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    Apr 21, 2012, 06:49 PM

    Okay so what if she comes back to me? Or asks me why I haven't been talking to her..
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    Apr 21, 2012, 07:47 PM
    Cross that bridge when you come to it and the truth is always the best, you have no desire to seek romance with a female with a boyfriend, and you don't abide cheating. that simple, and if you cannot resist the charms of a girl in HS, when you know she is wrong, boy, are you in trouble of your own making.
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    Apr 21, 2012, 08:07 PM
    Does anybody else have any more to say about my entire situation with this girl?
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    Apr 25, 2012, 02:05 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ultima92 View Post
    Does anybody else have any more to say about my entire situation with this girl?
    Well, my advice would be that if she is degrading you in anyway, move on. Does she treat you with respect? If she is leading you on you will know it, deep down. If your gut is unsure it'll be for a reason.

    By the way, I'm in a similar situation - I like a girl who has a boyfriend, but I'm pretty sure she likes me back. People will disagree with me on this but I just want to sit it out since she seems to respect me etc... but I will look around while I wait. So should you, since your girl obviously doesn't really respect you. Correct me if you're sure I'm wrong there though...
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    #25

    Apr 26, 2012, 12:46 PM
    Honestly.. I don't know what's going on anymore. I haven't talked to her for over a week now. And I know everybody on this site seems to believe that she lied to me and played me.. but I don't know about that. Because if she really did lie to me, why would she get angry at me for thinking that she lied to me? *sigh* its all one confusing mess...
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    Apr 26, 2012, 04:26 PM
    You will see. Give it 6 months. A week means NOTHING, its barely a good start.
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    Apr 26, 2012, 04:31 PM
    Ah man... what do you mean it's barely a good start? A good start... for.. Seems to me that you're completely set on knowing what's going on between me and her. And if 6 months go by and I haven't talked to her, then obviously my mind is way past her. I don't see what you're trying to say...
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    Apr 26, 2012, 04:38 PM
    So your goal is to see if she wants you back? Not to heal and move on??
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    Apr 26, 2012, 04:45 PM
    Goal? Not sure if I have one if it comes to her. I mean, this Sunday will be two weeks that I haven't spoken to her. I don't know anymore... who knows what the future holds. It's like I said before, I've felt some strange, unexplained 'connection' between her and I.. I know she felt it too.. its hard man. And this whole situation... seems like some test or trial to me...
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    Apr 26, 2012, 05:09 PM
    I highly suggest you set a goal to have a great time without her, and seeing this as a test is a good idea. It's a test if you can see what's right for yourself, based on facts, and not just feelings. Right now there are intense feelings, making you ignore obvious facts.
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    Apr 26, 2012, 05:31 PM
    The facts huh. Well, I'm not ignoring anything. Except her, given the fact that I haven't talked to her in a week and a half. Now that's a fact. You can try and say that you know what's going on between her and I, but you can't possibly know everything because you haven't experienced it in my shoes. Now, from my experience, my gut has never let me down, its always proven to be right, and it told me that she really does feel the way that she claimed to feel about me. It also told me that she's confused and scared to take the risk of leaving that Guy, to be with me... because possibly something could happen to where she ends up losing me or whatever... and then she's left there alone and hurting. Heartbroken. So obviously, she took the easy way out and chose to stay where she is at. I mean, look at what she's told me, "It's like I do want you really badly and then I its I don't" that pretty proves my theory that I just explained to you. And I know you probably thinking that I'm dumb, young and blind... but I'm really not..
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    Apr 26, 2012, 05:58 PM
    I think yo are disappointed she didn't dump this guy for you. But a fact you are ignoring, as I pointed out before, is she is talking sweet stuff to you, yet she has a boyfriend, and has lied about breaking up with him to keep your attention. That's devious, and that's a fact. Her feelings may be true, but not her actions.

    Yes she is taking the easy safe way out, but that doesn't change the facts.
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    Apr 27, 2012, 04:55 PM
    Yeah. I am disappointed. Not only that, but shocked as well. I'm not the only one. My friend that got me her number can't believe that she didn't leave for me. He has actually told her that in school "I figured you would leave any dude to be with Ryan" (my name is Ryan) and you look at what she said, "It's not that I wouldn't, I just got scared. I chickened out." Hmm. Also... my friend says that her eyes get bigger whenever my name is mentioned. The way he explained it to me was, whenever my name is mentioned, she locks in and focuses on what is being said...
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    #34

    Apr 27, 2012, 08:39 PM
    Does you no good to let others keep you jacked up with news of her.
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    Apr 28, 2012, 04:40 PM
    Thing is, everyone is selfish to an extent and the reality is people will often want (and sometimes get) other people that they shouldn't really. But yeah, if she likes you so much, why does she not just dump her boyfriend?
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    Apr 29, 2012, 08:26 PM
    She wouldn't dump him at that time because she was scared. She was dating him because she felt sorry for him because he says his life sucks blah blah. She didn't want to hurt him. She didn't know how to do. She told me that she spent an entire class period planning the break up, and then when she saw him after class, she got scared and backed down. She took the easy way out dude. I don't understand... I really do miss her so much. I was doing good this pas week about moving on from her and just not caring, but she always comes back to my mind... it's hard man, I WISH there was something I can do... :(

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