[talaniman]

Ignore him, and don't contact him at all. He didn't want to talk before, what's there to talk about now? When you break up, you leave the ex alone, and not just continue the argument.

[Mahiya1212]

Ignore him, and don't contact him at all. He didn't want to talk before, what's there to talk about now? When you break up, you leave the ex alone, and not just continue the argument.

I haven't broke up with him yet he has contacted me and I answered and he asked if I was still in a mood which I told him you know how I am and defo don't hold grudges so you can ethier be with me or no am not hanging about waiting for you its simple if you do then be with me propa if not go away and all he can say is I love you and will speak to you soon as am free from ma work so a just hungup! I need him to know he has hurt me over the years as I have feelings for him a want to chat2 him in a mature way because he doesn't like conflict but a feel he needs to know he has done bad so I want to speak an leave him but need to be able to tell him straight I trusted him and that I feel hurt and no longer want to be with him period so please some words of wise ?

[talaniman]

Harshness Warning.


You are one big wishy washy marshmallow. You want dignity respect and love with good treatment yet allow bad behavior and mistreatment. He knows what he is doing, and keeps doing it because you do nothing about it but emote and give in until next time.

Stop whining and complaining and actually demand respect, dignity, and good behavior or kick the immature jerk to the curb.

Sorry its not him, its YOU. Change it or forget it.

[Mahiya1212]

Harshness Warning.


You are one big wishy washy marshmallow. You want dignity respect and love with good treatment yet allow bad behavior and mistreatment. He knows what he is doing, and keeps doing it because you do nothing about it but emote and give in until next time.

Stop whining and complaining and actually demand respect, dignity, and good behavior or kick the immature jerk to the curb.

Sorry its not him, its YOU. Change it or forget it.

Maybe a just don't know how to demand that anymore I've said that I was not like this and this is why I asked for advise so stop being so harsh , those things really matterd to me and I've been lost in this love so just wanted to see if I'm really being stupid towards him or being in this relationship. On one hand you say demand respect and the other kick this immature ? Please without being harsh just tell me the words to say to him to demand that , that is all?

[Alty]

Maybe a just dont know how to demand that anymore Iv said that i was not like this and this is why i asked for advise so stop being so harsh , those things really matterd to me and iv been lost in this love so just wanted to see if im really being stupid towards him or being in this relationship. On one hand you say demand respect and the other kick this immature ? Please without being harsh just tell me the words to say to him to demand that , that is all?

You have to figure out the words to say. This is a relationship, not an exam. If you can't even talk to him, because you don't know what to say, that speaks volumes.

We can't write you a script. You have to decide what you're going to do, and then do it. If you stay, then stop complaining about the way he treats you, learn to live with it. If you decide to go, all you have to say is "I don't wan this anymore. Goodbye, and don't contact me". Then you stick to no contact and move on with your life.

There is no script for keeping a relationship, or leaving one. You really are going to have to put on your big girl panties and figure this out. I'm sorry, but this is up to you, and there's really nothing further we can do for you.

Good luck.

[Mahiya1212]

You have to figure out the words to say. This is a relationship, not an exam. If you can't even talk to him, because you don't know what to say, that speaks volumes.

We can't write you a script. You have to decide what you're going to do, and then do it. If you stay, then stop complaining about the way he treats you, learn to live with it. If you decide to go, all you have to say is "I don't wan this anymore. Goodbye, and don't contact me". Then you stick to no contact and move on with your life.

There is no script for keeping a relationship, or leaving one. You really are going to have to put on your big girl panties and figure this out. I'm sorry, but this is up to you, and there's really nothing further we can do for you.

Good luck.

Yes you are ryt. Can I ask what you mean by it speaks volume ?

[Alty]

Yes u r ryt. Can i ask wat u mean by it speaks volume ?

"It speaks volumes" is a common phrase. In this case it means that the fact that you're afraid to talk to him about this, that you come here to ask for us to write you a script, shows how far off this relationship is, how unhealthy it is. What you posted speaks volumes about your relationship. It makes things loud and clear.

[Wondergirl]

"It speaks volumes" is a common phrase. In this case it means that the fact that you're afraid to talk to him about this, that you come here to ask for us to write you a script, shows how far off this relationship is, how unhealthy it is. What you posted speaks volumes about your relationship. It makes things loud and clear.

And "it speaks volumes" that she can't let it go, can't stop the discussion, with US. Whatever we have said, she has an argument or a question and doesn't "get it," doesn't seem to understand what to do. Her relationship with us is just as unhealthy as it is with this guy.

[Mahiya1212]

You have to figure out the words to say. This is a relationship, not an exam. If you can't even talk to him, because you don't know what to say, that speaks volumes.

We can't write you a script. You have to decide what you're going to do, and then do it. If you stay, then stop complaining about the way he treats you, learn to live with it. If you decide to go, all you have to say is "I don't wan this anymore. Goodbye, and don't contact me". Then you stick to no contact and move on with your life.

There is no script for keeping a relationship, or leaving one. You really are going to have to put on your big girl panties and figure this out. I'm sorry, but this is up to you, and there's really nothing further we can do for you.

Good luck.

Yes you are ryt. Can I ask what you mean by it speaks volume ?

"It speaks volumes" is a common phrase. In this case it means that the fact that you're afraid to talk to him about this, that you come here to ask for us to write you a script, shows how far off this relationship is, how unhealthy it is. What you posted speaks volumes about your relationship. It makes things loud and clear.

I really appriciate your answers I just can't talk to anyone and your advise has been da most helpful thanku so much for it

[Alty]

I really appriciate ur answers i just can't talk to anyone and ur advise has been da most helpful thanku so much for it

You're welcome. I do have to ask. If my advice has been so helpful, why aren't you following it?

I'm married, I have been for almost 18 years. I met my husband when we were both 19. We've been together since then.

I have never had to ask someone "what should I say to my husband? How do I communicate with my husband". Do you know why? Because I have a healthy relationship. I can talk to my husband about anything. He's my best friend, my lover, the father of my children, my partner in every way. Not that we don't have problems at times. Every relationship does. But no matter what comes our way, we work it out.

That's a healthy relationship.

The fact that you can't even talk to him, without asking strangers what you should or shouldn't say, is very troubling.

This is not a healthy relationship. It's a relationship you need to get out of. Stop putting it off, stop worrying about the exact right words to say. All you have to say is "I'm done, good bye. Don't contact me and have a great life". That's it. Then you walk away and start working on getting yourself confidence back up. You don't have any self confidence at all. I don't know if that's because of you, just the way you are, or him. I have a feeling he has a lot to do with it.

So get rid of this dead weight, work on yourself, work on getting your confidence back, work on becoming a better you. Also work on not writing using text talk. I haven't said anything before, but it's really not okay to use text talk (texting abbreviations) on this site. It's actually against the rules. Also, when we see that sort of "language" we make assumptions of the person using it. Not good assumptions. Remember, we can only base our opinions on what you write, and when you write in text short hand, we don't usually come up with a good opinion. You can work on that. I'm sure you can. :)

Dump this guy, and start living for you, start making the changes in your life that you need to to get back your confidence. Don't you think you deserve to be with someone that will listen to you no matter what you say? That will love you unconditionally? That can be your best friend? I think you deserve that. Why do I think you deserve that, more than you do? That's not good. You should be your biggest fan, not some stranger you've never met. Right?

[Mahiya1212]

I couldn't agree with you more, your relationship seems healthy enough to fight through any trouble. I really felt that with this guy. I wanted advise because he has been telling me his behaviour is my fault . You are right about my confidence I even have spoke to him about this that I am scared to speak to him I have tried everything and I can assure that I did believe in him being my everything from my best friend to boyfriend but nothing has changed. To be honest he has really scared me to end it , I know how to tell if someone is treating me wrong but been blind and doubted myself to believe I am wrong. Its been really difficult for me but thank you so much for te advise you have given it means a lot as you have reminded me to put myself first and not take any disrespect. Thank you

[Alty]

You're welcome. Now stand up for yourself. You really do deserve better than this jerk. End it and get yourself back on track. Do it for you. If you can't love yourself, you have no chance at loving anyone else. This guy has made you question who you are, and made you afraid to even be who you are. That's not love. I've had enemies that treated me better than that.

Dump him and get yourself back on track. You can do it! You really can. Find that self respect you know you have. He hasn't take it all away from you, yet.

Let me know how it goes, and stay safe. You can do this.

[Mahiya1212]

You're welcome. Now stand up for yourself. You really do deserve better than this jerk. End it and get yourself back on track. Do it for you. If you can't love yourself, you have no chance at loving anyone else. This guy has made you question who you are, and made you afraid to even be who you are. That's not love. I've had enemies that treated me better than that.

Dump him and get yourself back on track. You can do it! You really can. Find that self respect you know you have. He hasn't take it all away from you, yet.

Let me know how it goes, and stay safe. You can do this.

Thank you and yes I will do

[Mahiya1212]

Hi he called me yesterday and he told me he will be going away for a day twice any way he was saying he will call me later and I told him not to ever call me again and hung up he called and I ignored did not contact him until again he phoned in the morning and I told him stop calling me am done and not to ever contact me . Do that's about it now I have not and will not contact him again

[Alty]

Hi he called me yesterday and he told me he will be going away for a day twice any way he was saying he will call me later and i told him not to ever call me again and hung up he called and i ignored did not contact him until again he phoned in the morning and i told him stop calling me am done and not to ever contact me . Do thats about it now i have not and will not contact him again

Good for you. It's going to be hard for the next little while, but stick to your decision, go out with friends, keep busy, and forget about him. You can do a lot better than this guy. :)