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Fr_Chuck · Jun 10, 2010, 03:04 PM

If you believe you are old enough to date, you are old enough to be honest. Keeping this secret will only hurt you when all the truth does come out.

Mel_126 · Sep 6, 2010, 02:04 PM

Hi, I’m 17 and I really need some help. I had been in a relationship for more than seven months, with time we began to take it more seriously and showed each other to our parents and our friends and all. Things were going on just great! Last 2/3 weeks I have been seeing some changes in our relationship though, like, we spent less and less time together, and spent time with his friends instead (it was either double-date or me with him and his friends etc.) and although I really wanted some quality time with him, like alone for a couple of hours not minutes, but unfortunately that never got to happen as he broke up with me a few days ago. I have to mention here that meanwhile I didn’t have any friends as I no longer met or talked to the ones I used to be friends with. The only friends I still have are his own fiends, which are really helpful! They were the only persons I found when I was in need! But the thing is, I don’t know if they want me to still hang out with them or not, I don’t know if they just don’t want me to hang out with them so that I will not see him anymore and move on faster, or if is doesn’t make a difference to them at all! I don’t know what to do! Me and my ex had agreed to stay friends, but I got to admit, I am more friends with his relatives (which I am really not close to them) then I am with him!
Please help me, what should I do to:
Move on and get him out of my heart and mind
Get on with these friends without making it obvious that I am truly dying for some company! (they are really good friends!) ?

I appreciate any help given

bkm91 · Sep 6, 2010, 03:30 PM

Hey.
Im just going through my 1st break up as well and me and my ex have decided to stay friends but trust me it makes things so much harder. I totally understand what your going through... Everything reminds you of them, you don't think you will cope, one minute your fine the next your not. I know it's so frustrating but you will be OK. As for staying friends with his friends its OK to stay in contact with them but probably not the best idea to hang around with them as you will be with your ex and all those feelings you had will just come rushing back. You should think about joining some kind of club or trying to make things OK between you and your old mates again.
You will be OK and things will get easier. Just think how many people have been through the same as you, they all got through it, so will you.
All the best xx

talaniman · Sep 6, 2010, 05:27 PM

You need your own life with your own friends, and your own activities that you enjoy.. Then you won't have to depend on him, or his friends to be happy. I have followed all your posts and that all you needed from the get go before you got with this guy. No excuses, explore the world around you.

Mel_126 · Sep 6, 2010, 11:46 PM

Thanks for helping :)

But currently I can't make any friends without going out, and I can't go out if I don't have anyone to hang with.
His friends truly accept me and although it is a little bit hard for me if I hang out with his friends as he may be there, I find it even harder when I see I've got nobody to take my mind of with.
I seems that the fact that I can't see him, even as a friend, hurts so much.
.. I don't know what to do :(

But thanks for the help anyway, I really appreciate :)