[amicon]

Love yourself for being you-that's the best way to go about finding a happy,loving and fullfilling relationship.

[chickie543]

What is the point of being in a relationship with him, there is clearly no trust.

[louiseismyname]

Chickie - I don't want a relationship with him, I just wanted to be mates but that isn't going to happen now, he has been calling me all the names under the sun and some are far too graphic to print on here.

Im trying to keep busy and forget him but I don't have a button that allows you too stop loving someone regardless of the hurt they cause you, if I could make one of those buttons I think id be a millionaire by now and be living the high life in the sun :0)

[louiseismyname]

Hey everyone - hope you are all OK and having a fun Easter (im doing uni work :0( )

I just wanted to let you know that I'm so over this guy still and am looking forward to the future and what it brings. If the texts to me carry on (ive had a few in the past few days saying the usual that I'm a cow, slag etc etc) il change my number. Im feeling very positive and understand that the guy is poision to me and that we will never ever be friends, which is sad but a hard fact of life xxxx

[amicon]

Now you're talking-stick to those decisions!

Happy Easter to you too -dont o'd on the chocs!

[louiseismyname]

Hi ami - too late on the o'd lol, already ate a Rolo one!!

Hope your having a nice Easter, I'm much more positive than I was, I realise that my problems are not important compared to others around me in comparison. Plus why would I want to be with someone who says they love me(apparently lol!! ) but can turn round and call me those hurtful names. He even turned round to my mate last week and said that he hopes he gets cancer!! How nasty and sick is that eh!!

[amicon]

Just ignore,ignore and ignore.

Tell your mates to stop it with the updates-boring stuff!

(I only like After Eight-so had a few of those.. . )

[louiseismyname]

Thanks ami, I love after eight too!
I just can't understand why I'm sad that someone that ignores me, calls me horrid names, lies to me and has cheated on me is not in my life anymore. I mean I should be happy that I'm free of that mental torment and I am 99% happy its over, but just can't get over the hurt that one day he wants to talk and the next he ignores me for no reason

[amicon]

There is no understanding him so just leave it at that.

Words are cheap-actions speak volumes.

Just let it go.

[sully123]

Louise, stop caring what he thinks, it's been way too long, this dragging out. You have come so far. You know you're a good person and that's all that counts. I personally wouldn't give him the time of day. It's over and move on, that's the best thing to do. There's three things a woman should never take is cheating, abuse and being married to an acoholic . He falls in that category. He is scum in my book, and he should be, in yours.

[louiseismyname]

Thanks ami and sully, yeah he is not a nice person I know that. I keep saying in my head that he can only hurt me if I let him hurt me. That's something that I've heard on here a few times and believe it to be true.

[amicon]

And it is true-so don't let him.
(Grr!) :-)

[louiseismyname]

Thanks once again, it just hurts me that he just ignores me and tells me he don't want to ever see me again and then I USED to text him and ask him to be my friend and he just ignores my texts. So I stopped texting him and then I think he didn't like that I wasn't chasing him anymore and he would get in touch?? / does that sound like mind games to you??

[amicon]

Yes.

Look-he never was nor will he ever be your friend.

Stay with the decision you made,no contact.

Ever.

[louiseismyname]

Thanks Ami - don't worry this time its going to be NC for good I PROMISE.Like I said, I'm feeling much better about the whole situation, oh I forgot to say, I got accepted into uni!! Start in Sept (mentally health nursing quite ironically lol) xxx

[amicon]

Congrats on that-good subject-you can use your own experiences with the mentally incompetent in your work.. .

[louiseismyname]

Congrats on that-good subject-you can use your own experiences with the mentally incompetent in your work.. . . . . .

Lol... that comment just made my day :0) xxx

[louiseismyname]

Thanks again all for all your help and support- without you guys I really don't think id be here right now typing this. Its funny how you can open your heart to strangers but not your own family and friends.

Im much stronger now and certainly won't be taking anymore of his nonsense when he decides to come running back when he wants to be in contact again. It is his loss if he don't ant my friendship not mine, its not me that lives at home with mummy aged 31, is a lier, cheater and general scum bag who has been nicked for drink driving (that rant made me feel better lol)

I hope you all had a lovely Easter and thanks once again xxx

[sully123]

Stay strong and focused on you. Do whatever it takes you to keep busy. He's dirt, and don't even mention his name. He is a poor example of a man. No respectful person treats a woman like that. Thank the Lord, you are rid of this man,he did you a great favor. His name after awhile you won't even mention... Good luck and vent to us, we are here for you, as always.

[louiseismyname]

Thank you sully, that really means a lot to me. Don't worry I've learnt my lesson the hard way but getting my heart broke but it will mend and it will become another one of lifes little lessons I think.

It does make me mad that he thinks he can ignore me as he pleases and generally treat me like dirt and then come running back as he pleases. Well the boy has got a rude awakening next time he comes crawling back - I Isn't LISTENING OR RESPONDING TO HIM
Thanks again all xxxx