[meli93ssa]

Well first I will try and stop her and then I suppose I ll ask her why is she doing it
And I feel bad and maybe scared

[phlanx]

So do you think your parents are also feeling bad and scared?

[meli93ssa]

Maybe I don't know

[phlanx]

You say they love you, so of course they will be feeling scared for you and for themselves.

It does sound like there is a lack of communication on all your parts.

Have you tried talking to your parents about the incident yet?

[meli93ssa]

Before my mum was just about to live the house but I stopped her I talked to her later and she said they will talk tomorrow about the incident when every one is calmed

[phlanx]

Breathing space can and usually is needed, but this space is then filled with paranoia and sense of lost

This feeling will probably stay with you for a while, even after talking to your mom tomorrow, the matter will not be completely sorted out

Hopefully, you will be able to gain a lille understanding, which in itself will help you

As I said before understanding brings peace

Tonight, try to think of ways where you can communicate with your parents

Avoid stating things at them like you are to blame or it is your fault

Instead try to convey how you feel, and asking them how they feel

This is just one way where you can have a calm conversation without it going through the roof in seconds

Does this make sense?

[meli93ssa]

Breathing space can and usually is needed, but this space is then filled with paranoia and sense of lost

This feeling will probably stay with you for a while, even after talking to your mom tomorrow, the matter will not be completly sorted out

Hopefully, you will be able to gain a lille understanding, which in itself will help you

As I said before understanding brings peace

Tonight, try to think of ways where you can communicate with your parents

Avoid stating things at them like you are to blame or it is your fault

Instead try to convey how you feel, and asking them how they feel

This is just one way where you can have a calm conversation without it going through the roof in seconds

Does this make sense?

yes it does and to be honest your very helpful thank you

[phlanx]

You are more than welcome.

A monk taught me this once - when you go to sleep, try to visualize something nice, away from the problems you are having

For me, its building a car in my garage with all new tools, I fall asleep thinking about where the spanners will go, next to the screwdrivers or the socket sets, what car I would build etc

It helps to promote happy chemicals in your brain, so when you drift off to sleep, the brain is surrounded by good thoughts and a better nights sleep is easly achieved

Please, I ask, if you want to shock your parents, do what we used to do - die our hair blue and red, rip holes in our jeans and listen to really bad music at full volume :) Its a lot safer than the alternative

Don't forget, there are people around that are there just to listen to you

[meli93ssa]

Thank you for the instructions and tips you have been the most helpful person at the time once again thank you