[talaniman]

@talaniman - Thanks for the words of encouragement. When you say, "Stay on course", what course would that be exactly

Keep your priorities straight and do the things you have identified for you and your business to be a success. Things have a way of working out and we sometimes loose patients and force actions that are not in our interest and really screw things up. Keep working and be patient.

[momincali]

Wow, great thread, and even more awesome is the fact that you have been true to yourself and accomplished so much in so little time. So many guys would still be going back and forth, falling for the bait that these women put out to reel them back, only to be tossed out again after a short time.

Stay focused but don't forget to have fun. You had a great thing once with this gal but it seems like she's struggling to focus on what she wants, or maybe she doesn't want to focus but float around for a bit. Either way, that's not what you want, you aren't on the same page anymore. You did the right thing in not responding to her plea, keep listening to your inner hunch, it's your brain talking and not your heart. Our feelings tend to get us confused and into hot water sometimes.

You also need to stop referring to her as your girlfriend, she's not anymore. Mentally, that may also be holding you back without you realizing it.

You have so much to offer, not just potential dates, but friends. You need more of those. Bars and clubs are definitely not the best place to meet them but you don't have to avoid them altogether, just go to higher scale ones. Get further into your golf, there are lots of people there. Go to business seminars, you may meet someone with the same entrepreneurial background and desires as you. Jog in the park, go to the mall, sit down at a bookstore and read and look around, there are people everywhere. You see, by making more friends and acquaintances, they may have more friends and acquiantances and your circle, or sphere of influence will expand. Introductions take place and bam, there you go. I would also go as far as putting yourself out there on a reputable online dating service. What could it hurt?

I did read through your past post and I think the steps you have taken are amazing and that could have only been accomplished by a mature, well put together individual, that's who you are, remember that in your moments of weakness and temptations to call her.

There's nothing wrong with a little waterworks going off in the eyeballs, I've done it once or twice myself, it's human nature, but now Talaniman will only use it to blackmail you and that's a shame!!

[Skell]

Wow mom. Well said again as usual. Had to spread it though!

[talaniman]

There's nothing wrong with a little waterworks going off in the eyeballs, I've done it once or twice myself, it's human nature, but now Talaniman will only use it to blackmail you and that's a shame!!

Lol, Be successful so I can tell the world what a big baby you really are. He HEHE!!

[chuff]

@chuff - Thanks for the appreciation... funny I didn't realize there was anything on here I would be thanked for yet. Hehe - Just goes to show there are still some genuinely good people still out there, 90% of them probably being on this board.

Cguy, since I've been coming to this board I've been trying to change myself and figure out where some of my deep, deep beliefs come from. For 30 years I've done things that I thought were the right things to do characteristics to have. Just recently, I've realized how wrong I've been. The problem is trying to change. Some of the traits are so far buried in my personality that it seems impossible to change.

To read your original post and then this update is not only encouraging for me, and I hope others as well but dare I say I believe that it also helps you because I believe that you can look back and see where you were, and how far you've come.

I think your right that are really good people out there but they are not around us (or me at least) in everyday life. Coming here you can really find the best in people and seek out unbiased and good natured help.

Once again, thank you Cguy I appreciate the update and it gives me hope that I can reach the levels you have.

[cguy]

@talaniman - Yeah, patience is a hard thing to keep. It's getting closer to the Holidays, and I have a good feeling I'll be spending them without a companion this year. That'll really stink, and I'm sure its going to hit hard around Christmas time. I'm better in a pair, independence is not for me... lol. But I'm trying.

@momincali - Thanks for the great advice. I will probably start going to more business seminars. I had already planned on jogging publicly (instead of my treadmill) but want to build a little more stamina first. I appreciate the comment on my mentality so far, I'm trying as hard as I can!

@chuff - You are right. It probably does help me. I have read my posts over a few times each, and they do give me a sense of acknowledgement that I have been trying, as well as a an extra burst of motivation to keep pushing forward. I will keep updating the board, not just for you, but for me, and for anyone who may go through something similar in the future. I hope they will read everyone's input and change they're life as well. I just hope my threads end with a happy ending... ;)

Thanks Guys (and Gals)!

[Skell]

You should be comfortable enough with who you are to be able to cope with spending the holidays by yourself.

You'll be fine. I'm sure oyu have heaps of other friends to hang with as well. Doesn't necessarily have to be a women!

[cguy]

Skell, I may have misinterpreted what you wrote, but how does me being comfortable with who I am help me cope with being along during the Holdays? In all honesty, during this alone time I have had, I have been trying to discover 'who I am'. I have only just begun this process because for the past four years of my life, I dedicated my life to how I wanted 'us' to be (my Ex and I). I was trying to create a fulfilling life for 'us, not 'me'. Also, as I have put in many of my previous posts, I do not have heaps of friends. I have a hard time relating with people because of my actual age compared to how old I really act, as well as what I have already accomplished in my life compared to what others my age have accomplished. When you cannot relate with someone, it is hard to draw up a common ground you can use to build a friendship. That is why I have so many posts asking or responding to peoples' suggestions on things I could do to meet more people like me.

[talaniman]

Cguy-I think what Skell meant was that knowing yourself will be key to finding others like you , who share common interests and hobbies etc. The best way to meet knew people is to pursue the things I like to do. I understand after a lot of US time we forget what ME time is, so getting back in touch with yourself is essential. I also find holidays are a good time to volunteer at places that need extra help like hospitals soup kitchens or community groups in your area or church functions. Not only will giving of yourself be rewarding, but you'll meet new and interesting people, and actually be helpful also. Takes time and patience, and a positive attitude.