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    KatyJ Posts: 37, Reputation: 8
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    Jan 15, 2014, 01:31 PM
    Homegirl 50, I am sending them a thank you card acknowledging the gifts and the cards. They are very nice people and very gracious hosts. I am glad to have met them. I was not thinking anything malicious of it until my well meaning (but sometimes too overthinking) friends started commenting about it.

    As for my friend, I have been on his case to get his act together. Currently he's not so fond of me because I have been a little bit more pushy but I just tell him I'm practicing tough love and telling him things he didn't want to hear but should hear. Hopefully, he'll come around :)

    As far as the issue of homosexuality, I know that not just religious people have a problem with it. I think it's going to be polarizing topic for an undetermined amount of time. I am at the mindset of respecting people's opinion regarding the topic whether I agree with it or not. I just stated that his parents are religious in my post because that is the situation in my friend's household.

    :)
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    Jan 18, 2014, 06:00 PM
    UPDATE:I have decided to take a break from our friendship. We had an argument two days ago because he is planning to go to a ski resort this weekend. If his financial situation is any different I wouldn't even care. However, he borrowed money from me to pay some of his credit card bills just last week so to hear that he is going to a ski resort this weekend with some friends after he borrowed money from me to pay his bills is just not sitting well with me. When I brought it up that maybe he should not be spending money he doesn't have he just totally blew up on me (temper tantrum to the maximum level) and sent me really hurtful text messages about how lousy of a friend I am not wanting him to enjoy life. So I've had it. We'll probably make up at some point but I can only help a person who wants to be helped. I can't make someone grow up. And I don't deserve the hurtful accusations hurled at me. He needs to deal with his temper issues on his own.
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    #23

    Jan 18, 2014, 06:33 PM
    It is best that you leave him alone. You have done more than your part. You have been a good friend
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    Jan 18, 2014, 09:50 PM
    Thank you! Yes, I think some time apart will be best for both of us.
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    Jan 19, 2014, 07:02 AM
    Katy, I think you are a very strong and loyal friend. It takes a lot to step back and let a friend hit rock bottom. But it sounds like that is what he needs. He won't get help or make any changes as long as others support his current behavior.

    I applaud your choice and strength. I know there will be some second guessing of the decision. It is normal. You care. But remember it is best for both of you. Enjoy your life.

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