[taoplr]

Let her go! It's over. Make peace with yourself regarding her and the relationship. Let it be done. Move forward in your life.

If you ever run into her again, be nothing but a gentleman. In your heart, let her have her new relationship. If it ends and she comes back to you it will be partly because she respects you for the way you handled this moment.

Tao

[zacho6124]

So I just received a text from my ex girlfriend who has not talked to me in 5 months. Over the summer she has been with 2 guys I guess? I tried to not pay much attention to her. One is my buddy and when he talks to me all he says is that she talked about me all the time.. she broke up with me. But I got a text that said "hey! how are you doing?" what should I say to her to sort of get her talking to me again? She said that she "heard" that since the break up I have said crap about her. She says we could "become friends" if I can prove to her that I've matured since may. I have matured in my mind a ton! I just haven't been able to show her. Please help me with something I could say to her!

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Well, what was the reason for the break up? Who initiated the break up? Was there another person involved? If so, don't be someone's second choice. I think we need more info to help you.

[talaniman]

After I merged your posts as they were all the same thing, I found it interesting all the hoops she made you jump through after the prom, and how you tortured yourself, after the break up.

In my opinion, if a female used me, and then dumped me, and I made an idiot out of myself over being dumped, I would never speak to her again, especially not answer a cheap text.

Unfortunately, since I know how open your nose was for her back then, you will probably see a simple text as a reason to have hope she changed her mind, and wants you back.

She doesn't!!! Sorry!!!! She is just curious to see if her long lost puppy is still jumping at her commands.

My apologies for the blunt answer to your question, but I noticed you ignored the nicer responses before, and I didn't want you to make a fool of yourself this time.

[bswc]

Its been 5 months zacho6124! Wake up!! U really got to realise that you are not what she wanted and you shall not change yourself to what she wanted! Keep everything that reminds you about her. You sound very *tender in life. I couldn't imagine things are so harsh. Everything that reminds u about her, change it. For example, passwords that contain some special dates, photos, usernames... I'd like to know how you did no contact in the past 5 months.

[zacho6124]

So I just received a text from my ex girlfriend who has not talked to me in 5 months. Over the summer she has been with 2 guys I guess? I tried to not pay much attention to her. One is my buddy and when he talks to me all he says is that she talked about me all the time.. she broke up with me. But I got a text that said "hey! how are you doing?" what should I say to her to sort of get her talking to me again? She said that she "heard" that since the break up I have said crap about her. She says we could "become friends" if I can prove to her that I've matured since may. I have matured in my mind a ton! I just haven't been able to show her. Please help me with something I could say to her!

[none12345]

You don't have to say anything to and you don't have to prove anything to her. She is your ex, and does not deserve to know what is going on in your life. She must live with that. Simply ignore her and don't contact her ever again.

[Yosomoton213]

Here's a lesson for you, you seem like you're a good kid, and you mean well.

First of all, don't listen to what anybody tells you what "she said". She didn't tell you that, did she? Only trust the words that come out of her mouth when she's not talking to you, and then, only if you actually trust the girl... which I certainly would not. She is an ex. She will say things to manipulate and try to control you.

Which leads me to my second point. You don't have to prove to her anything my man. She is not your girlfriend anymore, and, by her words, you two aren't even "friends". Re-evaluate what you want... do you really want to be friends with someone that used you just for a prom date?

What do you really want from this? Do you want her to beg you to come back, get back together, and then the same stuff happen... yet again? You sound like you're in high school. You should be focusing on getting the best grades you can, enjoying your last years with your friends before you go to college/wherever, and focus on how many girls you will meet IN COLLEGE!

It's a whole other game out there than high school. Some say it's better, but let me tell you this, there are tons of girls out there, and one is going to treat you right. Until you meet that girl (which, I don't think this girl is it), focus on your priorities. Stay focused and don't let a girl take away from what you want in life.

This girl had her chance, and she blew it. You know it too, otherwise you wouldn't be posting on this forum.

[Yosomoton213]

Back to no contact for you if you want what's best. First relationships are hard to get over, but it gets better. Trust me. Until then, enjoy your life as much as possible. Go out with friends. High school is almost over, which means soon you'll be out with the big dogs in the tall grass. You've given this girl enough worrying and time... it's time you got something out of this.

[chuff]

so i just received a text from my ex girlfriend who has not talked to me in 5 months. over the summer she has been with 2 guys i guess?

So why would you want her?

i tried to not pay much attention to her. one is my buddy and when he talks to me all he says is that she talked about me all the time..

No sh*t? Uh?

Do you know why she talks about you to your friend? Chuff does. Everyone reading this does. She talks about you to him because she controls you and even when you don't talk to her, the way she can control you is by talking about you to friends. She can screw at least 2 (but let's be real, probably more) other guys but say nice things about you and you still stay interested. Your actions and thoughts are being controlled by someone outside of you, who doesn't even talk to you.

she broke up with me.

Getting dumped sucks, but sometimes we don't realize what a favor the other person is actually doing for us. Consider this a favor she did for you. Trust me, this is not someone you want in your life.

but i got a text that said "hey! how are you doing?" what should i say to her to sort of get her talking to me again?

You should tell her to F the hell off.

Actually what you should do is man up and not even respond. We tell people how to treat us by our actions. Your actions have told her you have no self respect and will allow her to sleep with other guys and you'll wait for her. Stop that right now, you are worth more then this woman and this situation. You want to speak to this woman, you ignore her. You don't answer. You tell her with your actions that she is the one who mis-judged you. You tell her that while she may have had some control over you for a time, your time is now and you are the one in control.

she said that she "heard" that since the break up i have said crap about her. she says we could "become friends" if i can prove to her that i've matured since may.

She dumped you, then she actually told you that you talked bad about her, but she will let you be her friend if YOU can prove yourself to her.

I need to rewrite that.

She dumped you, then she actually told you that you talked bad about her, but she will let you be her friend if YOU can prove yourself to her.

The time for self respect is now, Zach. You wouldn't let me talk to and treat you like that, and I like you. I relate to you. I understand you. Yourself respect is not worth her love or time.

I need to rewrite that.

Yourself respect is not worth her love or time.

i have matured in my mind a ton!

Your maturity is not the problem. You are 1 million times more mature then she is. You don't use people or keep them living under false hope.

i just havent been able to show her. please help me with something i could say to her!

Say silence and let her know you rule your life now, not her.

[I wish]

Threads merged again, please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

so i just received a text from my ex girlfriend who has not talked to me in 5 months. over the summer she has been with 2 guys i guess? i tried to not pay much attention to her. one is my buddy and when he talks to me all he says is that she talked about me all the time.. she broke up with me. but i got a text that said "hey! how are you doing?" what should i say to her to sort of get her talking to me again? she said that she "heard" that since the break up i have said crap about her. she says we could "become friends" if i can prove to her that i've matured since may. i have matured in my mind a ton! i just havent been able to show her. please help me with something i could say to her!

She's your ex now, leave each other alone until you've recovered from this break up. The fact that you asked this question sounds like you still have some false hope with her.

[talaniman]

Originally Posted by zacho6124
she said that she "heard" that since the break up i have said crap about her. she says we could "become friends" if i can prove to her that i've matured since may.

If you weren't still hurting, and have false hope, you would be highly insulted. How dare she offer you crumbs on her terms. Keep your dignity, and self respect, by disappearing from her life.

Honestly guy, a real woman would be better don't you think?? Especially if you've matured as you say you have.

You have nothing to prove to her, nothing to talk about.

[chuff]

If you weren't still hurting, and have false hope, you would be highly insulted. How dare she offer you crumbs on her terms. Keep your dignity, and self respect, by disappearing from her life.

I had to spread it, but I as a fellow male am insulted by that. Who in the hell does she think she is that she can treat people, especially people that care for her like that?