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Shanang · Jun 25, 2012, 05:28 PM

Originally Posted by GV70

No. That's the way the system works in the USA.
The children are not viewed as properties.

I'm not calling him a property I'm saying I don't want to give him my address

JudyKayTee · Jun 25, 2012, 05:36 PM

Originally Posted by Shanang

I'm not calling him a property I'm jst saying I don't want to give him my address

Was the father this big heavy drinking loser when you were having sex with him... or did that happen after the child was born?

Shanang · Jun 25, 2012, 05:38 PM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Was the father this big heavy drinking loser when you were having sex with him ... or did that happen after the child was born?

After he only got in contact in march my son was two in may, il go solicitor in the morning

GV70 · Jun 25, 2012, 05:39 PM

As Scott said you keep digging a deeper hole for yourself.
Try to put yourself in another shoes. Let's imagine that a third party/ a judge/ have to look in a case where a father wants to establish rights and a mother is not willing to cooperate and hides her/ and the child's/ her present whereabouts is.

GV70 · Jun 25, 2012, 05:40 PM

Ops... you are in UK

Shanang · Jun 25, 2012, 05:44 PM

Originally Posted by GV70

ops ...you are in UK

Yeah why is that oops? I've been more than fair with him an I don't want to go to court so don't see why I have to by made that's all I'm happy for him to see him but not with out me why does that make me the baddy?

GV70 · Jun 25, 2012, 05:50 PM

Originally Posted by Shanang

Yeah why is that oops?

Because the laws vary from country to country and from state to state. There is a big difference between the laws in USA and UK.

Originally Posted by Shanang

I don't want to go to court

And I do not want to see Obama as the president but I can change nothing.

Originally Posted by Shanang

so don't see why I have to by made that's all I'm happy for him to see him but not with out me why does that make me the baddy?

Who said you were bad because it?

GV70 · Jun 25, 2012, 05:55 PM

Generally in the UK if a father is proven to be the father, then he gets immediately Parental responsibility which is similar to legal custody. After that he can file in Court for contact order/ visitation/. There is no strict conditions how much time to be granted.
According to the Children Act ,
(1)In this Act —
“a contact order” means an order requiring the person with whom a child lives, or is to live, to allow the child to visit or stay with the person named in the order, or for that person and the child otherwise to have contact with each other;
“a prohibited steps order” means an order that no step which could be taken by a parent in meeting his parental responsibility for a child, and which is of a kind specified in the order, shall be taken by any person without the consent of the court;
“a residence order” means an order settling the arrangements to be made as to the person with whom a child is to live; and
“a specific issue order” means an order giving directions for the purpose of determining a specific question which has arisen, or which may arise, in connection with any aspect of parental responsibility for a child.

I have seen many orders from two times direct contact a year to shared residence plan.

Shanang · Jun 25, 2012, 05:58 PM

Originally Posted by GV70

Because the laws vary from country to country and from state to state. There is a big difference between the laws in USA and UK.

No jst coz yr saying I'm digging myself deeper , didn't relies this was American il jst go to a solicitor thanks tho sorry to have troubled you

And I do not want to see Obama as the president but I can change nothing.

Who said you were bad because it?

no because yr saying I'm digging myself in deeper didn't relies this was American il go to a solicitors sorry for troubling you an thanks for yr time

GV70 · Jun 25, 2012, 06:03 PM

I bet the solicitor will tell you that the father can file for paternity determination and contact order.

Shanang · Jun 25, 2012, 06:06 PM

Originally Posted by GV70

I bet the solicitor will tell you that the father can file for paternity determination and contact order.

Okay thanks

ScottGem · Jun 25, 2012, 06:50 PM

Originally Posted by Shanang

he doesn't need to know where it is !

Yeah he does!! You didn't seem to understand what I said before. He is the child's father. He has rights. You can't ignore that! Ok,so he didn't want to be part of his son's life the first 2 years. So he had a change in heart. He's allowed. The fact that he ignored the first 2 years will be considered by the court.

And yes, I'm saying you need to get your custody and visitation established before you move. Again, you chose to have sex with him. You know have to live with that decision.

If you find this confusing then get a lawyer.