[J. Sparks]

Dude, after reading that long last post about the towels etc.. . It sounds like you've completely changed the way you write and your language.

You're not going to like my answer but you come off as sounding very fickle or perhaps finicky. You sound like a man who is a little bit difficult to live with actually.. . Or have been for some time at least. Yes I might be generalizing, but that's what you're here for, opinions, right!

It sounds like your wife feels like she is putting more into the relationship and it is becoming a chore for her and she isn't getting that special feeling of appreciation.
Now I would advise you to forget about yourself for the moment. Forget having a referee to mark who is right and who is wrong. The writing is on the wall that you are steadily losing her and she is fast becoming resentful, and now she is giving her time, energy and emotion to a "fantasy" relationship. ~ and lucky for you it is still for the moment just that, a fantasy and that my friend is the only advantage you have right now.

Ignore what she is doing, don't attack her about it, let it go or you will just push her further and further away into this fantasy "you're so far away in time and space . . ." Get it ? She's far away from you, in her mind. Far, far away. Let her have her outlet.

Now, if you really want it to work and be a happy and successful relationship once again you had best start right now. You have at some stage, (who knows when) let go of the wheel and she is undoubtedly now steering the ship.

Swallow you pride dear man and take that lovely lady out dancing. My prescription in my first post had the most accurate medicine. She's a lady, start doing things exciting together.

You said you feel awkward dancing or going to the movies.
Do you feel awkward when you do the horizontal tango ?
I tell you what buddy, you're going to feel awkward when your bed is empty some day. You're the man, bring that magic back before you regret being so stubborn.
Admit to yourself, you let it slide, you got too comfortable... and you can now see the results. Are you the man ? Did you not sweep her off her feet at some stage, you must have done it before, she married you right ?
Get with it dude, you know what to do and you will do so, if you think it's worth it.

Oh and have 3 baths a week instead of 2. Have 2 for you and 1 for her.
You should look at it that way, and do some of those chores on the list when she's not around and out of the house. She knows everything you do, and everything you don't do.

Oh and last of all but not least, I mentioned this before in my first post.
Ignore any anger and any hurt feelings you may have. Let it all roll off your back.
Make it your fault. It's your life, your relationship and you're the one to make or break it. Have that attitude again, bring it back into your life. Be strong, be smart, be wise. . She will use anything and everything negative, any piece of evidence to fuel the fire to burn your relationship for good and justify her actions.

Good Luck ! You can turn it around, but it's up to you to make it happen.