[jmjoseph]

I read that....its HER wanting to do this.....where did he demand it?

And besides by her words...he's alread had the honor. Surgery or not....you lose your virginity only once.

He was disappointed because it wasn't HIM who deflowered her. So she is wanting to do this procedure and HE is going along with it.

She wants to have the surgery, let it heal , and then let him have the honor of rebreaking it. What if he says "HMMM it was just like the first time....oh well, never mind"?

[smoothy]

He was disappointed because it wasn't HIM who deflowered her. So she is wanting to do this procedure and HE is going along with it.

She wants to have the surgery, let it heal , and then let him have the honor of rebreaking it. What if he says "HMMM it was just like the first time....oh well, never mind"?

Exactly... all the hoopla for something that some people never even notice... and it doesn't change the fact... you lose your virginity only once. You can't do it twice.

[mudweiser]

Hmm the OP hasn't been here since page 1, maybe we should wait what she has to say before we get ahead of ourselves.

What if he DOESN'T want her to get the surgery [if they've previously talked to him about this]? He wouldn't be such a jerk that most people are making him out to be.

Yeah it's kind of cruddy that he "felt disappointed"-- it's seems immature, so we have to consider his age.. no their age. If they are 17/16 then we all know that this is just a stage and they'll get over it. I don't know any 16 year olds that have the money for elective surgeries or parents who are willing to pay for it.

So in short, let's just wait what the OP has to say.

If the surgery is actually HIS idea then HE should be the one paying for it [this is assuming she's going to get the surgery whether it's a bad idea].

[JudyKayTee]

She is 22; he is 23. There are other problems in this relationship. This is just one and it's a "symptom" of a bigger problem.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...er-463538.html

[Homegirl 50]

You sound desperate. Having the procedure for this reason sounds a bit over the top to me.
If this guy cares about you, he would tell you how ridiculous and unnecessary this idea is and let you know that it is not important, especially since you guys have already had sex.

[mudweiser]

She is 22; he is 23. There are other problems in this relationship. This is just one and it's a "symptom" of a bigger problem.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...er-463538.html

Oh my goodness... this seems a little nuts now that I've read the other thread.

[smoothy]

She is 22; he is 23. There are other problems in this relationship. This is just one and it's a "symptom" of a bigger problem.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...er-463538.html

"Bigger problem" is an understatement.

[kimchilover123]

Just some words for the OP, you are not depending on anyone. And also, please do check out the bad things about this cosmetic surgery(rebuilding the hymen). I've heard that its side effects are going to show up when you have a baby (read it somewhere long time ago, not sure if it's true or not). What you are doing here doesn't really make sense to me. I understand that some people give so much credit to a virgin. But you and your boyfriend had your first sex right? So he knew that your hymen was broke before. And if you "rebuild" your hymen, so you are going to bleed again right? Then isn't your boyfriend going to figure out that you are faking a hymen??

[kimchilover123]

Just some words for the OP, you are not depending on anyone. And also, please do check out the bad things about this cosmetic surgery(rebuilding the hymen). I've heard that its side effects are going to show up when you have a baby (read it somewhere long time ago, not sure if it's true or not). What you are doing here doesn't really make sense to me. I understand that some people give so much credit to a virgin. But you and your boyfriend had your first sex right? So he knew that your hymen was broke before. And if you "rebuild" your hymen, so you are going to bleed again right? Then isn't your boyfriend going to figure out that you are faking a hymen??

[Cat1864]

But you and your bf had your first sex right? So he knew that your hymen was broke before. And if you "rebuild" your hymen, so you are gonna bleed again right? Then isnt your bf going to figure out that you are faking a hymen???

He knows about the proposed surgery. They have discussed it.

To be honest, there is more to this story and I urge people responding to it to read her other thread that JudyKayTee posted.

[JudyKayTee]

Just some words for the OP, you are not depending on anyone. And also, please do check out the bad things about this cosmetic surgery(rebuilding the hymen). I've heard that its side effects are gonna show up when you have a baby (read it somewhere long time ago, not sure if it's true or not). What you are doing here doesnt really make sense to me. I understand that some people give so much credit to a virgin. But you and your bf had your first sex right? So he knew that your hymen was broke before. And if you "rebuild" your hymen, so you are gonna bleed again right? Then isnt your bf going to figure out that you are faking a hymen???

Did you read the entire thread before you posted and, also, did you read the OP's OTHER threads?

He KNOWS about the broken hymen.

(Are you another "one hit wonder" on this board? Sign on, post once, drop out of sight?)

[kimchilover123]

Did you read the entire thread before you posted and, also, did you read the OP's OTHER threads?

He KNOWS about the broken hymen.

(Are you another "one hit wonder" on this board? Sign on, post once, drop out of sight?)

I've read her entire thread (well not the other one). I posted my comment because I try to help this girl out, and if my help went onto the opposite direction, then I apologize.
PS, to your last concern, now you can see that I posted more than once, so I am not what you called "one hit wonder". Thank you.