[bswc]

Nice to see you having fun there :)

[emopunk7]

So I have been thinking of the good times and wondering why did we have to break up. I was very good to her. We got back together with me promising I would be the best boyfriend and I would keep us happy. I did it everyday. I stood true and didn't cheat and I always did cute things for her. If we ever argued I would quickly apologize and I tried very very hard and I was happy with her. I let her slide many times going out behind my back and all I said was to please let me know next time. Plus she did it again even after we had a great day together and after she says she loves me and misses me already. Then she rushes me off the phone because she is tired and off she went. I still feel disrespected. Not to mention all the horrible public displays and I still stood good. The one time I pull a little stunt of doing what she did back after I had enough... I get dumped. I couldn't even get a little bit of mercy... its what pisses me off the most... I let so much slide and she dumps me so fast even after I apologize and go to her job and send emails apologizing.
Still I think of holding her and seeing her pretty face and I wonder would things ever be that good again with someone else? Will I be able to find and love someone else again? I miss the companionship.

[bswc]

The answer is YES, you would. She took you for granted, you we're being so nice that you had no power and she didn't appreciate you and show NO respect to you. Now you've get back your dignity and power, it's the best for both of you!

[talaniman]

Stop daydreaming, and clean your room!!

[emopunk7]

I feel terrible... I saw the girl I went on a date with in my way home from work. When I got home I text her if she got home okay and she never text back. I don't think she is interested anymore. To be honest I'm really not interested either and it bothers me. I didn't see her so pretty today and I noticed a few things I didn't like. Mostly superficial but the fact that she didn't text back seals the deal. Also the other girl I was talking to is gone. I ended things because she started talking to my friend and I didn't want any drama. I only really have you guys to talk to. I just feel totally alone and hurt. Its not so much of thinking of my ex... its just feeling that now I have no girls... And this makes me think of my ex more. I hate it that she broke up with me when we were so good together. Sex was perfect and we laughed and did and went anywhere at anytime. She'd take days off so we can do things. We took great pictures and were both creative and went to rock shows together and she was always there for me... Now what?

[talaniman]

Life is not all action, and adventure my friend, and when things slowdown, you take a break, AND CLEAN YOUR ROOM, AND DON'T FORGET UNDER THE BED.

Now isn't that better than tripping over the thoughts of an idle mind? Sure it is.

[Something_Here]

You had something to distract yourself from your situation, now you don't. Might as well do something to distract yourself anew, like Talaniman suggest. It's awful to suddenly be alone though, you're right about that.

[emopunk7]

Hey T-Man... how do you know my room is a mess? I have to finish painting it tomorrow and then clean it and I will show you pictures.
Hey if the new girl doesn't want to text me then oh well it really is her loss because I'm a great guy. Sure I may be down right now... but ill be back!

[bswc]

You're lingering for intimacy, everybody does, just be patience! I guess you rushed abit... Hey I'd like to see the pic of your new room!

[Cat1864]

Dude, are you a complete idiot? Do not not see the signs of someone who is not worthy of your emotions? This girl is good for only one thing - sex. I'm assuming she is hot.

There is only one thing to do. Continue "dating" her and get the benefits from the "relationship". And meet other nicer girls on the side.

Don't waste your time with trash like this. Grow some gonads dude.

Please read the full thread before you respond to a question. Usually, there have been updates to the story that make advice given based on the original post outdated and moot. 'She' is no longer in the picture.

Telling someone to use another person for sexual gratification and meet other 'nicer' people on the side is extremely poor advice. That is unfair and damaging to all concerned. Especially, the innocent people pulled into such an ill-advised arrangement.

[emopunk7]

Ok so it has been 2 months and a week and I don't feel nearly as bad as the first month. I am doing better. I still go to the gym and still working on the six pack. And I finished painting my room and will post pictures tonight.
I still dreamt about her all night but in a bad way. I called her and someone else picked up in the dream... She was at a store and it was confusing. I guess it has to do with her being out while I thought she was sleeping. So I guess its better than a good dream of her. Then another dream of her picking up but she didn't want to talk because her brother was sad so I said put him on the phone. I spoke to him to cheer and it will be okay.Then I hear her friends saying oh please hurry and I guess that came from her friends not liking me. I'm just confused how we could have so much fun together and even though I stopped doing what I did wrong for the last 7 months of the first relationship and all of 2 years for this one then why couldn't she stop doing what I didn't like which was going out like 4 times and lying after she would say she was going to sleep. And delete text messages so that I don't see. Yet I always showed her anybody who text me and who called. I was true to the relationship! How could we be so happy and then have all this affect us? Is that normal?

[Young_Cardinal]

Yo emopunk! Real talk man I'm experiencing what you're going through right now too
All I got to say is just trying to stop thinking about her even though its hard sometimes cause of the dreams(I get that crap too), in the end they probably just don't care and it REALLY IS A WASTE OF TIME... most of the thoughts I have of her ends in anger because I always come to the conclusion that she's stupid
Just let these girls think they're right haha and do your thing man
I'm working out a lot too and you I talked to a few girls only to realize some of them have issues as well and it never really worked out, just got to try to meet new people
I'm just going to keep working out until I'm like built and probably get a tattoo of my dad on my chest, that's something very meaningful I look forward to
And try to make some money! That'll definitely help

[Cat1864]

On an emotional level you want to believe it was roses and champagne with happiness and love. Mentally, you know that it wasn't. Accept that things weren't as great as your heart wants you to think they were.

[emopunk7]

Yeah, when I think of the last 2 months of the relationship, it was me always wanting to be with her. I'd ask her during work hey do you even miss me? And she said I am too busy at work to miss you so I haven't had time to miss you. I was feeling neglected for a while. I hated being that way but its like she made me feel that way. Then boom off she went that night and I just couldn't take it. Why was I wanting to be around her more and missed her more than she missed me?

[I wish]

EXTREME HARSHNESS ALERT

Emo,

Almost 3 months since you first posted and 500 responses later, you still sound like the first day you posted.

How are you going to make any progress if you keep thinking about the past and going in circles?

Not all questions need to be answered anymore. You broke up. She's no longer part of your life. Clear your mind of all these uncertainties revolving this 1 girl.

Take it from me, once you meet a new girl, all that happened in the past will be left in the past and you will have a clean slate with the new person.

But if you're going to carry your past around with you everywhere you go, any new person you meet won't benefit from a clean slate and that's unfair to you and to the other person.

[talaniman]

He is just trying to get out of cleaning his room, LOL.

[amicon]

Emo-don't forget to clean UNDER the bed as well!
Seriously though, let those last hickups go-ok?

[emopunk7]

Why doesn't anybody give me a real answer from what I wrote? I finished painting and I will clean it now. Its hard without having my ex around... im trying to get used to it? How can she just give up though?

Like maybe she did something I really hated and I'd be very upset for perhaps a week. Then I'd speak to her and tell her not to do that again but she just up and left even after I apologized... its not like I ever did that before!
.

[amicon]

It's been two and a half months? You've been doing really well lately but on occasion you allow yourself to get stuck in this pattern of why and what ifs. It doesn't matter anymore,it's in the past. Don't dwell on it.

[friend4u178]

Why doesn't anybody give me a real answer from what I wrote?
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Emo
We've given you all the answers already , the problem is you keep coming back and asking the same questions over and over. Go back and read this thread from the beginning.

Bottom line is your dwelling on the past and you won't get past it until you drop it and stop questioning the why's , what's and if's.

We can only give you advice but it's you who needs to action it.