Originally Posted by
FreeFallinBabe
:confused: Okay, so what is abusive? I mean on the Hallmark channel they always show it as like the guy or girl totally freaking out and smacking the other person. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and a half. He has been a complete gentlemen until the past month. Yeah we had our jealousy issues, who doesnt...but now it seems different. A week or two ago (for simplicity ill call him drew) Drew was being immature and wanted some dumb plastic thing from one of our guy friends. I asked him to stop pulling it away and he spazzed and rung my hand behind my back in front of all of our friends. I was hurt and shocked! He later told me he thought i was siding with my guy friend. He had been jealous.
Also, he has always liked to hold my hand or wrapped his arm around my back. I have always been ok with it but now he does it more out of possession i feel. Like he was talking to his friend and we were walking down the hallway in school and a guy i used to like walked by. He abruptly ended the convo. with his friend and tugged me closer.
He will tickle me and ill ask him to please stop and he'll tickle harder. He constantly will go up to any guy friend of ours that happens to be talking to me and will pretend to like slit his throat and than put his arm around me and laugh it off.
I just dont understand he tells me he is afraid of losing me so he pulls me closer and doesnt listen when i ask him to stop. He tells me he loves me and he has never hurt me physically except for the arm thing...that is why i feel maybe i am over-reacting but i would like a second opinion. Thanks!
That's how it starts ,I have been a victim of abuse as well .Yes by the hand of a woman believe it or not .They start with small stuff like twisting the arm and then it escalates to hitting.. I have been there I know and I was in denial because I loved this person but now that I look back upon it I did the best thing by leaving... J
