[menoshoes]

It seems like you are a home body. If you never do new things you cannot meet new people. I hate to say it like that but it is true. Im very shy myself and I find it hard to expand to find new people. But I can honestly say once I get to know someone new it was all worth it or at least you have something to laugh about. I know losing weight is and can be difficult but I would join weight watchers- I go all of the time. You have support of others and get to be around women. It will boost your confinence and make women that you have been around even at work notice you. That is where I would start - don't hop into a relationship unless you feel good in your own skin.

[Save The Planet]

Join a fitness club... you not only get in shape but it is a chance to meet new people. I joined one and I met this awsome guy there... dont be afraid to get out there!!

[chrissymarie]

I personally don't like nerds but I'm sure there are women out there who do.

[earl237]

Women over 30 are usually more mature than younger ones and start to judge men by their personality and job instead of looks. Stick to women your own age and I'm sure you'll find the right one sooner or later.

[linnealand]

Personally, I love smart men. Intelligence is extremely attractive to me. If a man doesn't have an intellectual side to him, he's likely to bore me in the long run.

Confidence is definitely important in the dating scene. If you don't believe in your assets, it can be much harder for others to recognize them in you. Of course, arrogance is a big turn off. You need to find the right balance between modesty and self belief.

Being exceptionally bright does not mean that you can disregard the significant role that appearance plays, whether we want to accept it or not.

I'm actually a Mensa girl. I also happen to love fashion, looking nice, practicing good hygiene, and taking care of my body. If you're able to bring each of these desirable features into who you are, you turn into a knock-out (or a hunk).

A positive outlook, an amicable attitude and good manners also contribute a lot when it comes to your desirability.

If you think you're lacking in one of these areas, try to identify what you could be doing better. Some people worry that changing their style means that they're leaning away from who they really are or pretending to be someone that they're not. I don't believe that to be true. I think that all of us have things to work on, and no one "is" an old grey sweatsuit.

Think about your posture, the way you walk, or anything else you think you could be doing better, and then put energy into seeing what you can do to improve yourself. If you think you're clueless when it comes to a certain something, then overcome your shyness and ask others for advice! I'm sure that anyone would be happy to help you out.

Dating and taking care of yourself are both lots of fun! You just have to look at them that way.