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Kitkat22 · Aug 23, 2010, 08:31 PM

Originally Posted by loneleygirl

No if I was sober I wouldn't have done any of that stuff. I would have just been me. 16. I have never done this before

How old is he and the other guy?

loneleygirl · Aug 23, 2010, 08:33 PM

He is 16 and the other one is 18

J_9 · Aug 23, 2010, 08:36 PM

I have moved this thread from Adult Sexuality to the Teens forum. To post in Adult Sexuality you must be over 18.

Now, with that said, since I now know that you are ONLY 16, I take back some of the advice I gave you.

Do NOT humiliate yourself and try to talk to him about this.

Let's get real here for a minute. Stop worrying about what he thinks and start worrying about your health.

#1 Get tested for STDs... how many times do we have to say this?

#2 Get a pregnancy test ASAP if you miss your period.

aimee_tt · Aug 23, 2010, 08:38 PM

I think maybe you should tell your mother. Yes it will be hard but I think she should know so that she can monitor him when he is near you.

No he didn't rape you but he used you. I think your mother would want to know.

loneleygirl · Aug 23, 2010, 08:39 PM

But by talking to him wouldn't it make it easyer to see him again instead of making it so awkward

J_9 · Aug 23, 2010, 08:40 PM

Originally Posted by loneleygirl

But by talking to him wouldn't it make it easyer to see him again instead of making it so awkward

Would you just forget that for now? You have bigger problems on your plate.

loneleygirl · Aug 23, 2010, 08:42 PM

I told my mom she said I shouldn't worry that he couldn't stop looking at me and that he was all smiling the next morning and that he was probably proud or something but I don't believe her.

Kitkat22 · Aug 23, 2010, 08:44 PM

Originally Posted by loneleygirl

I told my mom she said I shouldn't worry that he couldn't stop looking at me and that he was all smiling the next morning and that he was prolly proud or something but I don't believe her.

So mom just shrugged it off. Good Lord.

J_9 · Aug 23, 2010, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by loneleygirl

I told my mom she said I shouldn't worry that he couldn't stop looking at me and that he was all smiling the next morning and that he was prolly proud or something but I don't believe her.

What is wrong with this world today? Your mother wasn't even mad? She wasn't mad that you got sloshed? She wasn't mad that you got taken advantage of? She wasn't mad that you are having unprotected sex?

For some reason, I don't believe this. And I do have a 16 year old daughter.

Kitkat22 · Aug 23, 2010, 08:53 PM

Originally Posted by J_9

What is wrong with this world today? Your mother wasn't even mad? She wasn't mad that you got sloshed? She wasn't mad that you got taken advantage of? She wasn't mad that you are having unprotected sex?

For some reason, I don't believe this. And I do have a 16 year old daughter.

I don't think you told your Mom , because I have daughters and I would ground you until you're eighteen and then I'd pay that guy a visit or my husband would. I believe if you mon knew she would be livid.

Jake2008 · Aug 23, 2010, 09:00 PM

I believe you.

How old was the 'family friend'?

I'm beginning to think that at least some of what happened to you, happened also because of your age.

You can't fix this, or change what happened that night. But, remember it as a learning experience, which will work in your favour some day. This isn't something you will likely repeat, if you take precautions now, and learn a few hard lessons.

Seriously think of not drinking- at all. I asked you earlier if you had had blackouts or problems to do with alcohol, prior to that night. I suspect that you have, but please correct me if I'm wrong. Were your parents part of the party that night, and the drinking was okay with them? Or were they not aware of it.

Depending upon how old the 'family friend' was, the only thing I can say is that you are too young to place yourself in such a dangerous position. You really have no idea what happened after you passed out. Add to that the fact that you remembered most details of the entire night, until you suddenly passed out. After that happened, you were in a seriously dangerous position. Parts of the 'before' and 'after' are not adding up for me, and likely you either.

Knowing how old this friend was would be helpful.

aimee_tt · Aug 23, 2010, 09:00 PM

Im 21 and if I came home and told my mother that had happened she would.

1 Tell me off for drinking and getting myself into that situation.

2 She would be talking to his parents and kindly telling them that he is no longer allowed in our house.

KISS · Aug 24, 2010, 01:22 AM

Drinking at 16 is probably illegal, so this party was out of hand an unsupervised.

You have two big problems as other stated: 1) test for STD's and 2) Possible pregnancy

You have a serious issue to take care of: handleing of alcohol and specifically don't drink until your old enough. Whoever let you drink alcohol could be arrested. You could be arrested.
Now is the time to educate yourself on alcoholism.

You should have something to say if approached, but don't do the approaching. This sounds like rape and the consequences may not be good. He could be charged.

CarrotTalker · Aug 24, 2010, 02:40 AM

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

I don't think you told your Mom , because I have daughters and I would ground you until you're eighteen and then I'd pay that guy a visit or my husband would. I believe if you mon knew she would be livid.

You would be amazed at the lack of rational thought/complete delusion some parents have today.

Shaydie · Aug 25, 2010, 07:59 AM

Wow this is really sticky. I agree with kitkat22. You do bear some of the blame and if he liked you a lot he would have treated you better. That being said, all you can do is move on unless he approaches you again. If this happens, then tell him you are not interested in casual sex and you feel like he treated you shabbily. Please be sure you aren't pregnant.
Do your best to learn from this. My heart goes out to you. I hope you find peace.

Jake2008 · Aug 25, 2010, 08:51 AM

Our OP hasn't been back for a few days, and I wonder if it has to do with answering the question of how old this 'family friend' was.

That she had a crush on him since she was a kid, and her parents and friends were all at the welcome home party, and left her alone with them, seems to me they had trust in this 'friend', and felt she was safe with him.

I hope if you are reading, you'll come back with more clues so we can better offer assistance.

Kitkat22 · Aug 25, 2010, 09:14 AM

Originally Posted by Jake2008

Our OP hasn't been back for a few days, and I wonder if it has to do with answering the question of how old this 'family friend' was.

That she had a crush on him since she was a kid, and her parents and friends were all at the welcome home party, and left her alone with them, seems to me they had trust in this 'friend', and felt she was safe with him.

I hope if you are reading, you'll come back with more clues so we can better offer assistance.

I would say he is a few years older than her. I wonder if it was him they welcomimg home?

cdad · Aug 25, 2010, 06:32 PM

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

I would say he is a few years older than her. I wonder if it was him they welcomimg home?

Op already answered the question.

" he is 16 and the other one is 18 " #22 in the thread.

And if she were my daughter with a story like that she would be in a chastity belt till 18 and that boy and his friend would be eating through a straw.

What's wrong with the younger generation today ?

cdad · Aug 25, 2010, 06:55 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

This means he took advantage of you. He screwed you and kicked you aside. The sad thing is you don't seem to realize this. How old are you?
The boy is a creep and you need to stay away from him and alcohol.

Op has answered the question.

"No if I was sober I wouldn't have done any of that stuff. I would have just been me. 16. I have never done this before " #20 this thread.