[J_9]

The answer is plain and simple. If you don't like the heat, get out of the kitchen. Meaning, if you don't like how you are treated at home, you are what 20, get out of the house you are a big kid now, learn to make your own decisions.

[talaniman]

If I remember right, the school you are attending is in the loop, downtown Chicago, if you can't find a social life there, then you will never have one.

[tombabula]

Well guys thanks for advices. Even though some of them I did not like, I start think all answers gives me better direction than my private visits to mental health counselor from my college. So far I have been there 4 times and paid $5 (reasonable price) for each 1 hour session. Most of the time the shrink just listened to me but like he couldn't give answers. He has Master Degree in Psychology but is not certified yet so he is under control supervisor to whom he sends the results of our sessions. I am starting to think whether I should stop going me maybe because it justs does not solve problems but instead I refresh memory about things I should forget.

Regarding my parents, I would like to explain why I lost their credibility (however partially, not wholly though) on giving directions for my life. Before I lived in Chicagoland, I lived first year in Massachusetts in western suburbs. We lived then close to cousins. I remember always my uncle coming to our house. He talked with my mother about a lot of things, especially a lot about religious prophecies about the End of America. He referred to "heard things" from Nostradamus or folk stories. They used to say that America is going down, that the war will destroy, etc etc. I heard that there is no jobs, just higher prices, everything blows up. Then they used to say oh that in Europe is much better that in America. That in Germany is better. Oh and that America is uneducated, stupid nation, bla blah blah. I think they said a lot of nonsense. Since I very like this country and I prefer here the style much better than in Poland, it made me feel bad to hear all those things.

After one year later, we moved quickly to Chicago. The decision was made very quickly, within 3 months, I think too quick. I was not willing to move since I had left senior year in high school to finish and there I had some few friends with whom I hanged out on some weekends.( Yeah I kind of exaggerated little bit that I had no social life at all. I had in some part of my history. ) My sister convinced my parents to come to Chicago. In suburbs. I was asking once my parents or sister (I don't remember), shoudn't my dad have first found job and then buy there house and move? Instead, no, she convinced my parents to move, that we can live with her and her boyfriend with their son(now they are married). That dad will have job found and then we'll get the house. Later my parents (and me) regretted that decision to move. My father did not have show for many months. Now things today are much in better shape and have own apartment.

When she argued why I shouldn not take more loan to afford living on-campus housing, one of the reasons she used was that economy is going down. True or false? I think it's false! The cost of living went high but the rise went too, though not as fast as inflation.l

One of the posts said that I should just only now focus on goals, not regrets. I will do that. Thanks!