[cromptondot]

Run as fast and as far as you can and don't look back.

[chuff]

what is she?

Not your problem.

[Jiser]

Get your own life where your happy alone, work on what you want to achieve in your life, she's your past leave it as that.

[talaniman]

Time to move on 4 times is 3 to many.

[mckenzie134]

I feel better about my situatipn reading yours. You can't possibly be so stupid can you. Do you like being punished .

[eric1361]

After treating me like crap and then dumping me for the god knows how many times, it was like walking on eggshells and when I finally stuck up for myself she said she can't take my crap and dump me, sooooo its been 5 days and after she made it clear that I better not CALL, TEXT, EMAIL, OR SHOW MY FACE AT HER HOUSE. OK clear enough, but day 1 she writes saying she hates me for being stupid and causeing her to dump me, wow. Day 3 she writes asking what to do with stuff left at her house which I made clear earlier to trash, day 4 ten oclock at night a call from her house, I don't answer and finally after the 5th call I answer, its her daughter asking what's up? I said nothing, why? She hangs up then calls back, I don't answer and would like to know what they want and will it stop. Are they just rubbing it in. I've never gone this long after she dump me before, I've always wrote her or answered her, I know what I have to do and will. But what are they doing?

[SAB123]

Playing Mind games with you!

[Emland]

They are playing games.

I assume this is the same person you described in an eariler post. She is not stable and now has her kid involved. A non-communication stance seems the best plan of action right now.

[Rockabilly1955mama]

Mind games.

[talaniman]

but what are they doing?

They are playing games with your mind and emotions, to keep you confused so they can control you. Nip it in the bud, by not answering their calls AT ALL. We covered all this in your other thread.

[eric1361]

In my relationship with my ex which ended 6 days ago, she was controlling and controlled everything, when we ate, what we watched, when and how we had sex, who came and went to who's house, I mean EVERYTHING. So after dumping me and writing stupid crap and calling which I haven't responded to any. What does or how does a control freak handle the fact that she lost it, and I'm not under her thumb any longer?

[ballengerb1]

Eric, sounds like she lso want to control the terms of your break up. Count yourself lucky and do not respond to anything she says or write. She will likely continue to stalk you for awhile so have a plan B if she shows up at your home.

[danielnoahsmommy]

Good luck and let her go. Ignore her you know you can do better

[lmnotok]

A little question:: Why and How can you let her control everything like that and all you could do is to listen to what she told you to do?

[eric1361]

You know after being dumped and told don't ever show my face or call or text, well I didn't. We agreed before the break up to go to a walk for life benefit. She emailed me this week saying I'm off the hook and don't have to go. I ask why and she finally said she don't feel like watching girls flirt with me. I said OK, you guys have fun. End of story. I THOUGHT. Then next day she texts and says that I can go and can she drop info off to me before work and me take the papers back to her in a couple days. I said just leave it in my car and ill leave it back in your car, that way no seeing or going on with this. She says no just bring it to her. I haven't heard from her in a couple days and she plans on seeing me in a couple to get the stuff. If its done then what is she doing, I don't want to see her and really I don't want to go to the benefit. I read what all your good advice and I'm through with her. Is this just another little ploy to see if I'm still around? I never said I would meet her. I haven't seen hr in 2 weeks and all I have is the ugly bad memories of her. 1 last advice please.

[Lowtax4eva]

Just text her back and say your not going and don't need these forms, yes it just sounds like a little trick to see you and ask if your single. It doesn't really matter what her intentions are, just do as your doing and keep moving on.

[talaniman]

Stick with your own plans, she loves mind games.

[lmnotok]

I think you should just ignore her, whatever she said, just simply delete it out of your cell phone. Text her back said that " I NEVER WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN IN MY LIFE, so MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS".
ANd, pack all her stuff into a box or something and send straight to her house without showing up (ask some friend to do it or use some service) and write "thats it, thats all, there is nothing beween us anymore, no reason to contact me anymore, bye".
Be strong, young man! :D I have the feeling that you are very nice person so you deserve the best!

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