[simoneaugie]

Mmmm, Vin Diesel is yummy.

It doesn't matter how many partners a person has had as long as the current one is willing to "learn" you.

[kittycat100]

Marriedguy, you said:
"a person sexually history tells you a lot about a persons. Yes, I will agree that people change and they should not be judge soley on the fact that the slept with x amount of people."

Marriedguy,
If you agree that people change and that a person shouldn't be judged solely on the fact that they slept with x number of people, then what's your point?

Discovering how many partners your lover/boyfriend girlfriend has had after having a wonderful sex with them, and then lamenting about it seems a bit backwards. Why?
1.) If the number of partners your lover or new girlfriend or boyfriend has had, is so important to you that their answer could devastate you, then ASK BEFORE making the leap to the bedroom.
2.) Some have commented on this board about the importance of a person's past sexual partners because the number can correlate to the risk level for having a STD. The greater the number of past partners, the higher the risk for carrying an STD (statistically-this is the case. But it should not be used as a hard and fast rule. One of my girlfriends has had many, many partners-she likes sex-and she has NEVER had sex without a condom. She also has been tested for STDs.) My point: if you believe that people change and that a person shouldn't be judged solely on the fact that they slept with x number of people, then let’s not quibble with numbers. Why not just ask your potential lover to have a complete STD screening, including HIV & HEP B & C virus screening? And, you do the same and disclose your results to them. Not at all unheard of. Also, numbers USUALLY DO NOT MATTER when it comes to STDs. Having 1 sexual partner, can be dangerous, if you don't know anything about their past!
3.) If the number of partners your lover or new girlfriend or boyfriend has had, can be potentially emotionally devastating, than brace yourself for a bumpy ride. There could be number of painful things that maybe just as devastating to you about your partner's past. What about whether they're "over" their 1st love? What about abortion? What if she has had one or six? Maybe she was only with one other partner but has had one or six abortions. What if after your new girlfriend broke up with a college boyfriend, he then committed suicide? Would you want to know more? What if one of your new girlfriend’s exes is a dangerous gang member or a high profile revolutionary? Would these facts bother you? Would these facts matter as much as the number of past sexual partners she has had? (If I were still me but a male) Some of these facts would be VERY important to me; some wouldn’t matter at all to me.
4.) I don't think it should be numbers we need concern ourselves with when it comes to a person's past, it should be, safety, and your respective outlooks on sex and relationships. If you're conservative and perhaps religious, or if you're liberal, and your views on religion are secular, then find a person with similar views, and get to know them BEFORE you decide to become serious and sexual. Place more importance on safety; get tested and make sure your new friend has been tested.
5.) Numbers are gages and have the potential to result in placing labels where they really don't belong. Like Fr. Chuck said, he would hate to have to be judged by past youthful indiscretions. You see, a person’s past is not ONLY about the number of past lovers they may or may not have had. Also, think about what really matters in a relationship and what is important to you.



:rolleyes:
meow

[mikezapwnzor]

I would have to say no limit... Never say never! Case closed, meeting adjourned.

[kittycat100]

I would have to say no limit ... Never say never! Case closed, meeting adjourned.

What? I am sorry but if you are replying to my post, you aren't making any sense.

[Apocryphy]

If you are always looking at women in terms of their sex life you will never really be happy with anyone who had a life before they met you. You don't judge people for their past. Some people make mistakes and regret them forever. But a person who sees mistakes as a learning tool to grow, change, should not be looked at in past tense but the present and who and what they are now, TODAY.

[westnlas]

I think that when a person has had so many partners that the connection between new partners is lost, that might be over the limit. You've got to love the one you're with. When that is gone, what's the point ?

[ISneezeFunny]

... really?

Even if she's 27..

... does this mean I'm a ho?

[JudyKayTee]

cmon ppl. having three sex partners means your a ho
thats it

This person continues to post contradictory info, strictly for reaction - read the other posts.

Should be banned from site -

[G-boomer]

The "art" of love-making comes with having many different experiences with different partners. It's not the "only" means of becoming an "artist", but it sure was fun(60's,70's was the best... and safest).

[smoothy]

The "art" of love-making comes with having many different experiences with different partners. It's not the "only" means of becoming an "artist", but it sure was fun(60's,70's was the best...and safest).

Not completely true... a person who listens and learns can be a great lover with only one or two partners while someone who slept with a thousand that never pays attention but to their own needs will remain a horrible lover.