[JudyKayTee]

Have you given thought to how this will affect your kids? Are you planning on completely destroying this man's marriage as well by being open about this?
I think you are being selfish. You want your cake and eat it too. Like teenager with overloaded hormones wanting to shout out to the world.
You are a a married woman with children for goodness sake.

Maybe if this is about defending loving two men it should be a discussion - obviously the advice is going unheeded and other people might have other opinions in another place.

[UWillDK]

Oh, I knew people would react like this. No, we can't cease contact, our lives are totally intertwined. And yes, his relationship was not good before anything happened. And NO - we haven't actually slept together.

Next please?

No duh people are going to react like this, because it's WRONG.
You really don't deserve to be married. Your choices have shown a level of immaturity, selfishness and disrespect that no partner deserves. What are you thinking? All of this has been about you, and I'm sure you've made up every excuse in the book to justify your behaviors the whole way through. You feel a connection with him? That's normal! But that doesn't mean you have to act on it. You've been cheating emotionally, and you've been cheating physically. You're also acting like a home wrecker in other people's relationships. Ask yourself this: how many lives are you affecting? You're also behaving like a toxic narcissist. Your posts show zero remorse and zero empathy for your husband. It's bizarre. If you don't want to act like a married woman, then fess up to your husband and do him the biggest favor of your lives: get a divorce.

[JudyKayTee]

Uwilldk, is there any reason you are opening threads as old as 2010 to vent about cheating?

Do you have a question?