[vanheart]

More importantly, show yourself how strong can be.

[vanheart]

Hey don't worry about explaining anything.
Its too late.

Like you say, she (maybe) with someone, hence its over yo. Who cares? Her?

Use those thoughts to help better yourself & figure out who's deserving of you once you heal from this.

[vanheart]

Hey godspeed,

One more thing.

There will come a day when you no longer care about her in the same way. Weird, but true.

Im saying this from what Ive gone through. Not a bad thing. Just a thing.

Get right with yourself, find value in what's good now, friends, etc.. The things that are true and have been. Good things.

And new ones.. New ventures.

[amicon]

You owe her no show of strength,only be strong for yourself and find your own happy place. You're getting there so stop worrying about her thoughts they're of no consequence now.

[godspeed]

The thoughts of patching back still circles in my mind. I am maintaining NC for like 2weeks plus now. The past 2 days I've been thinking about her. Planning on a way to start small talks with her.

It may sound dumb. Should I go ahead with this? Our so-called 5th anniversary is one week away.. haha..

[vanheart]

Yeah, dumb.

[vanheart]

Instead, celebrate 2+ weeks of NC & being away from from someone that doesn't want you any longer.

Its been a year since you broke up, right?

[godspeed]

Yeap, it's been a year. Now I'm not sure if she doesn't wants me anymore, if she doesn't want me, she wouldn't be checking on my Facebook and my website every now and then. Am I confusing myself with this minor details vanheart?

I mean I just want to find out what is she thinking about me now.

[vanheart]

She's thinking you are no longer her boyfriend after a year. And doesn't put any effort worrying about it.

Stop wondering & searching for sh$$t. Trying to see inside her head.

What are you still thinking about? And want?

C'mon, man. After a year apart you are still wondering?

Cut this Facebook & myspace hunting & get on. Meet some new people instead of wasting your precious time one this one person.

Its on the verge of insanity.

Insanity=Doing the same thing over & over with no results.

[vanheart]

Plus, If I remember this right, she develops crushes on any new guy she meets.

What's the question again?

[godspeed]

Insanity, that's a powerful eye-opener man.. haha.. I got to stop worrying about this small things and look at the bigger picture. Then I better concentrate on my workouts than this things. If she wants to, she can always talk to me right. But she isn't. It's always me who does the initiating process.

[vanheart]

Well, that's a major problem there.

Initiating something that will never happen again.

My advice is to have zero contact from now on. After, all its not serving you one single bit. Is it?

Only more indecision & weirdness.

Why are you so concerned if she wants to talk to you?

Hard for me to understand.

She dumped you a year ago, fancies anything that comes along and you are still hanging on? Geez, buddy...

Change your post from "Stuck in the past" to "On to the future" or better yet "Living in the incredible now"

Ya, know. What feels good?

Not obsessing about this user.

[vanheart]

godspeed,

I just want you to know that we are all here because of this.

You need a slap in the face. And we are here to give it to you.

Just like the ones I got, whether its kind or harsh.

After a bit, I was begging for that one slap that would push me over the edge. No matter if it was from myself or someone else.

I guess all I am trying to say is, don't waste anymore time on her.

Take a look at yourself in the mirror.

Why are you doing this? Who are you?

[godspeed]

Thanks for the awakening vanheart. I need slaps like these from time to time.. :)

[amicon]

You can always come back for more slaps, :-) but it'll be good when you update that you're over this!

[godspeed]

Perhaps a new relationship could help..? I've been getting a few prospects, but I'm taking my time..

[amicon]

Any relationship you start without having healed from your breakup will be a rebound.
That's unfair to the other person.
Get to know more people,socialize and be happy again,and when you're completely over the ex start dating again.

[godspeed]

Guys, If I come back here asking opinions to reconcile and the likes, please slap me. I deserve it well.

I learnt one thing. Some girls, just want to forget their ex and get someone new. Been going through these things for a few days, some of my girl friends come up to me, saying that their exes are asking to get back with them, but they are not interested in that proposal. They'd rather go for someone new, rather than someone they know quite well. Maybe that's how things work.

As the saying goes, if you can't beat them, you join them. And for now, I'm going to the gym for a new me for ME..

[godspeed]

When I ask them why not patch things up with their exes, they tell me the same thing that my ex told me. Maybe girls are the same, or I'm just meeting eggs from the same production batch.. :p

[vanheart]

It doesn't matter. Don't try to figure it all out. It will give you a migraine.

Dumpers dump with an agenda.

Your agenda now is to heal, learn & move on to better things.