[jmjoseph]

You'll be over him in no time. Move on.

Make new friends. Study. Exercise.
Get a new hobby. Do anything but sit around thinking of who he's with, and what they're doing.

You both are too young to be having problems of this sort. Don't make the same mistake that his other girl did.

And for him to post pictures on the internet, is both immoral and illegal. You should be extremely mad at him about that. That's here FOREVER .

Your parents are smart. Listen to them.

[kiewiebeauty]

Iknow thank you :)
And your correct because I want to be a teenager and live my young years and not be dragged to grow up early

[Shadowburn]

Maybe moderators could merge all OP's threads in one, because as much as I want to help, I can't keep up anymore - and make a sticky reminder to all newbies starting to post here just keep it all contained and do not start 5 more threads on basically the same subject?

Thank you!

[Homegirl 50]

This boy's life is a mess and I'm sure he has made your life a mess. What kind of love is it that he has for you when he post nude pictures of you on the Internet?

You have very low self esteem if you are wanting someone like this in your life.
This boy does not love you, if he did he'd be with you. You don't need him in your life any way.
Do things with your friends, get a life apart from him. Don't continue to degrade yourself with this foolishness.

[Jake2008]

He's dumped you 10 times in four months, he's posted naked pictures of you on the internet, he has a child with another 'woman' of likely his age, which is 17?

Love may be blind, but this is just ridiculous!! I'm not so sure that you realize what you are saying- how old are you?

[kiewiebeauty]

I'm 16

[Homegirl 50]

To be dumped 10 times in 4 months is unreal. You were never a happy couple long enough for anything good to happen.
Were you just hard up for a boy friend? Why in the world would you continue to go back to someone like that?

This guy is bad news. He has enough drama attached to him that will last a life time. You have a lifetime ahead of you.
Consider yourself lucky he is gone and get over this sick infatuation, because that's what this is.

[kiewiebeauty]

Harsh ! But so true thank you girl xx

[kiewiebeauty]

He dumped me 10 times in 4 months we been together!
He hacks into my account and looks through old messages that I had with recent boyfriends in my past and then gets angry at me, even though it was before I met them !
He goes through my contact list on Facebook and msn and deletes all the guys and decides who I can be friends with !
He then has the nerve to call me jealous and that I'm ruienin the relationship , when he's chattin to other girlsand calling them babe and puts kisses to them and I just ask who is she ? He then goes mad at me saying yoursoo jealous !
He then asks me who's that why you puttin kisses to them , I though if there no problem in him duing it then I can I guess, but he can't handle it!
He says things like I'm the girlfriend from hell and that IM the one who need to CHANGE, and I'm the one ruienin the relationship !
He would go mad at me if I'm not available everyday to see him! he will arrange things without asking if I'm available !

He asked me to marry him 4 times! Inbettween the break ups even straight after a break up sometimes !
I obviously turned him down becauseim 16 and he's 17 with a kid from another girl!
He went mad saying you don't love me if you did you would marry me, I told him I don't want to rush things and that why would he want to marry me so young and if he keeps breaking up with me!
Anyway I got sick of all this controlling it got too much even my family started to notice he wasn't treating me well because my dad had to pick me up countless times where I was crying and wanted to come home !
He would tell me I would be nothing without him and I need him !
He played with my emotions but I couldn't seeit at first but then people started pointing it out and inoticed I was changing who I am asa person for him! When its his problem!
But he would make me apologise for something I never did!
He never apologised to me even if he knew something was his fault!
Last Monday we split up becausei told him I would not be controlled anymore and I deserve to be treated better!
Becausei didn't cry and wasn't running back to him he then started saying he cheated when he actually didn't but he later told me he said it to hurt me even the girl he said he slept with fell out with him because she said she never and he made that poor girl look a slut!
Anyway afew hours after the argument I got a text from a friend asking what them pictures are about, I didn't know what pictures they wer talking about, I tried logging into my account and he had hacked into not only my Facebook but my email too!
He hadposted explicit private photosof me giving out my info and saying "if anyone wants me im here " basically advertising me!
Well I was in tears! And he went back to his baby mother saying he didn't love her he just needed her to get over me :S! Which isn't fair on her, because she still likes him and he's using her !
I called the police and he's nowon an offender list because he's done things in his past too !
He them messaged me saying he loves me !
I said tell me the truth and if you don't I will walk away !
He won't tell me the truth because he wants to leave me hanging on by sending me messages saying " i want you, i need you, im inlove with you "
My parents hate him so it would never work but he's emotionall abusing me he's leaving me hanging and is stopping me from moving on!

Anyway the question I want to ask is...
Is it me with the problem , and I was the worst girlfriend and I ruiend it?
OR
Is it him with the problem but doesn't want to admitt it so he puts the blame on me, even though he verbally and emotional abuses me?

Honest opinions pleasee
Thankyouu
:) xx

[Cat1864]

This needs to be merged with your other questions on this topic.

[redhed35]

You move keep moving on and don't look back,go complete no contact.

He has a lot of issues at ayoung age,while your just young.

His controlling nature will not improve unless its nipped in the bud now,however that's no concern of yours now.

You learned, hopefully a valuable lesson with this guy,and one I do hope you don't entend repeating.

Do your own thing,hang out with your friends,have fun for petes sake!

Plenty of time for serious relationships in a few years.

[kiewiebeauty]

He dumped me 10 times in 4 months we been together!
He hacks into my account and looks through old messages that I had with recent boyfriends in my past and then gets angry at me, even though it was before I met them !
He goes through my contact list on Facebook and msn and deletes all the guys and decides who I can be friends with !
He then has the nerve to call me jealous and that I'm ruienin the relationship , when he's chattin to other girlsand calling them babe and puts kisses to them and I just ask who is she ? He then goes mad at me saying yoursoo jealous !
He then asks me who's that why you puttin kisses to them , I though if there no problem in him duing it then I can I guess, but he can't handle it!
He says things like I'm the girlfriend from hell and that IM the one who need to CHANGE, and I'm the one ruienin the relationship !
He would go mad at me if I'm not available everyday to see him! he will arrange things without asking if I'm available !

He asked me to marry him 4 times! Inbettween the break ups even straight after a break up sometimes !
I obviously turned him down becauseim 16 and he's 17 with a kid from another girl!
He went mad saying you don't love me if you did you would marry me, I told him I don't want to rush things and that why would he want to marry me so young and if he keeps breaking up with me!
Anyway I got sick of all this controlling it got too much even my family started to notice he wasn't treating me well because my dad had to pick me up countless times where I was crying and wanted to come home !
He would tell me I would be nothing without him and I need him !
He played with my emotions but I couldn't seeit at first but then people started pointing it out and inoticed I was changing who I am asa person for him! When its his problem!
But he would make me apologise for something I never did!
He never apologised to me even if he knew something was his fault!
Last Monday we split up becausei told him I would not be controlled anymore and I deserve to be treated better!
Becausei didn't cry and wasn't running back to him he then started saying he cheated when he actually didn't but he later told me he said it to hurt me even the girl he said he slept with fell out with him because she said she never and he made that poor girl look a slut!
Anyway afew hours after the argument I got a text from a friend asking what them pictures are about, I didn't know what pictures they wer talking about, I tried logging into my account and he had hacked into not only my Facebook but my email too!
He hadposted explicit private photosof me giving out my info and saying "if anyone wants me im here " basically advertising me!
Well I was in tears! And he went back to his baby mother saying he didn't love her he just needed her to get over me :S! Which isn't fair on her, because she still likes him and he's using her !
I called the police and he's nowon an offender list because he's done things in his past too !
He them messaged me saying he loves me !
I said tell me the truth and if you don't I will walk away !
He won't tell me the truth because he wants to leave me hanging on by sending me messages saying " i want you, i need you, im inlove with you "
My parents hate him so it would never work but he's emotionall abusing me he's leaving me hanging and is stopping me from moving on!

Anyway the question I want to ask is...
Is it me with the problem , and I was the worst girlfriend and I ruiend it?
OR
Is it him with the problem but doesn't want to admitt it so he puts the blame on me, even though he verbally and emotional abuses me?

Honest opinions pleasee
Thankyouu
Xx

[Homegirl 50]

Do you really need advice? Go back and read all of your threads. Surely you can see this is a messed up situation.
If one of your friends came to you with this what would you tell her?
You're 16 years old, there is no reason dating should have this much drama attached to it.
Do not have any contact with this guy in any way shape or form. You will heal, you will get over this mess.

[Shadowburn]

Kiewie, please continue to post in one single thread. By the way, you've got some excellent responses to all of your questions. Go back, print them out and read them all over until it all sinks.

[kiewiebeauty]

Forget the rest this question is everything allin one I will try and delete the rest

[crazychick56]

Of course this is his problem. It is all common sense. LIke Shadowburn says, go back and read over this. I'm pretty sure after reading that several times it's clear he has some issues. There are just people like that in the world. You have to be able to tell them apart from everyone else, in which this case is loud and clear. Just think about it.
I hope you can mentally recover from this. Hope all is well.
-Crazychick.

[Just Looking]

I have a request for you that I think will not only help you but will help us. You have repeated your question several times, even after receiving great advice. Will you now write a post about the things you have learned about yourself and how you can or will deal with this issue? If you have determined what you want (in a guy or in life) in the future, that would also help. I'm not looking for you to repeat what we have told you, though. I'm asking that you tell us in your words what you will do and what you have figured out about the relationship. Don't write what you think we want to hear, but rather write from your perspective what you will do and what you have learned. It might open some new questions for you, which would be helpful. Asking the same questions multiple times is not helpful.

[Kitkat22]

Frankly if you dress in public as you do in you in your avatar you are sending the wrong message.
Maybe this is why he's jealous and doesn't trust you.

You are sixteen and you are trying to grow up too fast. You have a lot of issues with this guy and if he has a child you don't need to even think of marriage at your age.

The sexy dressing and flirting is going to drive any guy away after a while. No one wants guys thinking negative and unflattering thoughts about the girl they're with.
Think about it.

[Enigma1999]

Hello Kiewiebeauty,

I think perhaps it's both of your problems. I think that there is too much jealousy on both parts. Too much nonsense going on.

You guys seem to have a very argumentative and toxic relationship.

Perhaps you are better off just being friends.

At 16, I wouldn't be so concerned with guys. I think you should focus on your studies, and college future plans, and your friends and family.

There will be plenty of time in the future for men.

Good luck.

[Homegirl 50]

He has a problem but you also have one if you don't see that this relationship is just full of drama and is toxic. You have a problem if you don't see that this guy does not love you. Love does not do what he has done to you. Why you would even go back to a guy who has dumped you ten times is beyond me.
You both have a problem.

Please stop starting threads about the same guy. It's quite confusing and unnecessary