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    Apr 13, 2012, 10:33 AM
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    if you cannot text and go about your business, then don't text, or return her texts. NO CONTACT is what you need because your feelings for her are in the way of being a good friend, and you have a false interpretation of her words, and ignore her actions.

    You cannot see her as just a text BUDDY can YOU? Thats why you need a healthy dose of NC!!! A year should do it.
    I hate repeating myself, and I really do hate to be right, or proved to be right, because I have been through what you are going through. Its confusing hurtful, and just plain sucks.

    Do the right thing and start NO CONTACT immediately, disappear from her life, and ignore forever any contact she makes (If she does), and HEAL, like you were told a long time ago.
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    Apr 13, 2012, 11:06 AM
    Yes I know your right but, I don't understand if she doesn't want to no. Why hasn't she deleted herself from my web page. So u know why I feel like this. Or is she waiting for me to back right iff to give her time. Its very hard because I will be seeing her when we start racing. So when that happens should I give back the cold shouder. Part of me wants to give her a price off my mind. Because she said what she wants to say, but haven't gave me the time of day to say how I feel I'm lost.com thanks again buddy

    Yes I know your right, there's plenty my fish in the sea. Im going to start right now. Thanks again.
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    Apr 13, 2012, 08:44 PM
    One of the first signs of confusion, and desperation is asking what's on an individuals mind. Actually you are trying to understand why people do what they do, and I have to tell you that's a mystery even to them sometimes. Maybe she is playing a game, as confusion is also a tool of manipulation.

    Whatever the reason, no matter what the game is or the thinking behind it, ALWAYS be prepared to follow your own path, and have your own plan. Do not follow whatever she is up to. This are the things that trigger old feelings and thoughts, and adds hurt and confusion.

    NO CONTACT is your protection, and safety net to eliminate confusion, and gain control over intense feelings of attraction. Then you can make choices based on facts, and not just those intense, confusing feelings.

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