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Jessicacn · Dec 19, 2010, 08:09 AM

We are dating for 2 or 3 months, as a girl, I expect he call me everyday. But he does not.Of course, I do not make a call if he does not call me. Sometimes, he send me sms to say hallo... he always call me or text me every two days... does he really like me?

J_9 · Dec 19, 2010, 08:17 AM

How old are you? Don't smother him.

joypulv · Dec 19, 2010, 08:53 AM

I'm not so sure that I agree about waiting to see what he says, since someone has to bring it up, right?
Is it fair that men are assumed to be more skittish about living together?
One question I have is, do you expect to move in with him, him with you, or you find a place together?
Another question is if you are ready, since you are here asking if it's OK. If you were ready, I think you would be more comfortable about the subject with him already. It doesn't sound like you know each other well enough, or you would have a sense of how he feels.

It's certainly OK to say 'I want to be able to sleep next to you all night long.' Depending on his response, yo may have to think about whether you want to go on like this much longer.

Jessicacn · Dec 19, 2010, 09:00 AM

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I said that already... during weekend, if I want to. I can stay overnights.. but he is business man. He is not free every weekend... I like to stay overnight with him. Not to find a place to stay.. I am so sure about that...

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If possiblly I can do. I chose never fall in love. So suffering.. . You call that smother? Are you a girl or boy? I do not know. I like to the guy show me his care to me

talaniman · Dec 19, 2010, 03:32 PM

Reading and merging all your questions leads me to believe you think you struck gold and are ready to sell the farm and move to the city. Better slow down and pay closer attention before you get hurt young girl. Sorry but you sound young, and eager,. and reckless. You better find out if the glitter you see is real gold, or fools gold. That may take some time.

Jessicacn · Dec 23, 2010, 06:51 AM

He can do not call me for several days. That makes me feel I am not needed. Sometimes I called him , he replied me next day, that makes me feel he is dating another girl...
But he would like to spend chris max night with me after his function dinner like he told me... beside, he usually spare one day of weekend with me...
I am getting tired by those slow process.
Leave him? Or just need a break... I just feel he is not so involved. I do not know what he is looking for. Or he just stay with me before find another one?
Need your guys opinion... thanks

I wish · Dec 23, 2010, 07:40 AM

Why would you need a break? You already don't even seen him enough.

If he's not giving you what you want, then let him know. If he still can't do it, then you're better off breaking up with him and finding someone else.

answerme_tender · Dec 23, 2010, 07:45 AM

I really think you need to go with your own instincts!! Don't you want more out of a relationship. You deserve someone who will make you feel that you ARE important part of his life, and not be made to feel that he just is being forced to make time for you!! Good luck

wonderlife · Dec 23, 2010, 08:35 AM

Are you mostly happy or mostly unhappy with the relationship? Only you can tell what's it that you want in the relationship and again it's you who knows best whether he can reciprocate your love and care in the same way or in the way that you want.

Did you two ever talk about this topic of what you expect and what he expects in the relationship and how can you two make it work together? I think having honest communication is crucial.

But if he always dismiss your concerns or your thoughts or avoid communication, then I think you should evaluate the relationship with this guy.

Jessicacn · Dec 23, 2010, 08:57 AM

See him through? I think the less calls he make, the more like he cheat... What is difficult to make a call or text everyday. That needs 2 mints out of 24 hours..

I wish · Dec 23, 2010, 11:04 AM

It's starting to sound more and more like he's not as serious as you would like. It doesn't seem like you're looking for the same things in this relationship.

I think you're better off breaking up and finding someone else who has more in common with you.

Jessicacn · Dec 24, 2010, 04:54 AM

He called me ask me" when are you going to meet me? I need to arrange a schedule"... so. I gave him the time I were free. He would spare his time to meet me... does he date others at the same time? Or really be so busy?

I feel less and less interesting to see him... bcz I feel I am not needed. Should I be more understanding? Or tell him what I feel? He told me I was too emotional before.. . should I tell him what I feel now or just keep silence to see what happen?

talaniman · Dec 24, 2010, 06:44 AM

You sure are in a hurry for a girl who vowed not to fall in love. Frankly I think he says and does just enough for you to keep chasing him. Further your expectations and hopes are of one who IS in love, or think you are. He must certain;y be enjoying it all unlike you who want more.

Two or three months of dating is way to soon to know anything, but the sex is confusing all your senses and has you in a romantic fantasy land that makes you insecure and a bit needy of his attention. When you don't get it, you are frustrated.

Keep telling yourself, he is still a stranger, and there is much to learn, and deal with this dating thing from a safer distance for your heart so you can pay better attention, and learn about his mind, and what's really on it, and not just his body.

What's really obvious from what you have written, you are chasing your heart, and no matter what he has told you, you still chase. He said he wasn't to keen on anything but a casual relationship, but added your dangerous, filling you with a lot of hope.

As a guy you are known as an easy available person to him. You want to know if its real or fun, simply be less available for fun, and sex, matter of fact, replace the sex with more fun, and more TALKING, AND MORE PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT HIS WORDS AND ACTIONS SAY. Give them thought, and ask questions, and not the emotional needy ones that only keep you running after a guy who isn't running after you.

So far, you are his secret lover he calls to his apartment, when he has time in his busy schedule. If his interest was what you think it is, wouldn't he want to hear your voice more? He doesn't have to do that now because a text/call has you running to him, he doesn't have to chase very hard does he?

Back off and pay attention, and protect your heart, and find out if he is interested, or just wants fun from a too available lady.