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neverme · Feb 25, 2010, 10:17 AM

Maybe a lil harsh

Well you can't change what you have done but you can act with a little bit of dignity now.

If he texts don't text back. End of. Just delete it before you even read it if possible.

You gave him a chance, a chance I wouldn't have given, to be upfront and he wasn't.

Why would you even want someone like this in your life?

As for the social networking site, de-friend him and leave it at that. You only went out for two months and if you pull the plaster off now and stop allowing contact you will be fine in no time. But if you decide to continue to obsess over this then it is only you that can be blamed for the unneeded broken heart that can only ever come from this.

You said you'd see where it was going, well this is where it's going. Time to move on.

Lily05 · Feb 25, 2010, 10:36 AM

Your all very very right! If he texts or however he chooses to make contact again. I will ignore him. He'll know then I know. I'm going to start letting go and moving on today!
... any thoughts on why he did text me though and not say anything about it still?

amicon · Feb 25, 2010, 10:56 AM

Ignoring and letting go is a good choice-stay with it.

And it doesn't matter what his motives were-stop wondering about it,and stop worrying about it.

Hot water · Feb 25, 2010, 11:26 AM

I'd say just forget about him now while it's easy. The longer you try to hang on, the harder it will be to let go... even if you know they're lying.

Or maybe he's telling everyone that you're the girl he's in a relationship with lol

neverme · Feb 25, 2010, 08:09 PM

Hmm... what was he thinking?

Maybe it was that he could still have you on the side? Maybe it was that he really likes this girl but didn't want to be rude? Maybe he was thinking about the ham and cheese sandwich he'd have later?

Who cares????

He doesn't deserve your time and thought, move on.

Lily05 · Feb 26, 2010, 09:17 AM

UMMMM... he called me lastnight and I ignored it. He left voicemail and he said he really needed to talk to me. So I called him back. He explained everything... he said a lot but basically He said that he was tired of receiving to many messages from strangers since it showed his status as single so that's why he changed it to in a relationship. And apologized for not telling me sooner. I told him I believed him which I do like 70% lol. I just don't know. I want to 100% believe him. But I've been lied to in the past and its hard to trust again. My best friend feels skeptic and says his explanation sounds like b.s. and to keep my eyes wide open.

neverme · Feb 26, 2010, 11:04 AM

Stinks of BS as far as I can tell, but since really it seems you don't want advice it is up to you...

But just a word for the wise, the reason we are treated the same way in a relationship is because that is what we accept. Everyone can find a loser to take advantage of them, it's harder to find someone that you can be yourself, warts and insecurities and all with.

talaniman · Feb 26, 2010, 12:00 PM

Sorry, but I wouldn't have believed it at all, simply because if it was true, he could have told you that rather easily when he had a chance. Don't you think?

amicon · Feb 26, 2010, 01:03 PM

Sorry I agree with the BS take!
Do cows have wings?
Eh,no.

I wish · Feb 26, 2010, 01:13 PM

I would say trust your own instincts. Plenty of fish in the sea, no need to hang around a suspicious one.

If you want to continue to give him chances to prove himself, then proceed with caution. But the need to be so cautious at such an early stage of a possible friendship doesn't bold well at all.

Lily05 · Feb 26, 2010, 03:54 PM

Yeahhhh the general conses here on the board and with friends is he made up a story. At least he tried lol I think he player and the game is over.Like I said people's true colors and intentions show eventually. And at least this was sooner than later