[Cat1864]

HARSHNESS ALERT
Possibly the harshest I have ever been.

I am sorry, but she is very wrong. I know you don't want to hurt your child but your wife is doing her best to destroy everyone's lives.

Time for a wake up call. Marriage counseling and cutting all ties with the other man or divorce court and families finding out. No if, ands, or buts.

She cannot have her cake and eat it, too. I am sure you are quite aware of what happens to eaten cake. THAT'S what your wife is doing to your marriage.

You can sit by and allow it to happen and allow her to show your daughter that disrespecting your family is acceptable as long the other man (in this case) is a 'friend' or you can explain to your 'wife' that she needs to go back to her family and learn what being a wife really means. She obviously forgot that lesson somewhere along the way.

Please remember that your daughter is not your wife and needs all the love and understanding you can give a growing child. She needs the love and support of both parents so as harsh (without being abusive) as you may have to get with her mother don't do so in front of her or deny her mother the ability to be a mother whether she lives with the both of you or not.

[test_needhelp]

She says she is not in touch with him at all. I don't know if its true. She logs into social network where both of them are members. They can communicate online OR call. May be I am not sure. He will be online always on the site. I really don't know if she is communicating. I lost trust on her after this. I am trying.. but not able to trust her... bcz she always says they are good friends... etc... I feel she is worried about him more than me... but she says she is not in touch with him... I don't know... I will watch her for a while. If she meets him again then I will tell her that if she does this one more time I will breakup... but my worry is my daughter... she loves both of us very much... I am a hindu religion person. People in our relegion won't tolarate this kind of behaviour. May be even her parents won't support her. That guy will go out of this country this month end. We will be here for another year. I will try to give her lot of love. If still that doesn't yield anything then no other options I guess. May the god help my family.