Originally Posted by
klkl57
Thank you for the responses. The girl's parents don't care what she does and that she is dating a boy way to old for her. Before this girl, my son was a terrific kid, popular, well behaved and well mannered but now I have no control over him and he is this totally different person.
He works and pays for his own stuff. His father (my ex) has told me in front of him, that I have no right to tell him what to do and that I need to leave him alone, this is his decision. However, if something would happen, his father will not be there for him as he is really not there for him now. But this was a way for him to get back at me so my son is running with it.
I don't want to lose my son and I don't want to see him throw his life away for this girl. However, I may not have any choice but to let go. Someone mentioned if he gets into trouble, I could be dragged into it as an accomplice. I don't want to be dragged into this. This girl is not allowed in my home, my vehicles, or able to call my house. He always sneaks off to see her or just tells me he is going. However, her mother and uncle fully approve of this relationship and don't see any problems.
I am at a loss at what to do, I just want my son back!
My concern was that you could get in trouble for your son's actions in your household. Since you don't allow her near your house, vehicle, or phone, I can't see any way trouble could bleed over onto you.
Unfortunately, he's a legal adult. There's not really much you can do to influence his actions, and he's the one that has to live with their consequences. The only thing you can do is let your stance be known and make him aware of the possible consequences that may arise.
It's too bad her family cares so little for their little girl.
