[gingerbill]

I've done it and it all ended up fine. We were both single, adults with healthy sex drives so why not. We are still really good mates now although I don't think we'd ever go back to the benefits part but it helped us both at the time

[bestfriend_lover]

I don't agree with friends with benifts.. thats just my opinion

[spitvenom]

In my experience it doesn't work out well with someone you are already friends with. I mean they are your friend so you already care about them and the sex just confuses everything.

But when it was someone I just met and we decide that we didn't want to be in a relationship but we are attracted to each other it worked out fine. You know there was no hanging out, no going out to dinner, it was just sex.

[dontknownuthin]

One person always has stronger feelings than the other and someone usually gets hurt. Many people aren't forthcoming with telling others their true feelings unless they are reasonably confident the other person feels the same way.

I played this out several times when I was young and naïve. I had a pattern where guys I liked would be very interested in making out with me (we didn't go further at that time) and because we were very close friends, I merely took it as moving the relationship forward. I had been taught that nice girls start with friendship and take it slow, and I thought dating my friends was the right thing to do. I was not prepared to find that these guys who I felt so close to as friends just wanted to make out, keep it secret, then ask other girls when it came to a dance or a date. It crushed me.

Only when I became an adult did I learn that it's a lot safer emotionally to not have any physical connection with a man until he's made clear that he wants to date me. If he's not asking me out and spending time with me one on one, or if I get a sense that he doesn't want his friends to know about me, I'm done.

So my view - it may appear both parties like it, but one is probably hurting.