[talaniman]

how does one go from in love with you to loves you but not in love with you anymore?

When they are in love with you, its unconditional, and they want to be with just you, but over time their feelings change, and they still have good memories, and will forever more than likely, but they have different priorities, and options they would rather pursue without you. The thrill is gone, and it happens a few times in every ones life.

You will get a better understanding when YOU experience a change in feelings for someone, and no longer consider them a top priority in YOUR life. For now, your on the hurting side, and make no mistake, you will hurt just as much when its your turn to dump a good partner for no other reason than, you're NOT as in love, as you were.

[Homegirl 50]

Thats the thing positiveparent, she never said that she no longer wanted me in her life. She told me that she need time to think. To think if being with me the rest of her life is what she wants or to just remain friends. She even has suggested twice that if she could not get her name off of the lease that she would live with me as a friend (that was a little confusing). To me this sounds like she is just scared and has cold feet about it all. Because if this whole thing was about not being able to live with me why would she even offer to do so as friends when I tell her that even if her name was still on the lease that I would not hold her to paying her half?

Sounds to me like she is not into you anymore except as maybe a friend.
When she tells you she will live there with you as a friend, that should tell you something.
You two may be on two different pages. She is not longer wanting a romantic relationship with you.

[vanheart]

Exactly.
Her feelings have changed. Yours hasn't yet.

That's how it goes.

Acceptance first, NC, then its all up to you how you enjoy your life.

Not all people are meant to be together forever. Many for just a period. For lots of reasons.