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    #21

    Jul 28, 2010, 04:03 PM

    Your boyfriend is behaving in a selfish way to even suggest not using a condom. He is not thinking clearly. I hope you'll reconsider what he's asking for and decide to wait until you are older. If not, I strongly recommend a trip to Planned parenthood to learn about birth control and stds. Did you not get sex education in school?
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    #22

    Jul 28, 2010, 06:05 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by asking View Post
    Your boyfriend is behaving in a selfish way to even suggest not using a condom. He is not thinking clearly.
    Yes this is an important point. I would dump this guy as he apparently cares more about having sex with you then he cares for you.
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    Jul 28, 2010, 07:45 PM

    Why would you want to risk having a child, an std and losing your virginity to someone who apparently hasn't thought this through?
    Don't be so eager to do this. The right guy will be somewhere in your future and you'll wish you had waited.
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    #24

    Jul 28, 2010, 07:56 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by marygrace15 View Post
    he will pull out when he cums and put on a condom. is this a bad idea? HELP PLEASE!
    No one mentioned this, so I will --

    Yes, this is a Very Bad Idea.

    Pulling out does NOT work!! ***Repeat after me!*** Pulling out does NOT work!! Pulling out is NOT birth control!!
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    Jul 28, 2010, 08:23 PM

    Wondergirl is right.
    Pulling out is one of the least reliable forms of birth control.

    Pregnancy rates per year
    For different forms of birth control.

    Abstinence 0.00%
    Implant 0.05 to 0.3%
    Birth control pill <1% to 3.5%
    IUD 1.5%

    Withdrawal 4 to 19% depending on how done
    Condom 4 to 20% depending on how it's used
    Rhythm 6 to 25% depending on how done

    No method 85%
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    Jul 28, 2010, 08:41 PM

    1. I think it's a bit hard to mess up sex, so if he can't get it in then I wouldn't press the issue.

    2. Take some time to learn a little more about sex and your own personal sexuality before having sex with anyone.

    3. Use a condom. Always. No matter what. Unless you plan on getting pregnant.
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    Jul 29, 2010, 04:20 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by BananaPie View Post
    1. I think it's a bit hard to mess up sex, so if he can't get it in then I wouldn't press the issue.

    2. Take some time to learn a little more about sex and your own personal sexuality before having sex with anyone.

    3. Use a condom. Always. No matter what. Unless you plan on getting pregnant.
    Do you really condone a 15 yr old having sexual intercourse?
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    Jul 29, 2010, 08:23 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    Do you really condone a 15 yr old having sexual intercourse?
    I don't think that anyone giving her advice condones a 15 year old having sexual intercouse...

    But, unfortunately in the end people are going to do what they want to do. Even if it is a bad idea. I think it's a bad idea for her to do so, as I stated in a previous post. Again, she is going to do what she wants to do.

    So, with that being said, if this young lady choses to have sexual intercourse at the age of 15, then she has to realize the consequences for not using a condom.

    Hopefully, she takes all of our advice and decides to wait a LONG while, AND when she does, uses a condom!

    Oh, and Wondergirl is correct, pulling out is not a method!
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    Jul 29, 2010, 08:49 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    It's a scary world. Children are having sex. Children are having children. More so now then ever, or so it seems.
    Altenweg, this is actually not true. According to the Guttmacher Institute:

    The declines in recent years in teen pregnancy rates and birthrates are impressive: Both now stand at record low levels. However, the United States still lags far behind other developed countries, whose rates have fallen too much lower levels.
    According to the report, the US teen birthrate peaked in around 1957 at 95 births per 1000 teenagers. But it has dropped to about 50 births per 1000 teens. So the teen birthrate is half what it was in the "family oriented" 1950s.

    Edit: Sweden's is only about 10 per 1000. An interesting report...
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    #30

    Jul 29, 2010, 09:31 AM

    Enigma, I think Scott was referring to BananaPie's post, which kind of looks like she is condoning it.
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    #31

    Jul 29, 2010, 09:32 AM

    Can we not have the Op's two threads merged?
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    #32

    Jul 29, 2010, 09:54 AM

    Don't have sex ! You do not seem mature enough to have sex and you are too young.
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    #33

    Jul 29, 2010, 09:57 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by BananaPie View Post
    1. I think it's a bit hard to mess up sex, so if he can't get it in then I wouldn't press the issue.

    2. Take some time to learn a little more about sex and your own personal sexuality before having sex with anyone.

    3. Use a condom. Always. No matter what. Unless you plan on getting pregnant.
    Your parents should have used one . The pull out method obviously didn't work.
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    Jul 29, 2010, 09:57 AM

    It is probably not the OP's fault that no one has taught her anything about how to prevent pregnancy or stds. Any decent sex ed class would have taught her at least the basics.
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    Jul 29, 2010, 10:00 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by asking View Post
    It is probably not the OP's fault that no one has taught her anything about how to prevent pregnancy or stds. Any decent sex ed class would have taught her at least the basics.
    It's sad, but at least we can help her.:) You do give great advice asking!
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    #36

    Jul 29, 2010, 10:27 AM

    Has anyone mentioned that there is no birth control method (short of sterilization) that is 100% effective?
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    #37

    Jul 29, 2010, 10:41 AM

    Yea on her other thread. Not sure why it hasn't been merged yet.
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    Jul 29, 2010, 10:55 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Bell View Post
    Yea on her other thread. Not sure why it hasn't been merged yet.
    Wasn't aware of the other thread, now merged.

    I sincerely hope she returns to let us know that she has learned from this. But I don't see any value in further comments until she does.
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    #39

    Jul 29, 2010, 10:56 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Kitkat22 View Post
    Your parents should have used one . The pull out method obviously didn't work.

    We can all agree to disagree, but lets try to be respectful. I get into arguments too, but this is hitting below the belt. :(

    Personally, I think this thread has run it's course. The OP hasn't come back, and yet we're on page 3, going back and forth. I think it's time to shut this down.

    The OP has gotten great advice. I don't think there's anything left to be said.
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    Jul 29, 2010, 11:09 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    We can all agree to disagree, but lets try to be respectful. I get into arguments too, but this is hitting below the belt. :(

    Personally, I think this thread has run it's course. The OP hasn't come back, and yet we're on page 3, going back and forth. I think it's time to shut this down.

    The OP has gotten great advice. I don't think there's anything left to be said.


    He was wrong in his advice... I was wrong for responding with childish behaviour.
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