Is he just not that into me?

Twinks2388 · Jul 18, 2010, 01:23 PM

Originally Posted by kitkat22

both of you need to step away and give each other some space.
Try iy with nc and see what happens.

In all honesty i think he will never be able to let this go. If you stay together it will be there and he will always wonder.

Nc?

Kitkat22 · Jul 18, 2010, 01:26 PM

Originally Posted by Twinks2388

nc?

No Contact. No texting.. no FaceBook.. No phone calls... Absolute avoidence of each other

ISneezeFunny · Jul 18, 2010, 04:07 PM

It seems that you two are asking each other questions where neither one of you wants to know the answers to... and in an attempt of hiding it, you two lie about it to one another.

I'm not saying that you guys lie to each other all the time, I'm simply stating that lying, especially to your significant other, gets you nowhere.

I would suggest, along with giving each other a little space (it seems that just talking about it at this time will only result in more argument), when thinking about asking something, ask yourself if you REALLY want to know the answer, good or bad. When asked a difficult question that you don't feel comfortable answering, ask him if he really wants to know the answer, good or bad.

talaniman · Jul 19, 2010, 05:36 AM

Sometimes finding answers to our questions is more about paying attention than asking them and pushing for an answer.

This is a very new relationship, and adjustments have to be made, so start with honesty. I think your already seeing signs of how he deals with issues, and you also for that matter. You could have just told him you don't yet trust him enough with your private personal business, but I suspect he is a bit insecure about himself, and your feelings for him.

Actually that's quite normal in a new relationship, struggling to understand their partner, and establish communications. This is what makes or breaks many relationships, the inability to express themselves honestly, so you can work together, to resolve issues to the benefit of you both.

Or show you that you can't work well together. Pushing to hard to soon, will destroy what little you do have so learn to back up, and rethink your approach.

vanheart · Jul 19, 2010, 08:01 PM

Do want hookups or a partner?

You create reasons for jealously, then question why.

Trust is an issue now if not before.

If you want this, then be serious & talk or get on.

"don't need this in my life do you want to be with me'' (An honest question)

Hes right, he probably doesn't need a liar in his life.