[hidden123]

I agree with the points made above - taking time is one thing, but disappearing for 2 months without a word is a whole different thing. Also - just because he said "see you soon", means absolutely nothing, but having you wait for him wile he is living his life...

[Nikiw]

When you are soulmates for 9 years and went throw difficult times it is unbelieveble to accept! I still want to see the good in him. Or is this naïve?

[Nikiw]

You are completely right! And I think also like that. But a break temperaly( I HOpe) after 9 years it is possible. People chance and need something's time for themselves no?

[amicon]

He has all but disappeared;he doesn't get in touch-he's a coward who was too scared to face you and break up with you.

How much longer are you going to wait in limbo,clutching at straws?

[I wish]

Who knows what he's thinking. We can't read his mind. The point now is that you need to worry about yourself. Figure out your money and feelings.

The unanswered questions that you have in your mind are very valid questions, but you're not going to be able to get any answers if he doesn't want to communicate with you. I understand that it's difficult for you to accept that you won't be getting any answers. But you have to set aside these questions so that you can worry about immediate concerns first.

Take this one step at the time. Figure out the immediate issues first. One day you might get the closure that you need from this break up, but it's going to take some time.

[Nikiw]

The result of 'I need time for myself 'is he had someone else for those months.
Now he say this was the mistake of my life.
He loves me but don't see a future with me.
I still love him and want to forgive him but he don't see it that way.
What can I do?

[vanheart]

Leave him alone.

Move on.

It doesn't make sense to invest anymore of your time or heart on someone that doesn't feel the same.

Hes using you.

"He loves me but don't see a future with me"

See? What's the point?

[amicon]

Give up?

Look the writing's on the wall-in c a p I t al s-it's over.

Please let this go and start healing.

He's not worth another minute of your thoughts.

[I wish]

The result of 'I need time for my self 'is he had someone else for those months.

In other words, he went experimenting with another woman while keeping you as the safety net / backup plan.

Now he say this was the mistake of my life.

Oh look! His experiment failed and he came back to his backup plan.

He loves me but don't see a future with me.

What changed? He's still leaving you hanging as the safety net.

I still love him and want to forgive him but he don't see it that way.

Loving him and wanting to forgive him is one thing. But he obviously doesn't care about you the same way.

What can I do?

Keep him out of your life and continue healing from the break up.

Remind yourself and I will do it for you now too, that you deserve to be treated better than this. You deserve to be with someone who considers you his priority and not a dormat.