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asking · Jul 25, 2010, 04:18 PM

Hi Judy
I wasn't arguing with you and also not defending the OP, although I would take this death threat seriously. I was just trying to focus the discussion on the needs of the girl. The father sounds dangerous to me and it's quite possible that the mother doesn't want to cross him either.

I agree about reporting him to the police.

Kitkat22 · Jul 25, 2010, 04:26 PM

If the Op is lying about who she/he is, he's lying about other things also... Kids do lie!

Alty · Jul 25, 2010, 04:50 PM

I normally take the OP's word as fact, until they prove otherwise.

This kid, whoever he/she is, came here, asked a very serious question, and then laughed in our faces when advice was given.

We have his side of the story, and only that. If the father is abusing the daughter, that is a matter for the mother to deal with. If it's obvious to the boyfriend, than I'd think it would be obvious to mom.

Maybe mom doesn't care. After all, she's allowing her 14 year old child to date a 17 year old who obviously doesn't respect the parents of this child.

Personally, if my 14 year old daughter was dating someone when I told her she wasn't allowed to, I'd be mad too. If the boy didn't take my "no" as an answer, I may be tempted to issue a few threats as well. I wouldn't go so far as to threaten death, but I would make sure he knew I was serious about the issue.

In this case the mother says it's fine for her to date this kid. The father says no. If we're to believe the OP, the father beats his daughter and the mother does nothing about it, neither does the boyfriend.

Personally, from that info alone, I'm thinking that mom turns a blind eye to everything and dad is the one looking out for his daughter. I don't completely agree that there's any abuse going on. This may just be a story, a way to control daddy "If you report my boyfriend, I'll tell people you beat me".

That makes more sense to me than the scenario the OP has created.

Just a guess.

ScottGem · Jul 25, 2010, 05:29 PM

The problem here is whether we believe the OP. I'm not prepared to do that. We start with the OP referring to themselves and the next post refers to a friend. Then we have a claim that a 17 yr old is going to file suit. When we all know that a 17 yr old can't file a suit and even if they could this is not a civil issue. And we also have the issue of a 17 yr old believing a 14 yr old is truly in love with him. All of which doesn't add up to a believable story.

JudyKayTee · Jul 26, 2010, 04:20 AM

And my spidey sense says it isn't true.

Kitkat22 · Jul 26, 2010, 10:43 AM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

And my spidey sense says it isn't true.

I agree with JudyKay.. Either the girl is making this "abuse" tale up to make her boyfriend get angry enough to try and get her dad in trouble.Dad has caught her breaking the rules and grounded her. Dad doesn't want her seeing this guy who is probably a delinquent.

Or the other scenerio... she and the guy who is seventeen pretended to break up and he sent a younger guy to act like the girl was dating. The younger guy goes along with it and the Dad finds out and threatens him.

I will add this... the OP was either the girl or the younger guy. I'd bet all my Nine Season of CSI-SVU on it... He or she won't come back to respond.. even though there's no way we could ever know who they are.
They're to scared and childish.