[scooterdude]

yes, now find the money and file, sell something, pawn it, get a second job.

Thank you guy, I will try all I can, starting tomorrow.. tonight I got to pray and I'm also going to pray to have no vindictive anger in my heart, or at least as little as possible... thanks for your advice
Sincerely scot:)

[JudyKayTee]

This is a legal thread so this personal advice is out of line BUT the way to keep from being vindictive is to always put your children first. I HATE people who quote Judge Judy but when she was actually on the NYC bench she said, "Love your children more than you hate each other" and I find that to be true.

[scooterdude]

Oh, Scott. it sounds like your life is spinning out of control. And, yes, I know what you mean about being "baited" to say or do something.

What happened didn't necessarily harm/hurt you - EVERYONE argues. Sometimes people call the Police. Sometimes they don't. You weren't charged which means there was no abuse. No, you didn't mess up - don't be hard on yourself.

I don't think I'm cool - it just so happens that I went through a brutal divorce some years ago. Fortunately my life has gone on ... but I've never forgotten what I went through.

Get yourself an Attorney (if you can afford one) and get yourself to Court (by yourself if you have to).

And please come back and let us know how things work out.

(Is there any possibility - and this has no place on the legal threads - that your wife will go for counselling? I'm in NY - tell her with this economy, this is no great place to be!)

- Hold on. It'll get better.

Dear judy, what a month it has been, do you remember me? I finally filed a custody and support order with the superior court here, but then my wife hit me with a lot of lies on a domestic violence restraining order which allowed her to keep the kids away from me with no contact until our case this Friday July 2. wish me luck on this, I will bring witnesses and movies and pictures and even the police report to show what she wrote in the restraining order declaration was lies. She claims I sexually abuse the boys and that I did it to her daughter! Thank you for being there when I needed someone the most, God bless you judy, sincerely scot

[ScottGem]

Thanks fro providing an update. Good luck and keep us posted.