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chuff · May 11, 2009, 02:08 PM

Originally Posted by drea46750

You are right, I do have depression issues that I have been trying to deal with for years.

Let's cut all the fun and games out. This is the problem, and it's a big one for you. You need to see a therapist, because this whole strip club thing is just something for you to throw your emotions into as a distraction for the real issue(s) which run much deeper then this. Honestly, if it wasn't the strip club it would be something else. You were suicidial yesterday, you have better things to worry about then this. You never learned how to control your own life from with in, so you are trying to control it through the actions of others, but that's a losing battle because you can never control anybody else. You need to see a therpist, because this issue has to be dealt with. Like I said, you wouldn't think twice if you broke your arm, so why are you wasting time with this non-issue and not addressing the real ones. This strip club nonsense doesn't really matter in the long run, but what decisions you make about your mental and emotional health will affect you, you children, and boyfriend forever. Isn't that where you should put your focus now.

none12345 · May 11, 2009, 03:15 PM

Here is a way of seeing it, he's going to be married to you and he ll be yours forever, so does it really matter if he goes to a strip club? It doesn't mean he will cheat on you.

litamj · May 11, 2009, 03:21 PM

I understand that you don't like the idea of him going to one, and it would be great if respected your wishes, but, he is going to have to make up his own mind. You know that he won't do anything with any of them. So, just tell him that you're a big boy and you can make your own decisions. You know how I feel about them, but the decisions up to you.

Survivor07 · May 11, 2009, 03:51 PM

Hey, Drea

I read your post from yesterday.

Your husband going to the strip club is the least of your problems.

That last thing any of you need before the wedding is you hurting yourself.

Please seek some help from a doctor. There is nothing weird or wrong or weak about seeking some help for being depressed, because that's what you are.

You owe it to yourself and your kids. Please talk to a professional about how you're feeling.