[Curlyben]

[lonely2010]

if you want specific answers, you need to give specific information.

its not enough to open a third thread still saying "why doesnt it work out?"

need some details. history.

what are the reoccuring problems? what do you struggle with? what do you think the problems are? why?

:)
What I am trying to say, is that I am feeling so sad about what I was going through. All the emotion experiences.
I was refused by the first person I love in my life several years ago which made me totally heart broken and I almost spent 1 year to recover.
Then the next one broken after 5 months. The third one, the most complex one, who already got married but he didn't tell me that, I was in such an unforgettable pain, its risky, confused and finally I got rid of him after 2 years back, I chose to leave. You know being that hard time, how painful it was. I suffered huge spirit pressure.
Then now, things is not going the same as I always think what it is. When I try to contact some one I like, always got confused. Maybe it can be called "unacceptable",but I am wondering to know why it always like this?
Why it only happened to me. Why is it so hard for me to find a right one ?being in a relationship is tooo hard? I am still at the outside of the door.
I really want to change this which I am not willing to happened in the next future life, but I really don't know how to do. Where can I find that rite one? I am kind of losing the confidence.

[talaniman]

Sometimes we want something so bad, we look in the wrong places for them. We have such high hopes, and when it fails, we are devastated. It happens to All of us its just some handle the disappointment better than others, simply because they don't take the hurt, pain, and misery, so personally, and are quick to take back, and move forward with their lives, and learn from the experience.

I strongly suggest that you stop looking for love and build a life that you enjoy, with people and activities that make you happy about yourself, and what you're doing, so you can share something good with others. Then someone will find you and want to share their happiness with you.

Don't be in such a hurry, let things develop at a natural pace, while you keep your heart warm, protected, and happy, until you know they will deserve it, and can take care of it.

There are no guarantees in life, just many tests, trials, and experiences.