[talaniman]

I feel your pain and frustration my friend and can only ask that you continue to be loving and patient and understanding for what your wife is going through. It may help to educate yourself on the effects of antidepressants and sex and postpartum depression to see what she is going through. She needs your emotional support and realistically it maybe the better part of 2 years before she and her doctor get a handle on what's going on and find away to deal with it. Just be a good attentive husband and really good father now. You are not alone as many suffer women the same thing. Hang in there and help where ever you can.

[NowWhat]

After I had my child, I hated to look in the mirror. I hated what was looking back at me. I did not want my husband to see me naked. I was so uncomfortable in my own skin. It is hard to get back to where you feel sexy. It took a long time to want to have sex - just because - in my mind I thought "why would he want to even think about touching me - I am repulsive". It was a rough patch.
We got through it. And you will too.
She may not want to talk about it because she is ashamed of what she is feeling. She has taken a step in the right direction with talking to her dr. and getting help. It does take time for the meds to kick in so please continue to be patient.
Good Luck.

[whiteladybug2002]

I bet your wife is as upset about it as you are, but she is not filling you in! It is hard on us women when our sex drive is low or sometimes non exsistant, but we don't tell the men. I wonder, "Where is that sex crazed girl I used to be at?" I remember how good sex was and how close I felt to my husband, but I just can't get turned on! I love and adore my husband and I find him very attractive, but it does nothing for me in the bedroom.

I can imagine it is hard on you and yes 8 months is TOO long, but it is hard on her too! You have to talk to her, no pressure, about your sex life! Try to let her do all the talking and don't take too much personally. Don't tell her at first how you feel or about your needs, really focus and listen to her point of view! She needs to know that you are at least trying to understand her and it will help her feel safe and she might open up to you? It is hard! There is nothing easy about sexual issues in a marriage, but if you are truly dedicated to her and your marriage, you HAVE to TALK!!

Good Luck and God Loves You!!