[jj890]

I think that you should tell her that you are leaving, it may hurt her even more, but she needs to know.
You should call her and tell her straight up, and if she's sad, comfort her.

[myselfme99]

Yeah of course when she is back I'm going to tell her and if she is sad (which is doubtful at this moment as she is happy without me I guess) but if she is then of course I will comfort her because for me its not that I stopped loving or caring her in a week, I didn't leave her you know what I mean...

So now I'm just trying to eat a piece of cake at least because before I gave the whole cake to her without me having a bite.

[myselfme99]

All right guys... she is back in town today and we just hung talking on phone... well it went very well compare to the last conversation we had...

I asked her questions without taunting or bothering her and I really told her straight that see babes since the day you called it quit we really haven't spoken good enough about it and in 2 days you left the country... well she said that well you hung up so I thought you don't want to talk to me anymore so I didn't bothered you at all...

Well another question was did you leave me for another guy... she said NO but she did say that when I go out I look at guys which I didn't do when I was madly in love with you so from that moment I realized that my romantic connection with you was fading fading and faded...

I told her that you know I love you so much and care for you so much and I gave 200% just to make you happy... her reply was I know how much you love and care for me but at the same time I lost the feeling for you and of course I miss you and I do but romantically I lost that connection.

We also talked about her trip and all... the conversation itself was like normal talk as there is no point to argue or fight it doesn't work for me or anybody else.

I also asked her that do you really think that we can never work it out ever because you started to hate me? Her reply was how can I hate u.. u r such an awesome person its just that I lost that feeling for you and I don't think it will work now.

Well I don't know how she lost it and I really don't want to find out either because past 5-6 days I was hurt in pain and now I feel very good about being able to look at the world clearly without her pic covering it you know what I mean... in the end she was not happy with me and if she is not happy then its my fault too.

She also said that she is okay and better this way like without me... well with all this conversation I can smell that she likes someone because the intense love she had for me has to compensate on somebody huh... but I hope its not because even if she ed me this way I still care for her knowing the fact that she won't come back to me... at this state of mind of her any guy who gives her little bit attention will end up screwing her... hope she doesn't take this path.

Anyway I cannot wait to hear from the experts here about all this... thanks in advance.

[myselfme99]

Also between the conversation she did say " i m sorry" few times for all this but to be honest it didn't mean too much to me... coz I feel very guarded all of a sudden.

[talaniman]

Your probably the third person I have told this to, today, and it may be hard to understand right now, but as people grow, they change, in feelings, and attitudes, and curiosity. That's so human, and normal for young people.

There will be a lot of frogs to kiss before you find the one who will spend your life with, and many mistakes will be made along the way, but let me tell you, as you find out more about yourself, you will learn how to best cope with your own feelings, and the situations life throws at you. Thats what its all about, how you deal with yourself.

That doesn't mean break ups won't suck, but it does mean you will know better how to handle yourself.

If you notice I seldom talk about the exes here, because its not about them any more, its all about you, and how you prepare yourself for what comes next. Trust me, there is always something coming next. Good, or bad, life keeps on coming at you.

So the whole point is to love yourself, and treat yourself well, just in case there is no one to do that for you. Then you have a better chance at knowing when someone says they love you, if they really mean it or not.

[myselfme99]

Thanks talniman... today I honestly and deeply miss her got tempted so many times to text or call her but didn't... sometimes I feel why did she leave we still could ve talked and sorted it out... why all of a sudden this BREAK UP!! And sometimes I feel like there is more to life than waiting for her you know...

Man right now I feel that life without her is not fun for me... I wish it will change for me soon as I miss her like crazy. This emptiness is killling me.

[myselfme99]

Not a good day for me as far as healing is concerned... I really MISS her even when I'm keeping myself busy...

It looks like I will never get over it because I love this women so freaking much which she knows too...

Today I met one of our common friend and he was shock to hear that we broke up he was like go and talk to her because she loves you so much she will understand... I wish I could as now I don't have any impact on whatever I say to her she build some kind of wall.

What a day and now nights going to be worse too...

[wikedjuggalo]

Again do not. Days will be rough and as time goes on it will get easier if you let it.

[myselfme99]

Wiked.. with my story do u personally think that she doesn't care about me at all.

[wikedjuggalo]

I do not think she does not care. You have to understand people change. Soon you accept that the sooner you can heal.

[Wondergirl]

I suggest you get on with your life. If you have time on your hands (and you should now), read the NC adventures of ISneezeFunny -- 41 pages but you will learn a lot.

[myselfme99]

hey people thank you for your comments.

Today its been a hard day for me... still not ended yet

I know I have to move on but how do I control my emotions my heart cries seriously (I know I sound stupid) but it's the truth... even when I'm working or doing something else to keep myself busy still I miss her totally & my eyes are all watery then.

tears start to come out what the hell... I'm really trying hard to pretend that everything is fine and try to be strong n guarded but there are times where
all this strong ,guarding myself feeling disappears.

well I have been in 2 long-term relationship and trust me before I got into this one I moved in very carefully n we did connect Awesomely. My 1st break off was not so hard as I was young n playful that time but still kept on for a while for some reason obviusly it didn't work.

well with this women I had to try nothing at all... never had to think at all... we clicked all the time and she always said that you are such an awesome person and I have never loved anybody in my past like I love you... even now she says that I'm an awesome person but that love thing which she had is completely gone. Donno is it respect or love or both.

ppl/friends (old n young) who know our relationship are shocked because they saw how much we respect, loved each other and they were always happy to see us together.

I know I sh'lnt be hoping for her to come back but to be honest that's what I want... even if I go NC somewhere inside I want her back which is bad but the fact.

does anyone in this forum has ever ended up being friends forever with your girlfriend and later on she realizes . Or there are only people with NC formula and moving on with life hoping for the best.

well I know that this girl is for me... she loved me so freaking much how can I forget her care, love which I saw in her eyes for me... I know this is really childish from my side but that's the truth this girl is special for me n how can I be okay losing someone so special.

choosing friends option will always hurt me no matter what but even NC option hurts me as well...
if she is not in love with someone then its okay she can connect to herself in a better way and think better but at the same time her state of mind is so vulnerable that any kind of attention would do the trick for random guy.

u know just 2days before she called it quit she texted me sweet messages 3-4 times and of course we talked too but then I didn't see her one day and the next day she pulled the trigger after meeting her friend who also left her boyfriend a week ago. Just cannot digest it man.

man I'm really making things complicated for myself here... with asking questions and answering them as well. Of course I'm Confused... but I'm not confused to have her back but I'm confused to how to cope with this separation thing.

yeah I know I'm thinking a lot and also may be or may be not in a wrong direction but this is only place where I can say whatever I feel like and take it out from my head n heart...

please forgive me if somehow u feel that I don't respect your views.

Thank you.

[Wondergirl]

yeah i know i m thinking alot

Now, stop thinking so much. Stop. Now.

Get busy with stuff. Sneezy found out that going to the gym and working up a sweat did wonders for him. Volunteer at an animal shelter, go horseback riding, go swimming, read Oprah's book club choice (it's really good!), buy some chameleons and put them in an aquarium with dirt and rocks and branches. Buy mealworms and watch how they eat them. Go to the library and check out some books on raising chameleons. Or raise snakes. Or raise hermit crabs. Get involved with people. Learn how to rollerblade. Get real good at making paper airplanes and flying them. Bake and frost cupcakes. Learn how to hook rugs. Buy a paint-by-number kit.

We're on your team, but the hard work of this is up to you.