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lencheski · Jun 2, 2009, 04:09 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I say take the simple approach. Ask him if he would like to meet for coffee. You drive and meet him there, heck pay for his coffee. He either will or he won't. If he says yes, look at it as an informal "getting to know you" Nothing more than that. Don't expect anything but that. You should know whether or not you two click on any other level , other than just flirting.

I think that if when my daughter's been out of school for at least a couple of days, I will ask him if there were any reason why he hasn't asked me out yet?

Or

I think I will wait the couple of days and ask him for coffee to talk about other things.

Homegirl 50 · Jun 2, 2009, 04:19 PM

Originally Posted by lencheski

I think that if when my daughter's been out of school for at least a couple of days, I will ask him if there were any reason why he hasn't asked me out yet?

or

I think I will wait the couple of days and ask him for coffee to talk about other things.

Either one sounds like a good plan of action.
Good luck!!

talaniman · Jun 2, 2009, 04:20 PM

I will ask him if there were any reason why he hasn't asked me out yet?

I think I will wait the couple of days and ask him for coffee to talk about other things.

Today is as good as Friday.

lencheski · Jun 2, 2009, 04:23 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Today is as good as Friday.

I have to wait till she's out of school... then she is no longer her guidance counselor...

BTW-I'm nervous as hell!

lencheski · Jun 3, 2009, 07:44 PM

Sailormark,

Thank you very much. I appreciate your statement. Hopefully, tickle will understand. It is truly regretable but I cannot change it, and after I told my friend Lori what she had done, she felt horrible.

In fact, she sulked the whole group, and she's the other facilitor of our group...

But again... thank you for your support. I wish to be able to stay on and continue using this site.

After looking at prior responses, I hope others see the same thing.

Lencheski

SailorMark · Jun 3, 2009, 08:24 PM

Well, you're still here and the offending post with its responses are gone so I have to assume the admin for this site did read your writing and acted appropriately. No worries, but instead of thanking us for our support, how about you thank us by asking that guy to have a cup of coffee with you?

chuff · Jun 3, 2009, 08:36 PM

Originally Posted by lencheski

WHAT do MEN think of WOMEN that ask them out?

I think I speak for all men when I say, "we love it."

lencheski · Jun 3, 2009, 08:40 PM

Originally Posted by SailorMark

Well, you're still here and the offending post with its responses are gone so I have to assume the admin for this site did read your writing and acted appropriately. No worries, but instead of thanking us for our support, how about you thank us by asking that guy to have a cup of coffee with you?

Will do! I have to be at the school on Monday so, I will ask him then... Thanks again for you support.

Wish me luck, I will ask him out and then let you all know the outcome... so be patient for me, I'm having a hard time myself...

SailorMark · Jun 4, 2009, 04:32 AM

Originally Posted by chuff

I think I speak for all men when I say, "we love it."

I married one who asked me out!

talaniman · Jun 4, 2009, 05:20 AM

I get the impression that your dating opportunities have been limited in the past. How long have you been divorced?

lencheski · Jun 4, 2009, 10:32 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

I get the impression that your dating opportunities have been limited in the past. How long have you been divorced?

December of 2007

Pool has been quite low... Not that I haven't tried to go out with people when asked out. It's just that either they wanted someone that they could control, or buy or worse just wanted sex.

I'm too old to play games, I really think that people forget to be friends and let things grow from there.

Getting to know people is a lost art. I had a good marriage at first, then it turned bad very quickly due to my X dealing with an addiction. He lost us and then his job and well, it was bad. I wish him the best now, but he still can't get himself together. That was June of 07. So, I have had a great deal of success in career and my education but am very leary when it comes to my own relationship.

lencheski · Jun 8, 2009, 07:55 PM

Ok, My six year old daughter was ill and didn't go to school and therefore my clients were canceled for today. Couldn't ask him, but if she's feeling better, then I will reschedule for tomorrow...

lencheski · Jun 11, 2009, 08:18 AM

It didn't go like I had planned but... here's how it went... he called me after hours on Monday saying he was picking up his kids and would call me Tuesday at 1130, which at that time I replied, you know, you always seem to forget to call your county worker... he laughed... the running joke with us is... I put a sticky note on his receiver the one day to remind him to call me back after a meeting with a mutual student... he said if it wasn't for the sticky note he probably would have gotten home and realized he'd forgotten. So the running joke was always do I need to use a sticky note. So what I said was if you forget I am going to send you a packet of sticky notes with reminders... he laughed... So when he forgot on Tuesday I on Wednesday, purchased 30 pads of sticky notes and wrote on them all reminders... put them all in a packing envelope and sent them to his office... on one of them, I wrote, now that you are no longer my daughters counselor, it's time to stop flirting with her mother and ask her out, and then wrote my number, with a call me, already. What do you all think?

Homegirl 50 · Jun 11, 2009, 08:23 AM

Well, time will tell. The note thing was cute.

I just hope the fact that he did not remember to call you is not a sign of things to come.
Good luck. If it does not work out, he is not the only fish in the sea.

SailorMark · Jun 11, 2009, 08:45 AM

Excellent tactic! Good luck.

Ren6 · Jun 11, 2009, 08:58 AM

Originally Posted by lencheski

it didnt go like I had planned but...here's how it went...he called me after hours on Monday saying he was picking up his kids and would call me tuesday at 1130, which at that time I replied, ya know, you always seem to forget to call your county worker....he laughed...the running joke with us is ... I put a sticky note on his receiver the one day to remind him to call me back after a meeting with a mutual student....he said if it wasnt for the sticky note he probably would have gotten home and realized he'd forgotten. so the running joke was always do I need to use a sticky note. So what I said was if you forget I am going to send you a packet of sticky notes with reminders...he laughed....So when he forgot on Tuesday I on Wednesday, purchased 30 pads of sticky notes and wrote on them all reminders....put them all in a packing envelope and sent them to his office.... on one of them, I wrote, now that you are no longer my daughters counselor, it's time to stop flirting with her mother and ask her out, and then wrote my number, with a call me, already. what do you all think?

It's brilliant!

lencheski · Jun 11, 2009, 11:11 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well, time will tell. The note thing was cute.

I just hope the fact that he did not remember to call you is not a sign of things to come.
Good luck. If it does not work out, he is not the only fish in the sea.

Well, me too... but it does fit into the "dance" we've been doing... I think he's into being chased actually...

... and if it doesn't work out.. then oh, well... he is not worthy of me anyway...

talaniman · Jun 11, 2009, 12:05 PM

If I was him, I would be impressed.

lencheski · Jun 11, 2009, 12:16 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

If I was him, I would be impressed.

Well, thank you. I will take that as a compliment, especially from you... I appreciate the recognition.

Um BTW, your not him are you?. just kidding,,

Homegirl 50 · Jun 11, 2009, 03:30 PM

Originally Posted by lencheski

well, me too...but it does fit into the "dance" we've been doing...I think he's into being chased actually....

...and if it doesn't work out..then oh, well...he is not worthy of me anyway...

You are a smart LADY! I wish you someone who will chase you, I wish you the best.

I mean that with the deepest sincerity.