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Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 01:30 PM

You are a wonderful writer. What about writing articles on golf for several golf magazines? You probably know a lot about golf. (I know what a tee is.) I'll even act as your proofreader/editor.

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 01:33 PM

Been together for a year now, we knew each other before we started seeing each other for about 2 years. She works in the hotel that's how I got to know her. To begin with she thought that I was just out for a bit of fun with her but realised that I was serious. Deep down I really am a good at heart person, and I know how my dad treated my mum, and I always said to myself that whoever I am with, they would never be treated that way.

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 01:44 PM

Thought about it, more really to pass the time. It just kills me that my girlfriend won't reply to my text messages that I sent her. It hurts that I can't see her, I miss her cats, when I'm not with her Its as if something is missing. It's like the jerry McGuire film when he says you complete me. You may think that we have only been together a year but we were practically with each other everyday and it kills me not being with her.

Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 01:46 PM

Why won't she reply? What's been going on? Is she tired of your upsets?

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 01:49 PM

I think so, she has done it before as everything started to kick off in October. Maybe we have just spent too much time with one another and she just needs time to be alone, but it's the not knowing that is unbearable.

Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 01:51 PM

What about the writing? Is that worth pursuing?

Tell her you miss the cats.

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 01:57 PM

Never really about the writing, I know I would start but then stop because I don't really know where to send it to. I slept at hers on Friday night and we had an argument and then she said " I think it would be better if you slept at yours tomorrow night" . As I woke up and left, she was still sleeping , it was hard saying bye to the cats because I don't know the next time I would or will see them again. I treated them as of they where my own.

Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 02:02 PM

Originally Posted by Allanwhite12320

Never really about the writing, I know I would start but then stop because I don't really know where to send it to.

That part I can help you with.

it was hard saying bye to the cats because I don't know the next time I would or will see them again. I treated them as of they where my own.

I totally understand your missing the cats. If you text her again, be exciting and adventerous and even mysterious sounding, not needy and upset and suicidal, or however you've been.

I have five cats now, with two new ones rescued from our yard (we've been feeding and socializing them since summer). Deborah and Dido have blended right in and I hope are grateful, since there's abo8ut two feet of snow outside from a blizzard last week (Chicago).

Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 02:03 PM

Originally Posted by Allanwhite12320

Never really about the writing, I know I would start but then stop because I don't really know where to send it to.

That part I can help you with.

it was hard saying bye to the cats because I don't know the next time I would or will see them again. I treated them as of they where my own.

If you text her again, be exciting and adventerous and even mysterious sounding, not needy and upset and suicidal, or however you've been.

I totally understand your missing the cats. I have five cats now, with two new ones rescued from our yard around Christmas (we've been feeding and socializing them since summer). Deborah and Dido have blended right in and I hope are grateful, since there's about two feet of snow outside from a blizzard last week (Chicago).

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 02:12 PM

I looked on the Internet on how to send stuff that you have written but never really saw anything that helped. I would have fun writing stuff but what? There are so many writers on golf and the top magazines already have their writers.

Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 02:22 PM

Originally Posted by Allanwhite12320

I looked on the Internet on how to send stuff that you have written but never really saw anything that helped. I would have fun writing stuff but what? There are so many writers on golf and the top magazines already have their writers.

Then find a niche -- handicapped/disabled golfers, women golfers (women's mags are always looking for articles), kid golfers just starting and children's mags also look for articles. Golfing is kind of a weird subject (not your usual cake recipe or toy article). I did one with a writing friend who has Asperger's -- he's a big fisherman, so we connected how fishing has helped him with various needs he has. It will be out in March in an autism magazine.

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 02:27 PM

Maybe I should write something, thanks for the ideas, I don't want to bore you with my problems but it's always nice to be able to talk to someone who can maybe help.

Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 02:29 PM

Originally Posted by Allanwhite12320

Maybe I should write something, thanks for the ideas, I don't want to bore you with my problems but it's always nice to be able to talk to someone who can maybe help.

In real life, I'm a counselor (when I wasn't cataloging books at a public library -- am retired now), so I love being bored listening to people's problems.

I don't know how much help I am, but I hope I am giving you options to think about.

And be sure to text the cats by name to say goodnight tonight.

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 02:35 PM

You are a great help, believe you me. I just don't want to annoy my girlfriend, I have only written 2 texts since yesterday but I still don't want to feel as though I pestering her. You said before that I am a good writer, how do you know?

Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 02:41 PM

Originally Posted by Allanwhite12320

You are a great help, believe you me. I just don't want to annoy my girlfriend, I have only written 2 texts since yesterday but I still don't want to feel as though I pestering her.

Address a text to a cat by name and talk to the cat about something -- "Has Mommy given you any treats today?" or "Have you been getting in your sixteen hours of sleep per day since I last saw you?" Women are totally charmed when you do something like that, text her cat. How many cats are there, by the way?

You said before that I am a good writer, how do you know?

I'm a perfectionist when it comes to grammar and spelling and punctuation, and I can see you write well just by looking at your writing. It flows and is interesting to read. And you aren't a native English speaker either, although you started learning English when you were young?

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 02:48 PM

I am Scottish, I have lived in germany for 7 years now. There are 2 cats, Emma and leonie, Emma is pure black and leonie is grey And silver. Emma is around 1 1/2 and leonie is 8 months. Both really sweet. Emma is more the quiet one but has her moments and leonie is the more playful one.

Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 02:54 PM

Originally Posted by Allanwhite12320

I am Scottish, I have lived in germany for 7 years now. There are 2 cats, Emma and leonie, Emma is pure black and leonie is grey And silver. Emma is around 1 1/2 and leonie is 8 months. Both really sweet. Emma is more the quiet one but has her moments and leonie is the more playful one.

They sound like beautiful cats. Yes, text them!! It's time you became playful.

Of ours, Rasputin is black and white and 19 years old, Kuro is 11 and from our back yard and must be part Maine Coon and is all black with a beautiful profile, Little Debbie is gray and maybe six years old and another rescue, and then there are the two recent rescues, Deborah and Dido, both black and sleek and maybe two years old. I totally adore cats!

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 02:59 PM

I love cats as well, I sent a text and wished my girlfriend goodnight and also the cats by name and told my girlfriend that I love her, but she hasn't replied. Just hope she gets in touch tomorrow. But won't hold my breath.

Wondergirl · Feb 6, 2011, 03:04 PM

Originally Posted by Allanwhite12320

I love cats aswell, I sent a text and wished my gf goodnight and also the cats by name and told my gf that I love her, but she hasn't replied. Just hope she gets in touch tomorrow. But won't hold my breath.

I think stay out of your gf's hair and don't annoy her by acting needy. When you talk with her, tell her you are getting into writing or talk about the future, that should help. She's probably scared for you and don't want her heart to get broken.

Allanwhite12320 · Feb 6, 2011, 03:11 PM

Going to try and get to sleep now, it's 11 pm here now. Will try and get some sleep. Thanks very much for your help and your time. I will let you know if she gets in touch and let you know what's happening.