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talaniman · Jun 4, 2008, 05:12 AM

Works for me.

Sikativ · Jun 5, 2008, 05:08 AM

So she has contacted me after I left the voice mail.
Altenweg you were right, she isn't coming back.

She's SENDING HER DAD TO GET ALL HER STUFF!!

From what she told me in her email, her dad is going to be coming to get all her stuff fathers day weekend (what a nice present). And if that's the case, I want to be with her even less... just shows how much of a user she is!

Funny though, I signed onto aim and she was on as well... I messaged her asking what's going on as far as details go for picking up her stuff and got no response, so I'm still getting the silent treatment...

-Sik

p.s.- on the bright side, I have my surgery date for the Jun 9th and I'm excited and somewhat scared (pissed off at her for not being her for me when I really need someone).

talaniman · Jun 5, 2008, 05:18 AM

Why blame her for what you allowed her to do. Being honest. You had plenty of warning. Not to be harsh, but its better to act when you have facts than react later and be mad.

You expected something from her she was not capable or willing to give, and that something to remember for the future.

That's why life throws things at us, to teach us, and that's why its important to remember, and learn.

Sikativ · Jun 5, 2008, 05:22 AM

Nothing was very clear until she left. Her being gone gave me time to think and I was able to put my emotions on the backburner to be able to see how she truly acted.

I put up with her for a while because I wanted things to work. I think that's understandable considering how I felt, its just unfortunate that it wasn't mutual between her and I.

I finish packing all her crap up on Friday.

-Sik

ISneezeFunny · Jun 5, 2008, 05:27 AM

... why are you packing up her crap? Just put them in the corner.

As far as you "needing" someone, some day in the future, roughly 3 - 5 months from now, you'll look back and laugh at the idea that you needed her.

By the way, tal's being very reserved lately with his criticisms. You should have seen him when I was going through my breakup. He pretty much slapped me in the face left and right.

... I needed it though :)

Sikativ · Jun 5, 2008, 05:31 AM

I'm not asking anyone to hold back, in fact I thanked the first response to my thread for being outright blunt.

Sneeze, the timing just sucks for all this to happen at the same time.

I am excited to be single though for the summer, it might even give me the chance to go stay abroad with some relatives in Greece (something I've always wanted to do!)

-Sik
Current activity: Looking on the bright side of things

Romefalls19 · Jun 5, 2008, 05:36 AM

Sneezy! I know what you mean, I think they caught tal after his coffee, because he used to be harsh with his advice. Harsh but it was the truth that we needed to hear. Sik, time to chalk this one up to experience and a lesson learned. You will find someone a lot better, well pretty much anyone is better than a liar and a user. I would be a lot more ticked off at the fact she disrespected my family. I wouldn't pack her stuff up, that's why we invented the GLAD bags. If you're ever going to be around the Trenton area of Jersey, let me know I'll buy you a beer for getting over this pyscho.

starlite1 · Jun 5, 2008, 05:39 AM

Hi Sik,

I am glad that she is finally getting her things. She doesn't deserve you Sik, you deserve someone so much better. And of course, good luck on your surgery!

ISneezeFunny · Jun 5, 2008, 05:44 AM

Heh, talk about bad timing. My ex dumped me 3 days before finals week. Romefalls was there for it. Needless to say, I didn't sleep for 65 hours, and I STILL didn't do too hot on my test.

Romefalls19 · Jun 5, 2008, 06:27 AM

Yea, we went through our break ups at the same time which is why me and Sneezy can relate so well to each others turmoil of right before christmas

Sikativ · Jun 6, 2008, 09:37 AM

Wow, get this...

She's telling people I hit her!

Talk about disrespectful, I never did such a thing and I never will!

-Sik

ISneezeFunny · Jun 6, 2008, 09:40 AM

... you sure you're not me from the past?

About 3 weeks after we broke up, there were rumors around campus that my ex and I broke up due to me hitting her.. . ex denied claims. Apparently these were spread by her new boyfriend + his friends.

... I'll be hitting him next time I see him. Just kidding.

Sikativ · Jun 6, 2008, 09:42 AM

I want her stuff out of my house, she doesn't even live here anymore!

I am trying to find laws on this stuff so that I don't do something illegal...

In NJ if anyone knows where I can look.

-Sik

Sikativ · Jun 6, 2008, 06:43 PM

So I called her father and he was his normal self.

For a girl who's telling everyone I beat her, he is either extremely apathetic or he knows she's lying. Im pretty sure it's the latter.

Anyway, he's coming next Saturday to get everything. Im just going to pack everything up (keep a few things that I want to keep for compensation) and be on my merry way.

Just glad things are finally resolving themselves. Just too bad this couldn't be done between her and I instead of her father and I.

Heh
-Sik

starlite1 · Jun 6, 2008, 06:53 PM

Originally Posted by Sikativ

So i called her father and he was his normal self.

For a girl who's telling everyone I beat her, he is either extremely apathetic or he knows shes lieing. Im pretty sure its the latter.

Anyways, hes coming next saturday to get everything. Im just going to pack everything up (keep a few things that I want to keep for compensation) and be on my merry way.

Just glad things are finally resolving themselves. Just too bad this couldn't be done between her and I instead of her father and I.

heh
-Sik

Hi Sik,

GOOD! The sooner she is out of your life (including her stuff) the better off you will be. You are going to be fine!! :)

ordinaryguy · Jun 7, 2008, 04:01 AM

Originally Posted by Sikativ

(keep a few things that I want to keep for compensation)

Bad idea. It plants a seed for more contact and conflict. Let it ALL go.

talaniman · Jun 7, 2008, 06:51 AM

Ordinaryguy is absolutely right, as you are setting the stage that gives her an excuse to be back with a righteous vengeance. Don't go there. You already know what she is capable of, so make a clean break of it.

Sikativ · Jun 7, 2008, 09:37 PM

I Threw some of her crap away anyway. She'll deal with it, not like she planned on coming back to get any of it (hence why her dad is getting it.)

And talking with my mother, I'm finding out she's been lying to my mother about me being more violent around her than I was.

I contacted her father and he's coming on fathers day weekend. I have confirmed the date and time and just need to email him about how big the bed is.

At least he's being respectable and sensible and TALKING to me about all this.

-Sik