (or space needer) is curious, such as how you celebrated your birthday, so they are just dabbling.
She could be lonely. That can backfire if she doesn't really want you back, but wants you sort of around until she finds someone, or doesn't mind being alone.

Again - you put too much belief in word-by-word conversations and descriptions. They mean NOTHING.
What IS meaningful is what 2 people learn about each other by talking on a more personal, in depth, soulful level. Not romantically in depth, but personal. The opposite of shallow. You can be new to a person and not TOO personal, but still share things about families, childhoods, and future dreams.

talaniman · Oct 27, 2015, 06:45 AM

I wouldn't get to excited until her actions matched her words, and having a Plan B for some social fun is always a great hedge for disappointment. To be honest I hate the texting thing and prefer to play phone tag to make a friend and keep it real.

I mean geez guy, she may seem willing but all you have is a promise and it's not like she has made time for you, or a firm commitment, so don't get all carried away by this. You have nothing to lose by staying on it though, HEHEHE... If your heart, AND EGO can stand the suspense!!!!!!!!!!

armyof1 · Oct 27, 2015, 06:58 AM

Yes, I'll take it easy with no expectations.