[Jiser]

I know my ex has remained friends with the two closest/longest of her relationships. This caused allot of friction especially when there were unresolved feelings on her behalf even after several years.

[iAMfromHuntersBar]

I'm still friends with the majority of my ex's, and even have a few of them as friends on myspace too!

Although I often think that may be just to rub their faces in how good my life is now! He he!

The fact that my current girlfriend is also an ex-girlfriend is a different matter...

[Geoffersonairplane]

Geoff, I didn't realize that you had been the one who had asked to remain friends with your ex when she ended things with you. I didn't realize that she had been the one to turn the offer down. Looking back now though, do you think that it would have been a good idea? Could you truly have done it had she said yes?

Yeah..

Too be honest, I said it out of shock really and deep down knew it would not work out. For me it was shock talk, for her it was just an instant reaction to what I suggested. She kind of accepted the offer and then rejected it straight away. Then, I and she would not have stuck to it anyway. I could not handle seeing her with another man's arms around her while out for a drink. She knew it, I knew it and she knew exactly why we could not remain friends and my instinct tells me she acted very quickly on her exploring way of life.. LOL

Looking back, she did not ask me for friendship because she was (in my opinion) desperate to explore the single, wild life and she hinted that for a good 7 months before the break-up. Out of sight, out of mind and free from any guilt>>>that's it---Freedom.. Nobody can blame someone for that I guess.

That hurts to think like that again but facing the truth is important as it helps to move forward which I most certainly have done. It would be a nice concept to remain friends with an ex but in a lot of cases if the feelings were strong, it is difficult. The only way it could happen for me and my ex is if I fall in love with someone else and the feelings for the ex diminish. Because even though I am through the pain (for the most part) of the breakup after 7 months, I still have feelings inside... Its strange, I have let go and accepted it but I still have feelings...

Sorry, looking at the past is perhaps not good but just a bit of reflection I guess..

[Jiser]

MMm talking about ex and friends. I know my ex mentioned even after several years it still hurt for her to see her ex's with other people. Even though she was with me!

[tickle]

I enjoyed your post, southernbelle. Let me say that I do think that relationships are treated differently noticeably where you live, either in Europe, Canada, S. America because ethnicity does make a difference.