[chuff]

Well i talked to my ex last night. she tells me she has a date, that pisses me off. it hurts. i wish i didnt talk to her! damnit! she asked if we could be friends, i told her i want to because i care about her and all but its just that i have too many feelings for her still. damnit she has a date. 3 years with her, and she is able to move on so easily.

First of all, while you could look at this as moving on so easily, you could also look at it as her only way to distract herself from what she's feeling. It may not be correct but how you interpret the message is up to you and you might as well do what is best for your recovery. Secondly, it really speaks to how cruel she is to even tell you to begin with, obviously looking for some kind of reaction out you. I honestly can't imagine being that cruel to someone when they obviously know you are still suffering. I hope this means something when you read this months from now, but I'm happy for you that you only got a 3 sentence with someone like that, it could have been longer.

[ISneezeFunny]

... so why talk to her?

That example, alone, cr, is the reason we don't talk to our exes.

[plonak]

So, I guess I'll join in on this post.. since I'm in a reacent heartbreak

It's been one day of NC for me.. I broke up with my boyfriend on Friday.. he called me Friday night (technically Sat morning) and we talked for like an hour.. and I realize that it makes it so hard talking to them on the phone after break ups.. because every time we get off we both start crying and think it's the last time we will talk.. why keep the torture up?

He called me last night and left a very heartbreakingly sad voicemail.. and sent me two text messages.. shame on me for reading them and listening to the voicemail.. I did not respond however..

He called this morning at 11am.. I did not answer.. I don't think he has it in his head that it's over.. this makes it so hard for me..

[classicrocker]

Wow what a day, seriously... what a day hope everyone is staying strong! I'm hanging in their the chuffster showing me some good points!

[NorthernNiceGuy]

wow what a day, seriously....what a day hope everyone is staying strong! im hanging in their the chuffster showing me some good points!

Keep going rocker. You've slipped up and I think you realized that's why nc is for the best. I got to say that is extremely lame that your ex told you that. I feel for you buddy as that would be extremely heard to hear. But use what she said to fuel your nc fire. She's obviously beneath you.

[hjpan]

For some reason, a question popped into my head about my ex. After taking to finals from 3:30pm to 8pm on Saturday, I went to a Japanese restaurant to celebrate my completion of freshman year. While eating, the question "Was the time spent studying and staying in college worth losing a loved one?" I am 100% sure everyone would say "college is more worthwhile" but I feel kind of obsolete since my ex used to tell me that I spent too much time with college than her =/.

[NorthernNiceGuy]

So, I guess i'll join in on this post.. since im in a reacent heartbreak

It's been one day of NC for me.. I broke up with my boyfriend on Friday.. he called me friday night (technically Sat morning) and we talked for like an hour.. and i realize that it makes it so hard talking to them on the phone after break ups.. because everytime we get off we both start crying and think it's the last time we will talk.. why keep the torture up?

He called me last night and left a very heartbreakingly sad voicemail.. and sent me two text messages.. shame on me for reading them and listening to the voicemail.. I did not respond however..

He called this morning at 11am.. i did not answer.. I don't think he has it in his head that it's over.. this makes it so hard for me..

Hey Plonak,

Its going to be really hard for awhile. And he is probably not going to leave you alone for a bit. But hopefully he eventually starts to get the picture and will stop. Its going to be hard on the both of you, but just remember that this is for the best, and that one day things are going to be OK. You're taking action to improve your life and get out of a situation that is destructive to your happiness. One day you are going to be so glad that you went through this pain, its hard to see now but its true.

[NorthernNiceGuy]

For some reason, a question popped into my head about my ex. After taking to finals from 3:30pm to 8pm on Saturday, I went to a Japanese restaurant to celebrate my completion of freshman year. While eating, the question "Was the time spent studying and staying in college worth losing a loved one?" I am 100% sure everyone would say "college is more worthwhile" but I feel kind of obsolete since my ex used to tell me that I spent too much time with college than her =/.

Being in freshman year there is so much more time to meet someone new, someone who understands that school is important and has the same priorities as you. It is unfair for anyone to ask you (especially at this age) to put your future on the back burner for them. You did the best you could as a boyfriend and as serious student, and if she can't see that than she's not worth your time. Don't ever put your life on pause for someone else, it will always come back to bite you in the a$$. I wouldn't think that all this has caused you to lose a loved one... I think it brought out her true colors and that now you are one step closer to finding the right girl, someone who will respect and understand that you have goals.

[plonak]

Northern,

You're right, I know that one day I will be happy that I went through this pain. It will make me stronger..

It's weird one moment I'm fine and the next I feel horrible..

And Northern, I was reading some of your posts and I know you proly already know this but you really are a nice person.. don't ever change that.. there are nice girls out there that want nice guys.. I'm a good woman, and I'm smart enough to not go for or want the 'bad guys".. there are plenty of good women out there that are going to snag you up when you're ready to get out there... guaranteed..

Hope there are nice guys out there for me too when I'm ready..

[hjpan]

Being in freshman year there is so much more time to meet someone new, someone who understands that school is important and has the same priorities as you. It is unfair for anyone to ask you (especially at this age) to put your future on the back burner for them. You did the best you could as a boyfriend and as serious student, and if she can't see that than shes not worth your time. Don't ever put your life on pause for someone else, it will always come back to bite you in the a$$. I wouldn't think that all this has caused you to lose a loved one... I think it brought out her true colors and that now you are one step closer to finding the right girl, someone who will respect and understand that you have goals.

Thank you

[NorthernNiceGuy]

and Northern, I was reading some of your posts and i know you proly already know this but you really are a nice person..don't ever change that.. there are nice girls out there that want nice guys.. I'm a good woman, and I'm smart enough to not go for or want the 'bad guys".. there are plenty of good women out there that are gonna snag you up when you're ready to get out there... guaranteed..

hope there are nice guys out there for me too when im ready..

Thanks plonak, that really meant a lot. Things like that get me through the day :)

... and there will be, you don`t even have to think twice about that!

[hjpan]

Thanks plonak, that really meant a lot. Things like that get me through the day :)

... and there will be, you don`t even have to think twice about that!

There'll be the good guys..

college frat boys... they drink to get drunk & show off, sex it up with random girls, and waste time =/

[tiamokiss]

I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

What does NC mean? Because in my country its stands for my Location I say: I'm living in NC :D

[Clough]

What does NC mean?, Because in my country its stands for my Location I say: I'm livin in NC :D

You know, you've made a good observation and point there, tiamokiss!

When people use abbreviations on this site, it would be helpful if they would take into consideration that there may be folks who don't understand what the abbreviations mean. And, using the complete term for which the abbreviation stands for might help them to get even more really good answers to their questions, or responses to answers that have been given, if they wouldn't use the abbreviations. I had no idea what NC meant, until I joined this site.

Does NC for you mean North Carolina, please? That is what I used to think that it represented. But, maybe it's even something else? Don't know...

This is a site, where the potentially really fine people to answer questions, might be from any part of the world, and thus, might not be privy to the abbreviations used for something similar in another part of the world.

Now, in just my oberservation of your post, your using the term "Cuz" might also be confusing to someone else. In the English language, it's also one of the abbreviations that is used for the word "cousin." ;)

[jrebel7]

What does NC mean?, Because in my country its stands for my Location I say: I'm livin in NC :D

Hi there! In the context of this thread, "NC" means "No Contact". When a couple breaks up, they sometimes agree that no contact would be best but it is difficult on the person who wants to continue the relationship or at least friendship. So this thread is to encourage those going through this to help them, knowing others are going through the same thing, hurting in their hearts but knowing there are better things coming in the future. Knowing you are not the only one going through a difficult day, evening, or night, and having encouraging words to "hang in there and don't text, call, e-mail, but remain with your decision to have "no contact" is a real help. Each day gets a tiny bit easier but if you do talk to that person, it sort of just takes you backwards in your emotions your resolve to move forward with your life. Hope this helped. :)

[jrebel7]

You know, you've made a good observation and point there, tiamokiss!

When people use abbreviations on this site, it would be helpful if they would take into consideration that there may be folks who don't understand what the abbreviations mean. And, using the complete term for which the abbreviation stands for might help them to get even more really good answers to their questions, or responses to answers that have been given, if they wouldn't use the abbreviations. I had no idea what NC meant, until I joined this site.

Does NC for you mean North Carolina, please? That is what I used to think that it represented. But, maybe it's even something else? Don't know...

This is a site, where the potentially really fine people to answer questions, might be from any part of the world, and thus, might not be privy to the abbreviations used for something similar in another part of the world.

Now, in just my oberservation of your post, your using the term "Cuz" might also be confusing to someone else. In the English language, it's also one of the abbreviations that is used for the word "cousin." ;)

You just brought back a fun little memory. Thank you. My uncle from Missouri use to call me "Cuz" because his youngest son called me "Cuz" and he got such a kick out of that. I find some abbreviations used on the site confusing for me also. I usually have to ask someone what they mean. :confused: I am not into texting on the phone much so when those abbreviations are used, I am really lost. I know, I am the "Stone Age Kid"!! :p I might need to change my avatar now. LOL

[Clough]

In total jest and jocularity here and in no intention of making fun of anyone else, Well because, that's because you were able to figure things out in these posts because you are such an astute person, because! :)

[tiamokiss]

Now, in just my oberservation of your post, your using the term "Cuz" might also be confusing to someone else. In the English language, it's also one of the abbreviations that is used for the word "cousin." ;)

Oh come on! It's clear from the sentence :p

[tiamokiss]

Hi there! In the context of this thread, "NC" means "No Contact". When a couple breaks up, they sometimes agree that no contact would be best but it is difficult on the person who wants to continue the relationship or at least friendship. So this thread is to encourage those going through this to help them, knowing others are going through the same thing, hurting in their hearts but knowing there are better things coming in the future. Knowing you are not the only one going through a difficult day, evening, or night, and having encouraging words to "hang in there and don't text, call, e-mail, but remain with your decision to have "no contact" is a real help. Each day gets a tiny bit easier but if you do talk to that person, it sort of just takes you backwards in your emotions your resolve to move forward with your life. Hope this helped. :)

Thank you very much! It's am amazing, soon I will join this thread, hope so ! :rolleyes:

[hjpan]

Day 9 of NC --> No Contact..

the urge is slowly dying