[LearningAsIGo]

Shouldn't STD's also be a concern? Pregnancy isn't the only potential issue when having sex without a condom.

[Lindsay2012]

Not all men precum , and yes I already now tr consequences. We're not planning to have kids anytimes soon and were discussed our options too. How old we're isn't really a concern . Also neither of us have a std. Just saying

Yes our relationship is very serious I'm moving in with him very soon . We talk about our future all the time .

[Alty]

Hey Alty, is there REALLY sperm in pre-ejaculate? I don't want to get swarmed here (like I was with my very first question), but I've read a few studies here and there on the web that said yes and a few that said no. My ex was on the Depo shot for 3 years and I just always pulled on time, every time and even a year after she was off the shot. I'm just curious if it's a hard and true fact set in stone because I don't think it is.

Ah, if I relied on the web for information I'd be lost. Most of the information on the web is not true. I could point to many sites or posts that give the wrong information.

There is plenty of sperm in pre-ejaculate. More than enough for pregnancy.

Also, the depo shot is a valid form of birth control, but like every other birth control method on the market, it's not 100%.

I think that people have to start questioning what they're willing to risk. If someone said "put this gun to your head, pull the trigger, there's a 98% chance you won't get shot", would you do it? Are those odds good enough for you?

Let's be even more realistic. Let's put human error into the equation, which makes birth control methods even less reliable. Just like our poster, she wants her boyfriend to ejaculate in her, not use a condom. So we up the ante. Is she using depo correctly? That is also a concern.

So is the depo shot effective? It's only as effective as the people using it, and even used correctly it's still not 100%.

I know many people personally that got pregnant on the depo shot.

I personally have a friend that had one ovary, PCOD, ovarian cysts, was on the pill, used a condom, doctor told her she'd never have children, and she got pregnant. In fact, she has 3 children, all conceived while on birth control and with all her other issues.

Getting pregnant while using birth control is not as rare as people think.

[odinn7]

Not all men precum

You know this as a fact? I'd have to say that you're pretty much wrong here. You may not see it, but it happens.

[Alty]

You know this as a fact? I'd have to say that you're pretty much wrong here. You may not see it, but it happens.

Yup. I love when people post crap they found on the internet.

Pre- is a natural lubricant that happens when a man is aroused. Just like women get "wet" when they're aroused, men do too. That wetness is loaded with sperm. All it takes is one.

But hey, it's not my body. I'm not the one that would have to go through the pregnancy. Not my choice. But, the poster asked for info, and we gave her the correct info, not the misinformation found on the web. It's her choice now. If she chooses wrong then I see a "Am I pregnant" thread in her future.

[Lindsay2012]

All men precum then how come I've never saw it or felt it ? Yet again I said we discussed our options and both agreed on the same thing option .

[odinn7]

I haven't hung out with you and your guy so I can't say for sure why you haven't seen or felt it... but the fact is, it happens.

[Lindsay2012]

I'm just wondering shouldn't I feel that or something ? We've been having sex for quite sometime now and I haven't noticed anything . Do they precum every time

[Alty]

All men precum then how come I've never saw it or felt it ? Yet again I said we discussed our options and both agreed on the same thing option .

You've never seen it or felt it because the majority of women don't. New flash, most women don't feel a man ejaculate inside of them. I never have.

If you've discussed it and both of you are okay with the possibility that you could become pregnant, then that's the choice the two of you have made.

We can only give you the facts. What you do with them is your business.

Good luck.

[Lindsay2012]

I'm not getting pregnant just saying . I'm tired of everyone Saying I'm going to . I'm to young I'm not going to be having a child at my age , it's way too soon .

[Lindsay2012]

And yet your telling me not to do it but yet you've done it before .

[Alty]

And yet ur telling me not to do it but yet you've done it before .

Of course I have. I'm married, and I wanted children. I have 2. It's a lot easier to get pregnant when you don't use birth control.

[Lindsay2012]

Okay well I'm on birth control , it's not like I sleep with every guy I've been with him and one other person . Me and him are in a very serious relationship were moving in together in a few months .

[Alty]

I'm not gettin pregnant just saying . I'm tired of everyone Sayin I'm going to . I'm to young I'm not going to be having a child at my age , it's way too soon .

There's a difference between not wanting a child, and having one.

You can say that you're too young all you want. The fact is, you're having sex, so pregnancy is possible.

It's not all up to you. It's not all your choice. Things can and do happen.

You have the information. It's up to you to decide. If you choose to take chances then don't come back saying you didn't know, because you were told.

It's up to you now. We can't force you to accept the facts, we can only give them to you.

You can keep posting that you don't believe it, but you've been told the truth. There's nothing else we can tell you. You're resisting the truth. That's your choice, but don't think for a minute that just because you want to ignore that truth, and don't want a child, that you can't get pregnant. You can.

Okay well I'm on birth control , it's not like I sleep with every guy I've been with him and one other person . Me and him are in a very serious relationship were moving in together in a few months .

Yes. My friend was on birth control too, even though she was told by two different doctors that she'd never have children. Not ever.

She has 3, all conceived while on birth control.

We have a member on this site that is currently pregnant. She was on the depo shot, used it correctly.

We have other members on this site that got pregnant using 3 different forms of birth control.

I'm glad that you're serious, but you keep saying you don't want a child right now. Are you prepared to accept that you may have one even if you don't want one?

The way you're posting you seem so certain that an unwanted pregnancy cannot happen. That's simply not true.

If you come back and say "we're serious, we're moving in together, and if I get pregnant, even though we don't want a baby right now, we'll accept it", then fine.

But that's not what you're saying. You seem to think that it can't happen. We're telling you with absolute fact that it can.

[Synnen]

I'm not gettin pregnant just saying . I'm tired of everyone Sayin I'm going to . I'm to young I'm not going to be having a child at my age , it's way too soon .

How young ARE you?

[SentientAndroid]

:/ I think all men pre-***, unless he has a condition that says otherwise. I'm not trying to come down on you like some of the others are, we're just saying that it's a very real possibility that you could become pregnant.

[LearningAsIGo]

Some STD's take years to surface so unless you're both being tested regularly, its possible. Pregnancy is also possible. I think you're looking for validation that if he's willing to have risky sex with you, it must mean he likes you a lot.

Early in the thread you made it sound as though it makes him nervous but he's willing to do it just once for you... that sounds to me like he's uncomfortable and you should respect his wishes. He has good reason to be concerned as all the posters above me have pointed out.

At the end of the day, you're going to do what you want to do and that's fine, but you did come here asking questions and we all answered as truthfully as possible. At least you have the proper information in front of you.