[talaniman]

I just keep going back to square one and having to recover again which ain't much fun.

No contact from you and if you stick to it you don't have to go back to square one.

[Skell]

You are letting her manipulate her.
Don't answer her calls. Don't call her. Don't text her.

The longer you keep on answering her and let her play you the longer it will bne for you to get over it.

Please just cut all contact now. Why do you need to talk to her tonight. There is nothing to say. You aren't together anymore so what is the point of continuing to talk and see each other. It is clkearly making it harder for you.

And if the dog lives with you well that's too bad. She can't see it when your around.

I lost one of my dogs when my ex broke up with me. Id like to see her but I cant. It is just the way it has to be!

[tdmce]

Hi everyone,

I was doing so well, have made some new friends, flatmates are good and have only heard from ex when she wants to come and see the puppies, that was until this Friday that has just been. My flatmate invited round 2 of her female friends and then my ex showed up with one of her female friends to see the puppies, well these other two girls went down to check out what my ex looked like while I was upstairs. The next day I get a text from my ex's friend saying 'Puppies are beautiful, those skanks are not, you need better friends like meee'. Then I got another text after not replying saying "did you catch anything from them?". Silly me replied saying "don't think so" I guess to make it seem like I was having fun and moving on.

Anyway that night I knew my ex wld be going to the 3yr celebration of our local pub being open, her other friend dates the owner. I decided I shouldn't go and went to a 21st in town, there were so many beautiful ladies there, but I just couldn't bring myself to even just chat to them. All I was thinking of is "wonder who my ex was scoring" and didn't really enjoy my night out.

The next day I sent her a text asking how her night was, about 2 hours later she replied, was really good, really busy and that was it. Which as predicted made me feel worse by contacting her, because I wondered why she took so long to text back and it made me think maybe she was with somebody new...

So I spent most of yesterday right back at square one, felt like I would never be able to move on, felt like I really wanted her back, felt lonely etc. Went and visited my family and some friends, but just felt lost the entire day. Last night I hardly slept and now I'm at work and can hardly get anything done. So this is a good reminder to others why you don't break NC rule unless you can handle the conseqences.

I got some relief reading Wap's posting about how she is finally getting better and getting asked out on dates etc, it kind of gives me hope that eventually I will be back to my normal happy self.




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[tdmce]

Damn I'm still hung up on this girl, even though I know it is for the best that she is single. I'm just not letting her go, I don't think I've accepted that it's over still and probably for good.

[talaniman]

So this is a good reminder to others why you don't break NC rule unless you can handle the conseqences.

Thanks for posting that, it took a lot of courage. Just dust yourself off and start all over. I really feel you have learned a valuable lesson.

[J_9]

You need to accept the fact that it is over.

You keep taking one step forward and two steps back. That is a viscious cycle that will prevent you from meeting the gal who is actually right for you. No Contact means NO CONTACT. If you cannot follow that rule you will repeat this cycle over and over. Also, how do you think it makes her think about you? Do you think it makes her respect you? She is moving on, you have to let her. I know it is hard, but if you keep contacting then she may get the "stalker" feeling. That would make her think much less of you.

Get her numbers off your phone, make yourself inaccessible to her.

You realize you are only doing this to yourself?

[tdmce]

I know, definitely have gone back a few steps! Just feel like crap today. I'll go back on the NC medication and start the healing process all over again.

[J_9]

Sounds great. You know what to do, it's just hard to do it sometimes.