[madjack7]

Then she is probably not interested.

All right thanks, I was afraid of that. Do I pursue her and try and "win her over" or shall I try and let her go?

[Enigma1999]

Alright thanks, I was afraid of that. Do I pursue her and try and "win her over" or shall I try and let her go?

I would leave it alone...

Normaly if two people are interested, one will reveal first, then the other person will agree to it...

She, however, didn't bring it up.

She knows how you feel, and yet says nothing.

[odinn7]

I would say let it go before you make yourself look bad and desperate. If she hasn't said anything, she's not interested. Trying to "win her over" will probably just aggravate her and push her away.

[Homegirl 50]

Alright thanks, I was afraid of that. Do I pursue her and try and "win her over" or shall I try and let her go?

Let her go. She knows how you feel and she chose not to respond.

[madjack7]

Thanks for the answers, I will try and let her go I think. :/ However I do think she should have said something to me even if it was sorry I am not interested. I just thought we were originally better friends than she made out us to bee.

[odinn7]

Maybe she just didn't know how to handle hearing that... maybe you caught her off guard and she panicked.

When I was 17 I had a girl tell me that... I panicked. I handled it all wrong. I look back at that now and I hate that I behaved that way but I did. Sometimes we do things that we shouldn't when we are put in an awkward situation.

[odinn7]

Am I the only one who here who thinks he should defiantly go after her!? I have learnt always go after the ones you love! Anything could happen, trust me it is never over until she says to your face 'no'!

Oh, that's some great advice from someone who needed to ask this question...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ou-712222.html

[talaniman]

You don't seem to handle rejection very well. You better learn how.

[madjack7]

Well this is not easy but I sure as hell am trying to get away from her, how long do these 'phases' last and does it get worse before it gets better?

[Homegirl 50]

You just stay busy doing other things, It will pass.

[madjack7]

Hi guys was just wondering if you had any tips on getting over a girl? You see it's quite difficult as I see her everyday and my friends are friends with hers so its not easy!

[FightingBlues]

I suppose it depends if these 3 friends of yours still hang out with her. If not, then if the two of you decide to go out with one other, you could try to limit the amount of awkward encounters you experience within the same friendship circle (but then this would make it seem rather restrictive and unnatural). It all depends what you and her are willing to tolerate if you decide to date and what you think your friends can also handle (you don't want to have them feel their trust in you is betrayed if you are bringing an old flame to the mix). If you think she will be uncomfortable about hanging out with your friends because she used to date them, then this could pose a serious problem for you in a relationship. On one hand, you will resent the fact she doesn't want to hang out with your friends no matter how much you think her reason is justified and she, on the other hand, might feel out of the loop. You will want her to be there with you, to be a part of your life and if these friends are a big part of your life then there's no way you will feel satisfied if she is unable to join in on the same interests, hobbies and friendship circles. If, however, it doesn't phase her that she used to date them and she's cool hanging out then use that as a way to get to know her better and strengthen the relationship. That's just looking realistically ahead if you wanted to pursue this. But thinking in the present, you have nothing to lose by asking her out. She knows there's a good possibly she'll have to face her exs if she goes out with you (because you hang out with them). So if she says "yes" she is aware what she's getting into.

For you, I would just air with a side of caution though because I used to know a girl who dated everyone in the same circle of friends. After a while, it not only gives that person a bad reputation among people, but it makes you feel like she takes your relationship just as lightly if, for example, she decides to eventually leave you and move on to the next friend. Just make sure she isn't repeating history here with you. Otherwise, you will find yourself in the midst of unnecessary hurt and confusion if she decides to go out with another one of your friends. You really don't want a girl who will hop from one guy to the next. If that's the case, she sees no meaning in the relationships she's seeking. She's just dating for the sake of dating. Not fair to you if a committed relationship with her is what you want.

Hope this helped you look at it from a slightly different angle. Good luck!

[madjack7]

Thanks, this helps and also makes for very interesting reading! I don't know if you read through all the previous answers but my view had changed on this girl and ironically she was closer to the group than the first one but had never dated any of them! I don't know whether this is me just being unlucky with girls or a moaning little b****! Anyway this new girl to cut it short told her I liked her she ignored me (it's all revealed in the previous answers... ) and now I am going about the slow process of getting over her. :D

[talaniman]

LOL, we all have to learn how we will handle rejection, since it comes with the landscape of love and romance. Be nice if the object of our affections felt the same way as we do, but mostly they don't.

[madjack7]

I am learning how to handle rejection, sure it is not easy the first couple of times and I am pretty sure human emotion would never be happy when rejected as far as I see it it's fine to be downhearted,