[kctiger]

Way to play games... there are so many words I want to call you right now, but I would be banned by the mods...

Facebook DOES NOT show you when you read a message or when you logged on. It is extremely private in that nature. Delete the stupid thing and move on. Quit playing games. Page 54 buddy... we should be farther along by now. Send me the message so I can decipher it for you... :cool:

[Romefalls19]

I would bet it's something to string you along, like that she misses you, as a friend. You will take that as you still have a shot and be there when she needs you and she'll drop you when someone comes along. Just delete the message and save yourself the trouble

[talaniman]

Aren't you dizzy from going around in circles?

INSANITY-DOING THE SAME DUMB SHAT OVER AND OVER, AND EXPECTING DIFFERENT RESULTS.

Tell you what, You will never be happy until you go talk to this female in person. Do so, without telling your mutual friend! Don't leave until you are together again, or she will leave you the frakk alone.

Above all dumpthe mutual friend, like you should have a long time ago.

[user99]

Hey crazyoverher how old are you?

[crazyoverher]

Romefalls...

U were exactly right. Her Facebook message was: "i just wanted to see how you were doing............." blah blah...

I was reading it and she saw me online and then started to talk to me. To be honest I don't remember what I wrote because I was drinking. Anyway... I do remember that I was rude to her and just signed off abruptly...

Noticed today she sent me another email... wt hel? Is going on with her guys??

She puts "single" on her face book page because our mutual friend told me that she did.. I have never gone to her page because I don't want to and there's no need... yet she emails me.

I was doing VERY well, until she did that crap yesterday... im not on a pity party... its just werid that she does this type of thing... remember guys, I DID not email her... and she just I'm me on Facebook.

[chuff]

romefalls.................

u were exactly right.

Romefalls has 55 pages of being right. Start reading them. I'm pretty sure the answer is there somewhere... on every page.

[talaniman]

Which is worse, hurting yourself, or letting someone hurt you??

Either way your hurt.

The point being that blaming her for your hurt is bogus.

[Romefalls19]

I have a Facebook, I know there is a way to block users from e-mailing you. DO IT! When I went through my break up, I stayed off myspace only to have my ex follow me to Facebook. I found out by my friend telling me she sent him a friend request. So I've been in your shoes, delete every message from her. Don't feed the confusion

[crazyoverher]

Romefalls... talaniman.. chuff... kctiger... all of you! And everyone else who's helped me out...

Here's the update...

I get an email from her still from Facebook... I don't reply... she keeps sending them to me. I don't say anything. She writes me on myspace... I stick to it.

She then texts my phone! How she got the number I don't know.. probably from our mutual friend...

Then she calls me and leaves me 3 messages... 3 in 3 days...

Then she calls and I accidentally pick it up... because I don't have her number listed in my phone anymore so I don't know who is calling...

Anyway... she talks to me and asks how I doing... etc. then she says that she wants to go to happy hour with me,her treat. I say I can't because of whatever... then she says that she wants to go out with me... I said that my schedule is busy... then she says that I can't be busy "every day" and that at least I can meet her for a quick drink this Friday. I say OK, just for a bit.

That was yesterday, now she is texting me 4 times a day... with stupid stuff like... "i wish i wasnt working today" and "come by for lunch if you can...my treat...etc"

What's up with that? I figure that she just wants to see that I'm doing OK. I don't know, maybe she just wants to use me until she finds another... anyway... thats the update.

I know you all hate me for being here, after your advice. I understand and I got to say that although it may not seem like it, I have changed my thinking about her and about what is best for me about that relationship. But I'm curious to see what she wants...

[kctiger]

Seems like she wants back into your life. Do you want her back in? Use caution my friend.

[Romefalls19]

Tread carefully, don't go in with a heart full of hope as it will be a disaster. Enjoy the drink, still be unavailable and DO NOT answer every text, you've been doing good let's not go back to page 1 er 35

[chuff]

i know you all hate me for being here, after your advice.

We don't hate you, we hate that you are going to do this to yourself when it is clear what is happening. It's like telling your child tie your shoes and they never listen. At some point you just have to let them trip over and take the pain to learn the lesson.

i understand and i gotta say that although it may not seem like it, i have changed my thinking about her and about what is best for me about that relationship. but im curious to see what she wants...

What she wants is to suck you back in. You already know that. I think you should text her back on Friday and cancel and tell her if she'd like to reschedule she can call you sometime next week as you have a busy weekend.

[crazyoverher]

Well Hello everyone out there!!

Boy what a story to tell you... ill just give you the facts and you take it from there... any 2cents good or bad or whatever... I will appreciate.

So, I did meet her 3 weeks ago. She bought me lunch and asked me out the next day.

We went out, and wound up intimate with each other... me staying the night. Next day, says she loves me and wants me back. She says that she wants me to meet her parents and arranges it for 1 week from today.

I tell her that we have big issues before that could happen and she listens.. we both do. And so far so good... she has changed her stripes from being a cold Bit.. she is treating me great. I am returning the favor. It looks like all is well.

Now... heres where the tale gets squiggly. We both have Facebook. We add each other as friends. She sees my friend and tells me to delete HER because she is jealous of her and to not have any more contact with her... my "gf" feels threatned by her. I comply.

Today, I go to her Facebook and notice a comment by some dude. Nothing bad just... "yeah, lets get together sometime" on its surface nothing bad... we both have friends... BUT

I check back online later today and noticed that she DELETLED his "comment" to her. Hmmmmm interesting. Now why would she do that? Is she trying to hide something or is she doing it because she thinks that I would get jealous?

In any event, I called her out on it. I sent her an email and I will see what she has to say about it tomorrow.

So then people, that is that... im ready for all of your comments. Harsh or not. I HAVE taken your advice for some time and it has worked out just as you have told me it would.. and so now, I need to get a bunch of opinions about the latest update. She is NOT like she was to me... but I want to know what you all think.

Thanks!

[crazyoverher]

Oh yeah... she apologized big time for treating me like she did etc... and so far so good...

I'm not looking for a fairy tale response from everyone... just your honest opinion considering ALL that I have gone through!!

[crazyoverher]

And guys... there is no more drama as of now. She has cried many times already about how much she loves me... etc... just an fyi.

[chuff]

FIFTY SIX pages of guidance and help directed solely at you and dealing with this girl. Not one bit of it used or listened too. She's going to do what she always does, and you are going to start the same procedure over and wonder why.

[ajGambino]

1. she sees my friend and tells me to delete HER because she is jealous of her and to not have any more contact with her...my "gf" feels threatned by her. i comply.

2. today, i go to her facebook and notice a comment by some dude. nothing bad just..."yeah, lets get together sometime" on its surface nothing bad...we both have friends....BUT i check back online later today and noticed that she DELETLED his "comment" to her. hmmmmm interesting. now why would she do that? is she trying to hide something or is she doing it because she thinks that i would get jealous?

The first one is a HUGE red flag. She can't tell you what to do, why are you letting her? That move just gave her power she has longed for.

The second one is telling you she's already hiding things from you, thus, another red flag.


C'mon man, I've read this whole story, you will be back to the same routine again. Don't do this to yourself...

Too late.

[talaniman]

Originally Posted by crazyoverher
I admit i have NO self respect anymore and she probably doesnt respect me ..but i dont care...i want what i want and i want her!!!! please help me. what do you think? and if i have NC with her then, she will break up with me im sure and i dont want that....

This is where you started. And now you have what you want, and still aren't happy.

i HAVE taken your advice for some time and it has worked out just as you have told me it would.

This is not true. You have done everything but what you have been advised, and now your at square one again. But you got the girl so..!

I need to get a bunch of opinions about the latest update. She is NOT like she was to me... but I want to know what you all think.

And now we are back to you analyzing everything all over again.

Either do as she says and have what you want... her. Or quit going in circles, and resolve your issues.

[chuff]

I don't know if it's my lack of sleep but man reading these two posts from AJ and Tal and it just makes me so mad at YOUR situation because they are so dead on and you are going to get used again. Scratch that, you've already been used. I mean, I honesty am shaking here at this. What should I care, I don't have anything to do with you or her, but just reading there TWO post makes it so clear you haven't learned a damn thing and she's got you wrapped around her finger even after all this.

You know what you need. A pair of balls. AJ highlights that she tells you to do something, and not only did you, you actually used the words "I comply." Not even the word agree, which it is not but the word "comply" That is exactly what it is. Such a clear and obvious test, and she won and you lost. You should have told her it's your site and you'll do what you want. But that requires a pair.

Then Tal goes back and finds where you said you are trading yourself respect for a woman that doesn't respect you just to be with her. If you don't respect yourself, why would she or any other woman want you? There are some things in this life worth more then money. Self respect is one of those things. I can't think of one woman on that is worth that, and I can tell you for a fact after knowing about your girl since February if there was a woman worth a guy's self respect this woman is not her.

I've done some stupid things for a girls and I've been hurt because of some of those things, but when some female wants to take myself respect, I get very angry and very defensive. Some things a woman does not get and some things a woman does not deserve. Yourself respect, pride, dignity, and manhood are those things. You should be mad as hell that you are acting this way, and instead you are just thrilled she acknowledges you as though she is worth it. Fifty six pages and nothing's changed, how can she be worth it? HOW?

[talaniman]

Today, I go to her Facebook and notice a comment by some dude. Nothing bad just... "yeah, lets get together sometime" on its surface nothing bad... we both have friends... BUT

What are you doing with someone you feel compelled to keep tabs on, AND question there motives?

Fifty six pages and nothing's changed, how can she be worth it? HOW?

??