[minimus]

I'm 51, she's 47.
We've been on a number of vacations during the summer. Actually, I left my marriage of 27 yrs. Total and I always get something thrown at me. This week: "The reason my kids don't like you is because you don't include them"... When I expressed that I'm nothing but nice to them and that THEY like to stay in their rooms and are antisocial, as even their mom will complain, she'll back off and then say that her daughter simply wants the kids and mom to be together and that I derail that for them.

[jolienoire]

Well then it's not you her kids are manipulating her and maybe she feels that she disappointed them with her first marriage, Don't really know her story really or why her and her children's father divorced in the first place, Her kids probably would prefer their mother to be with the father therefore pissing you off by manipulating mom! As I stated these are not small children, and I know teenagers can be very antisocial and in fact feel cheated when mom is happy... I have children myself, divorced and I am in a new relationship although my children are small I try to make them understand now while they are young to respect and understand I am not with their dad...

[minimus]

I concur with your assessment!

[minimus]

I thought I'd tell you the very latest. I found out that my GF went out by herself in January on a Sunday afternoon to a local bar/restaurant that we frequent. She was drunk before she left her house and was, as usual angry at me over a matter she had no reason to be angered over.
She met up with some people we know and she was introduced to another friend of their's.
Throughout the day she never called me except to say she didn't want to have dinner later in the evening. At 12:10 in the morning, I called her and she didn't answer. Eventually at 12:40 she called, asking if I had called her.

She said she left with our friends, actually 5 minutes. After them. I knew the other couple was there from around 12 pm so I thought it unlikely that they'd be there until after midnight.
The next morning my GF called me to unload on something---that the guy she was talking to kissed her and that she responded, "You know that I've got a boyfriend. Why did you do that??" His answer was said to be," I couldn't resist your lips".

She said she really didn't want to go back there and that my friends and the bartender saw the kiss.
Afterward, I called my friend and asked him what time he left. He said 8 pm! Well it turns out that he never saw the kiss, otherwise I would've heard from him. So, I questioned the GF about the timing of the departure. She tried to say he MUST be wrong and then got angry for checking on her.

The other day I found out that they left together and went into her car for 20 minutes and she admitted she kissed him but says that's all.
I demanded my keys to my place back and I told her it was over. She cried and begged me to give her another chance but I said that I suspected that this isn't the first time this type of thing has happened and that she should seriously seek professional help and she said she would...

So that's it.:(

[jolienoire]

I thought I'd tell you the very latest. I found out that my GF went out by herself in January on a Sunday afternoon to a local bar/restaurant that we frequent. She was drunk before she left her house and was, as usual angry at me over a matter she had no reason to be angered over.
She met up with some people we know and she was introduced to another friend of their's.
Throughout the day she never called me except to say she didn't want to have dinner later in the evening. At 12:10 in the morning, I called her and she didn't answer. Eventually at 12:40 she called, asking if I had called her.

She said she left with our friends, actually 5 mins. after them. I knew the other couple was there from around 12 pm so i thought it unlikely that they'd be there til after midnight.
The next morning my GF called me to unload on something---that the guy she was talking to kissed her and that she responded, "You know that I've got a boyfriend. Why did you do that??" His answer was said to be," I couldn't resist your lips".

She said she really didn't want to go back there and that my friends and the bartender saw the kiss.
Afterward, I called my friend and asked him what time he left. He said 8 pm! Well it turns out that he never saw the kiss, otherwise I would've heard from him. So, I questioned the GF about the timing of the departure. She tried to say he MUST be wrong and then got angry for checking on her.

The other day I found out that they left together and went into her car for 20 minutes and she admitted she kissed him but says that's all.
I demanded my keys to my place back and I told her it was over. She cried and begged me to give her another chance but I said that I suspected that this isn't the first time this type of thing has happened and that she should seriously seek professional help and she said she would....

so that's it.:(

I am PROUD of you, Let her go... I am glad you found your cojones! Number one the fact that you don't trust her is a NUMBER ONE REASON to let go as TRUST is the key to a healthy relationship. Her behaviour is very strange... she is way to unpredictable, deceitful, she has not shown signs that she wants to be with you. Don't take her back, as the next time it will be your own fault... You let this go on too long, and I am glad you let her go!! Let her seek the help she need, let her be alone since she wants to act like she is alone!!


Let me also add, that she is selfish... She thinks she can do this to you and just apologize and everything goes to normal! Nope, There is someone out there who would give you the attention, and respect you deserve, as for Missy, her loss... What is she like 14 or something? She has a lot of growing up to do.. And you shouldn't be babysitting...

That is the best thing you could have done so turn that sad face to a SMILE you took your first step into a new beginning

[minimus]

:) Thank you and you are so right!!

[jolienoire]

:) Thank you and you are so right!!!

No prob... I remember talking to you and I kept saying gosh this guy is fairly patient, you allowed way too much... and I think you derserve a REAL woman...



Remember never make the same mistake twice unless you'll never get around to all of them!

[minimus]

I think you're right (again).

[CSW6314]

You should really work on your trust issues. I think the letter was a little bit childish so I can completely understand why she didn't call you. If you were so worried why didn't you just call her? Well just be happy she calling you now and don't keep worrying about it

[minimus]

you should really work on your trust issues. i think the letter was a little bit childish so i can completly understand why she didnt call you. if you were so worried why didnt you just call her? well just be happy she calling you now and dont keep worrying about it

I think you don't have a clue.:(

[jolienoire]

I think you don't have a clue.:(

I don't think they read or even responded to the right post... Ignore that response totally irrelevant... lol

[minimus]

I think the poster's referring to my comments on page 1 but still I believe this person doesn't quite get it.

[jolienoire]

I think the poster's referring to my comments on page 1 but still I believe this person doesn't quite get it.

SO sweetie how have you been? How are you making out?