[C0bra_M3nace]

Right cobra, I've heard your advice so cheers for that. However, dont tell me that I should be ashamed. Im not ashamed of anything whether you like it or not. Im glad that's all you've got to say, because in the nicest way possible, your advice is doing no good. And you dont have a clue what my parents have done for me. They may be nice now, doesn't mean they always were.

No you're right I don't know. I don't know what it would have felt like either, but I did know someone probably much worse off than you. Is living at home really that bad that you don't feel you owe your parents anything?

[ScottGem]

Im not ashamed of anything whether you like it or not.

Actually, I think you are.

, i know having unprotected sex is stupid and irresponsible

That certainly sounds like you are ashamed to me.

[Hailey555]

Actually, I think you are.



That certainly sounds like you are ashamed to me.

Think what you like, but I know as a fact I'm not ashamed.

[Hailey555]

That certainly sounds like you are ashamed to me.

It doesn't mean I'm ashamed, it means I did something silly. Doesn't mean I'm ashamed of anything.

[Wondergirl]

It doesn't mean im ashamed, it means I did something silly. Doesn't mean im ashamed of anything.

You went for the instant gratification without considering the very real and possible consequences. Or, if you did momentarily think about them, you concluded with, "It won't happen to me." You're not different from any other teenager in the world, not even from us when we were teens.

Three Chicago area teens are dead today after a tragic car accident yesterday. They felt like they would live forever and took a chance that they never would have taken had they been older--and now they are lying in funeral homes. Most of us luck out when we make bad decisions and everything works out okay, but some of us don't get lucky. I hope you luck out and learn from this.

[C0bra_M3nace]

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Wondergirl again.

[ScottGem]

It doesn't mean im ashamed, it means I did something silly. Doesn't mean im ashamed of anything.

Do you regret it? Wish you hadn't done it? That's what being ashamed means.

[Hailey555]

Do you regret it? Wish you hadn't done it? That's what being ashamed means.

I don't regret having sex with my boyfriend because I care about him? And those teens who died is an absolute tragedy and I pray their families have the support they need. My sister died and I don't need you to tell me that not everyone is lucky. I don't know why everyone is giving me a freaking lecture, I just want some statistics and now I can't have any statistics, please just leave it.

[ScottGem]

I dont regret having sex with my boyfriend because I care about him?!

You are really in denial. If you really don't regret having sex, then you wouldn't be so upset about the possibility of being pregnant. Since pregnancy is a consequence of having sex, then one does not follow the other.

[Hailey555]

Oh just go away! Look, I might be pregnant, I might not be pregnant. Im sick of getting notifications about you! Im just going to wait it out like J_9 said, so please now stop posting because it's making me worse than I wad before

[Fr_Chuck]

Sorry if I say GOOD< perhaps something may get though to you about your actions. You seem to have or don't want to take any responsibility for your actions. Not understand the seriousness of what could happen. And will just keep making the same mistakes till they are pregnant if you are not now.

[C0bra_M3nace]

Sorry if I say GOOD< perhaps something may get though to you about your actions. You seem to have or don't want to take any responsiblity for your actions. Not understand the seriousness of what could happen. And will just keep making the same mistakes till they are pregnant if you are not now.

Thank you! The same thing has been on my mind the whole time. A part of me wants her to be pregnant so she can learn the hard way, because she seems to need to, but the other part of me wouldn't want to wish that on any 16 year old.

What's done is done though, and nothing can be taken back. It sure sucks, the world we live.

[Hailey555]

Wow you two are lovely

[Alty]

Hailey, I get your anger. You wanted someone to come along and say "Hey kid, don't worry, you're not pregnant, so go on with your happy life and don't give it another thought". No one can do that. The facts are, you had unprotected sex during a time when the majority of women are most fertile. Will sperm meet egg? Only time will tell. No one here can give you statistics. You either get pregnant, or you don't. Either way, you'll have to wait and see.

What you don't understand is that everyone that's responding to you is doing so because we have kids, we were kids, and you are a kid! The fact that you think that raising a baby is easy, or that you know anything about it, is scary. The fact that you had unprotected sex, knowing full well that you could get pregnant, is scary.

You may think you're mature, but really, you're not. You're like every other 16 year old I know. You're just like I was at 16. Screw the consequences, live for the moment, and whatever happens, no big deal. Someone else will take care of it.

I know you didn't want the lectures, but kiddo, you need them. I wish someone had given me the advice I've read on this thread when I was 16.

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. In other words, sometimes you have to say "You're wrong, you're not mature, you are making a huge mistake, you're playing with your life", and if the poster doesn't like it, at least you know you did the best you could to make them see the light.

I wish I could give you peace of mind, but I can't. There's a chance that you're pregnant. Those are the facts. Are you? Don't know. You have to wait, just like every other woman on this Earth in the same situation. You did increase the odds of pregnancy considerably, but hopefully you got the empty chamber in this round of Russian roulette.

Learn from this. Read the posts as the mature 16 year old you claim to be. Better yet, if you are pregnant, and you have a daughter, and raise her. What advice would you want strangers giving her if she thinks she's pregnant at the age of 16? Can you think that far ahead? One day you will. Hopefully not 9 months from now.

Good luck. I hope that you dodge the bullet this time. I really do.

[C0bra_M3nace]

**Applauds Alty**

[Hailey555]

Thanks for everyone's advice. I didn't want people to come alone and say Hailey your definitely not pregnant, I wanted the truth and some statistics. And your all good at telling me the truth so thanks, it's the statistics your not so good with. You say there are no statistics that can help me but J_9 who does this for a job day in and day out said it's 50/50. So he was very helpful, I didn't therefore need you to keep chipping in. But thanks for your time. If anyone has any more statistics that can help me, please tell me because I really only know that I have to wait and I just wish I had more information so I would appreciate some HELPFUL advice:)

[C0bra_M3nace]

Thanks for everyone's advice. I didn't want people to come alone and say Hailey your definately not pregnant, I wanted the truth and some statistics. And your all good at telling me the truth so thanks, it's the statistics your not so good with. You say there are no statistics that can help me but J_9 who does this for a job day in and day out said it's 50/50. So he was very helpful, I didn't therefore need you to keep chipping in. But thanks for your time. If anyone has any more statistics that can help me, please tell me because I really only know that I have to wait and I just wish I had more information so I would appreciate some HELPFUL advice:)

I know how you are feeling with the statistics, you want something to soothe your brain so you can sleep well at night, but reality is there is no real statistic sweetheart. There are many factors that can contribute, whether it be your fertility, whether the sperm made it to the egg or not and the list goes on and on.

All you can know for sure is that you have a real chance of becoming pregnant, an waiting is all you can do, only time will tell now.

I'm deeply sorry for offending you and aggravating you in the way I did. I truly care about the people who post on this website asking for advice, whether it's for statistics, help with a problem, or even advice on how to deal with something. Having said that, everything I said was to genuinely help you, whether you wanted to hear it or not. This is a very real issue you have that can change your life forever, and if you are pregnant I don't want you to be hurt and let down if everything that follows does not meet your expectations.

I wish you the best, I really do, and I hope if you have any more issues or concerns you think of us.

[Hailey555]

'cobramenace' I'm really sorry for being rude to you, as you can imagine I'm seriouuusly stressed and everything anyone says is getting to me. I really shouldn't have taken it out on you as you were just trying to help, I'm sorry and thank you

[C0bra_M3nace]

'cobramenace' im really sorry for being rude to you, as you can imagine im seriouuusly stressed and everything anyone says is getting to me. I really shouldn't have taken it out on you as you were just trying to help, im sorry and thankyou

You have no need to appologize, I very much realize the stress you are going through, I've been in similar situations myself. I truly hope everything works out for the best, pregnant or not. If you are not I hope you have learnt a valuable lesson from this experience, but I believe you have.

Sincerely,
-Justin

[Hailey555]

You have no need to appologize, I very much realize the stress you are going through, I've been in similar situations myself. I truly hope everything works out for the best, pregnant or not. If you are not I hope you have learnt a valuable lesson from this experience, but I believe you have.

Sincerely,
-Justin

Thank you Justin,
As hard as it may be for everyone to believe, I do appreciate you commenting so thank you ha:)
Hailey H